I think a lot of people don’t like hysterics. Okay, for women this is somehow forgivable, we have PMS and sometimes it’s not enough... that’s the same thing, but to put it mildly, I don’t respect hysterical men. Especially if he is no longer a child. And if he is already a leader. And if he meets you at work.
Such people should probably be pitied. Because if by adulthood a person has not learned to manage his complexes, he will no longer change. Personally, I try to avoid such people, because they are simply unpleasant to me as individuals.
As a result, I came up with 7 signs of how to identify a hysterical man. Well, how to work with such people? Most likely the list will include everything One point - to ignore and bypass as much as possible.
1 sign
The hysterical man does not accept criticism at all, perceiving it as a personal insult. He does not know how to treat himself and his actions with sarcasm. Any joke on this score seems absolutely unfunny to him and cuts him no worse than a sharp knife to the living.
2 sign
A hysterical man does not know how to take responsibility for his own actions and actions. He will put off making a decision until the last minute and look for someone who can take responsibility.
3 sign
A male hysterical woman does not know how to admit her own weaknesses and mistakes. And considering that everyone has weaknesses and everyone makes mistakes, then a sinless person is, at least, strange. But it is important for a hysterical man to always look A+ and be perfect. Therefore, there are usually 100,500 excuses and reasons, instead of the short phrase “I was wrong, I admit.”
4 sign
A hysterical man brings chaos. If someone runs around on a ship that doesn’t even think about sinking, screaming “Aaaaaaah! Guard! We all die!" - It is he. He will make two hundred out of one small problem. He will involve a bunch of people in the process of solving some strange and unnecessary problems, who will also run around, bump heads and be freaked out by the situation. Typically, these types of generators generate huge letters with completely unstructured text, which contains a lot of exclamation and question marks, bold font, unnecessary emotions and phrases written in capital letters. They have a habit of sending long correspondence to a large number of people without describing what is required, and then sit and wait to see how the situation develops. Chaos usually ensues.
5 sign
A hysterical man completely lacks active listening skills. He will always interrupt you. Moreover, give a lot of reasons why you are wrong, and why it is not necessary to do as you say. In addition, for some reason he does not know how to answer direct questions; in 99% of cases he will answer you about something completely different or floridly bypass the question. Especially if it concerns his competencies and the need to make a decision.
6 sign
Hysterics have a highly developed position of denial. I would even say paranoid. It is always easier to say “no” than to try to look at the situation from a different, unfamiliar angle. They don't like to experiment. At all. If you need to try something new, then you will be overwhelmed with such a bucket of sad but emotional denial that you will want to run away quickly.
7 sign
The hysterical man loves to complain to his mother. Moreover, “mother” is a common noun here. At work, this will be a superior boss or director. The complaint usually comes in the vein that “no one here understands me, but I want the best for everyone.” Moreover, you will most likely get freaked out, because the hysterical man will run around complaining about topics that are not worth a damn. You will consider them business communications between two employees, and then suddenly it turns out that a superior manager is calling you on the carpet to scold you on the subject of “Why are you offending %username% here?”
Ugh. In general, I spoke. All similarities with real persons are purely coincidental.
Maybe there are still some signs that I forgot about?
Do you have these at work? Or maybe you yourself are just that type? :)
Women are usually called hysterical and brawlers. It is believed that they behave inappropriately due to an unsettled personal life, problems in relationships with a partner, and unstable hormonal levels. Any woman's attempt to raise her voice is regarded as a manifestation of PMS or lack of sexual satisfaction. There is undoubtedly some truth in this - the word “hysteria” is translated from Latin as “rabies of the uterus.” However, recent studies by psychologists have proven that for every four hysterical women there is one hysterical man.
Representatives of the stronger sex do not like to talk about their scandalous tendencies. After all, a man will not be able to get away with such an easy and inexplicable reason as... He will have to explain why, during a conversation with his beloved, he broke into a scream or burst into tears. And sometimes he himself doesn’t know the answer to this question. And it’s a shame to admit this hysteria to yourself. Therefore, the man prefers to “forget” about her, pretending that nothing special happened. If the partner remains silent, he will finally become convinced that he is right - the emotional explosion will repeat after some time and more than once. So that you do not have to experience all the delights of your lover’s nervous breakdown, you must know how to react to such a situation in order to nip a man’s attempt to fall into hysterics in the bud.
Why does the second half become the object of male hysteria? Because demonstrating such weaknesses in front of your boss or friends is simply shameful. But the negativity accumulates, emotions seek a way out. Friends can twist a finger at your temple, and the boss can reprimand you or even fire you. And the beloved woman seems to be obliged to be there in sorrow and joy. Therefore, the man addresses his “one-man theater” to her.
The cause of a man's hysteria may be a protest against your point of view, an unwillingness to put up with life circumstances, or simply. During a hysterical attack, a man cannot control his emotions - at this moment he cannot appeal to his conscience and common sense. The hysterical person's face turns red, the veins in the neck swell, and shortness of breath appears. Such a performance is not only detrimental to the nerve cells of the spectator, but also dangerous to the health of the actor himself. If there is a physiological predisposition, during an outburst of emotions, an attack of allergic or bronchial asthma, epilepsy or angina may occur.
Separate type – sentimental brawler. The final stage of hysteria in such a man is necessarily accompanied by crying. Psychologists believe that this behavior is typical of men with a feminine line of behavior. This does not mean at all that your partner is weak-willed and effeminate. Most likely, excessive emotionality is caused by upbringing, the main role in which belonged to the mother. Alternative option: As a child, your man often witnessed family scenes between his parents and over time began to perceive them as the norm.
Both classical hysterics and sentimentalists are distinguished by their tendency to causeless jealousy. Suspicion and mistrust are an ideal reason for another scandal. If you want, even in innocent communication with a colleague on the phone, you can spot signs of betrayal. Jealousy can cause domestic violence, if your hysteric loses control of himself.
Has your domestic tyrant finally decided to raise his hand against you? This situation requires you to take action. Are you ready to endure beatings for rare moments of happiness? Will you be able to give birth and raise a psychologically complete child in an atmosphere of scandals and fights? Give the hysterical man an ultimatum: break up or have a normal relationship without any violence. Don't fall for his apologies and pleas for forgiveness. Leave beatings unpunished - the man will hit you more than once.
The hysteria will not last long if you do not respond to your partner’s attacks. Its goal was to attract your attention and “pump out” emotions - the man wants you to take pity on him, reassure him and follow his lead. If you feel tension while communicating with him, do not show it. If he hits the table with his fist or starts shouting, silently leave the room without reacting to insults and tears. Read interesting book, breathe fresh air on the street, visit Gym. When you return, act as if nothing happened. When a discouraged man starts asking questions about your disappearance, invite him to have a heart-to-heart talk. Say that you intend to resolve emerging issues exclusively in a calm atmosphere, without scandals or hand-wringing. Emphasize the kinship of your souls with your partner - tell him that you also want to work on the relationship, develop it, change it in better side. But in more peaceful ways, without scenes and hassle.
Don't force your man to admit that he is hysterical. Social attitudes prohibit a man from being hypersensitive, vulnerable, and psychologically unstable. Focus on awareness of the very existence of the problem of quarrels in the family, and not on psychological terms.
Hysterical husbands are always dissatisfied with everything, and sometimes it even seems that they do nothing except constant indignation. They mutter and discuss irritating factors all the time.
You don’t even have to look for the reasons for the hysterical husband’s dissatisfaction, because they are in everything - in the borscht or a little or a lot of potatoes, the apartment is cleaned terribly, or rather, not cleaned at all (and if you spent the whole day cleaning up the mess, you’re definitely lying), children are harmful, disobedient boobies, and at work they irritate everyone with their stupidity and unprofessionalism. And this is just the beginning, because a little time will pass, and daily scandals in your family will become the norm.
Types of hysterical husbands
An episodic hysterical husband behaves like an ordinary husband, but only as long as everything goes according to his plan. The main difference between an episodic hysterical husband is an unexpected hysteria, for example, “Well, where are you going? How are you turning,” etc. Such shouts will scare anyone.
The quiet, hysterical husband shows all his dissatisfaction by constantly grumbling. You can, of course, get used to it, but if you draw a parallel with a mosquito, how long can you endure the buzzing of this insect? It’s the same with your husband - your only desire will be to crack him.
A hysterical bloodsucking husband is the most unpleasant type of all the above. Absolutely anything can lead to hysterics - even an incorrectly made bed. And everyone will be guilty of this - both the children and you. and your parents. In general, bloodsuckers simply love hysterics.
A sexy, hysterical husband usually breaks down when he doesn’t have enough sex, which, by the way, he always doesn’t have enough. Why is he angry with his wife, reproaches her for everything and, worst of all, makes her complex and nervous.
What to do?
Let’s say right away that it is unrealistic to change a hysterical husband, because he considers himself absolutely normal.
But, of course, there is always a way out:
1. Look at yourself in the mirror, do your hair, makeup, admire yourself. how beautiful and wonderful you are.
2. Calm down, try to breathe correctly and deeply.
3. Take all your husband’s things out of the closet.
4. Pack clothes in suitcases.
5. Change the lock on the door (with the help of a locksmith, of course), but if you suddenly know how to do it yourself, your husband is not a man in that case.
6. Put your suitcase out the door, lock the apartment, take the children and go to your friend’s or mom’s house to relax.
7. Don’t forget to leave a note on the door saying it’s time to say goodbye.
8. Turn off your mobile phone.
9. In a few days you can return home and file for divorce.
If you've done everything on the list, congratulations! After all, from this very time you are a free person, without such a burden as a hysterical husband!
Your man suddenly begins to scream deafeningly or scream piercingly, depending on the natural timbre of his voice, and at the same time sprays saliva, stomps his feet, slams his fist on the table, throws dishes on the floor, runs out of the room ten times and runs back in, slamming the door. The look is crazy, the speech is slurred, the face is red, the hair is on end. The distinctive feature of this behavior does not attack people; there is no targeted aggression. The scene lasts about half an hour. The name is a typical male hysteria. 1. Strong and passionate
Personalities are emotional, romantic and sentimental, sensitive, but at the same time strong-willed, capable of leading a family, earning money and caring for a wife. IN early childhood They received a strict instruction from their parents: a real man never cries, hides his feelings, is reserved, stern and balanced. How can he be balanced if he is torn apart by emotions from the inside? You have to force yourself and he tightly closes with the armor of self-control the exit to all manifestations of joy, pity, anger and love. He begins to burst from the inside from suppressed energy. He solves serious problems calmly. And he uses all sorts of little things in order to discharge himself with minimal damage to his business, family and self-esteem.
How does the hysteria end?
A strong and passionate man has an idyllic scene: how sweetly the sun shines after a storm. If you have never been rude to him, he feels relaxed and guilty, he comes at you with kisses, apologizes, and especially the proud one, as a sign of reconciliation with his arrogant appearance, allows himself to be fed lunch and thaws out in the process of eating.
2. Strong and smart
A nervous, impressionable and talented person uses hysterics to achieve the goal he has set for himself. He accumulates tension for a long time and vigilantly looks around when it is advantageous for a thunderstorm to break out. Key point: the situation suddenly gets out of control. We need to put everyone in a state of shock and turn the tide of events. The wife demands that her mother be accommodated for a year in a two-room apartment “to look after the child.” The husband is having an awe-inspiring hysteria. The wife gives up her intention in fear.
A typical historical example is Napoleon. He knew already in the morning that today he would trample his cocked hat with his feet foaming at the mouth in front of the formation of soldiers, and therefore demanded to give him the old marshal's beret. By the way, he knew how to create such scenes: he would fall on the floor, kick him, and roll his eyes. Some doctors even decided that he suffered from epilepsy. In fact, he didn’t have any epilepsy, he just felt it too much and strongly. Alexander the Great had similar attacks.
How does the hysteria end?
The strong and smart are satisfied with themselves: the goal has been achieved, and there is no reason to continue the scene. He emerges from the process majestically. He plans to hold the next hysteria in six months so that people don’t get used to them.
3. Weak and quarrelsome
The third type of hysterical men are not devoid of artistry, but are very weak and, due to their weakness, absolutely unrestrained. The cat cried with emotion, but there were no brakes either. This category can be recognized by the persistent habit of yelling with a raised voice on the last syllable, so instead of saying: “No one takes me into account here!” he asks: “No one here takes me into account?!” They throw tantrums for any reason because they are unable to cope with anything in life. This is not a storm of feelings unleashed, but a way of getting rid of negative emotions and the cry of a helpless child.
How does the hysteria end?
The weak one calms down slowly, from time to time bursting into inarticulate cries and groans, sheds a stingy tear and demands that everyone at home apologize to him for bringing him to such a mournful state.
How a smart woman should behave
What to do
Do not contradict under any circumstances. Wait it out. All the same, until he screams, he will not calm down. You can leave the room, but that doesn't always work. What's the point in throwing such a magnificent stage without spectators? After all, he has an artistic temperament!
Male hysteria is safe for others and for the screamer himself. This is not an explosion of aggression or hatred, but an outlet of normal human feelings. If he shouts: “I’ll kill everyone!” this means that he is angry if “I don’t want to live!” It means it’s very painful and difficult for him. Be careful not to let any expensive thing fall into his hands: a plate painted with pheasants and rabbits, a watch, a crystal vase in the heat of passion will be swept to the floor, and then he will be terribly upset.
What not to do
There is no need to demonstratively engage in extraneous activities: wiping dust from furniture, washing dishes or reading a book. Show respect for his feelings and pay attention to him, listen. You can try to shout him down (besides the hysteria of a strong and smart person, his goal is to change the situation, and not just swear) as a kind of shock therapy, but only if you are sure that you will not lose control of yourself and will not say all sorts of nasty things to him in the heat of the moment.
How to prevent hysteria
Try to find opportunities for your husband to regularly express his emotions in a civilized manner: play cards, sing karaoke, go to a restaurant or visit. Sports help many men relax: watch football on TV with him, go out with friends to cheer for your favorite team. Some men are embarrassed to admit their passion for heartbreaking melodramas; love these films yourself, and then, as if yielding to you, he will be happy to watch “soap”.
It just so happens that men don’t cry. Tears, screams, breaking dishes - women can do this. If a man starts yelling and stomping his feet, this is already hooliganism. But in reality, men are people too. And they, too, can have a real hysteria.
Defensive reaction
Often male hysterics are a defensive reaction of the psyche in response to very severe stress. In this case, hysteria is like a valve that allows you to reduce internal pressure and avoid total destruction.
He spent two years building his own business, and everything collapsed overnight; he was going to propose to you, and you invited him to your wedding with someone else...
His reaction can be very violent: he will scream, bang his fists on the table, and hit salad bowls against the wall. In a word, there is not enough adequate. And it looks creepy. But here it is important not to get scared, not to start crying in response, not to get under the hot hand with exhortations or consolations. Step aside and be quiet. Wait until he calms down, and only then can you come up, hug and kiss. Very kind and gentle. If it's appropriate in your relationship, sex can be a good way to calm down.
The power of a woman
For a man to start yelling and spluttering, severe shocks are not at all necessary. If you want, you can drive anyone into hysterics. Two people are guaranteed to do this - the mother and the woman she loves.
Men are logical creatures. They quickly transform their problems into tasks and solve them. But women have an amazing ability to set basically unrealistic goals: “I want you to earn money, but don’t you dare go on business trips!”, “Either me or your work!”, “Either me or your mother!”... He can neither fulfill the conditions nor logically justify why this cannot be done. And you continue to demand, simultaneously threatening to leave and methodically exploiting feelings of guilt: “You always didn’t give a damn about me!” In such a situation, the man begins to scream in despair.
If he does have a tantrum, it is important to bite his tongue immediately. You went too far. There is no need to get even more wound up and continue to sort things out. We need to dwell on the demands and try to understand the man’s logic. Most likely, he refuses to do something because of objective circumstances, and not out of harm. And you need to change something in this life: either your demands, or the form in which these demands are presented. Because you can’t constantly drive a person into a corner.
Scary , it's creepy
Sometimes men become hysterical from fear. Often these are funny fears. He is afraid of injections, afraid to go to the dentist, afraid to fly on an airplane. This happens in suspicious men or in those who like to control everything in their lives. And when it comes to an area in which, by and large, nothing depends on them, they begin to really panic. They begin to behave like unreasonable children: they can start screaming, lie down on the floor and declare that they are not going anywhere. And they can also get drunk...
Don't laugh at him, he's really scared. Treat him like a child. Console, promise to go and buy a toy for an adult boy. And don’t forget that kindness and logic are very effective in such cases.
One-man theater
In addition to hysteria - an instant reaction, there is also hysteria as a way of life. A typical hysterical man does not waste himself on trifles. These are not women’s whims like “Buy me a fur coat.” Such psychotypes choose a wide audience; they need a crowd for their demonstration performances. A crowd of journalists, subordinates, just a crowd. And then the escalation of emotions, screams, and exaltation begin.
At first glance, it looks like a momentary impulse. In fact, this is a well-calculated step, a kind of PR campaign. Politicians, revolutionaries and military leaders skillfully play out such hysterics in order to evoke the desired reaction in the public, and then lead them along.
In everyday life, of course, such things look pitiful and absurd. But if you get such a failed commander, you will have to play the role of the troops. You are required to portray fear, delight, excitement in a timely manner, that is, to give out the expected emotions.
Otherwise, instead of a calculated performance, you can get another hysteria - already uncontrollable.
"A real man
ABOUT! This is the most interesting type of hysterics. Outwardly, men of this type are real machos. Inside there are typical women, in the worst sense of the word. Romantic, sentimental, jealous, they understand women wonderfully, or rather create the illusion of understanding. You want to get married - he will tell you about the wedding. You want a child - he will want it with you. You don't want a child - he will become a convinced childfree. He will look after you beautifully and listen to your monologues for hours.
But as soon as he realizes that you are caught, he will change. He will start banging his fists on the table and yelling. He will dictate the terms: when you come, what to wear, where to work and who to be friends with. And God forbid you disobey him! This is a veiled type of tyrant who, with his hysterics, will achieve one thing - complete control over your life.
There can be only one piece of advice here: at the first manifestation of such symptoms, after the first hysteria, you need to run away from such a man. Quickly and without looking back.
