So, what is being done is being done for the better. What do you need to know for this rule to always work? And in general, how true is this statement?
Of course it works. But not always and not for everyone. It has its own distribution area. In other words, there are those whom life loves and spoils. But how to get among them?
It's no secret that every, even minor, event that happens to us affects our future lives. But, unfortunately, these changes do not always suit us. And if you really want the rule “what is done is done for the better” to work, do not rush to draw conclusions from the situation.
Believe me, the universe doesn’t want to spend a lot of energy on you just to make you feel spiritual comfort. Therefore, the flow of life itself always tries to lead to the shortest and most productive path, to find the shortest road to the goal. The main thing is not to interfere.
If something happens and you are unable to change it, do not waste your vital energy on resistance and frustration. Think: “Everything that is being done has already happened. Is it worth my nerves?" Learn a lesson from the situation and, taking into account the experience gained, move on with your life. And for peace and variety, do something useful for yourself.
Remember, any event is caused by ourselves, our actions, thoughts, aspirations and beliefs. And the brighter and purer the motivation for what is happening, the more favorable the result will be for us. Moreover, no matter how thorny this path will be.
Again, drive thoughts about probable failure and all sorts of doubts away and as far as possible. After all, everything that is being done now is for the better. Any doubt is an opportunity to cling to the negative and plunge into it headlong.
Therefore, during periods of change, it is better to always think about good things on unrelated topics. And if, no matter how hard you think about it, it doesn’t pop into your head, think about what you are doing at the moment. In any case, this will block access to negative thoughts.
You must not only believe that everything is being done for the best, you must accept it for granted.
Let's consider the situation. For example, you love to draw, your mental images are filled with beauty when you take up your brushes. And work is only a means of earning money, including for these same brushes. But over time, you have less and less energy left for creativity. And what will you end up with?
Or you will gradually begin to regard drawing as child's play, and will only occasionally remember it with a slight touch of nostalgia. Or you will enter a phase of dissonance. Life itself does not accept this. This is unnatural. And if you don’t change anything, the situation will begin to change on its own.
Don't be surprised if you get fired. This will only be an offer from life to start doing what you love, or at least change the situation, do at least something.
It is better, as already mentioned, to devote the period of confusion and emptiness to yourself, your dear one. Wake up. YOU are the creator of your own happiness. Take action. Even if you are within four walls and don’t know where to start, START moving forward. Take a relaxing bath, start doing exercises every morning, try some unusual table recipes, don’t forget about walking fresh air. Allow yourself to always look fresh, light and energetic. After all, now you have plenty of time. But remember, during this period your thoughts especially need constant monitoring. No hard feelings about life. No complaints. No nerves. Fate also knows how to take offense.
Of course, in such a situation it is not easy to maintain peace of mind. But the habit of always smiling is the first step towards success. And if now you dare to accept changes, life itself will begin to help you and promote your development in every possible way. And then you will be convinced: what is being done is being done for the better.
Remember, problems are not a disaster, but just another step in the long chain of life. Both joys and sorrows - this is all our life, with its own lessons of overcoming.
Believe me not a single life test fell on us by chance. Whatever is done is aimed at making us better. Everything happens and strives for the better. And the sooner we ourselves learn to turn everything for the better, the easier it will be for us in life.
Never regret what happens. Always remember that everything is truly done for the better. Even in a situation where you yourself are to blame, is there any point in feeling sorry? It is much more important to try to correct or apologize. It's never too late to apologize. And this is also a step for the better. Although now we are not talking about our mistakes, but about life lessons.
So, don't regret what happened. Just try to look at the situation from the outside and understand everything. The thing is, life has a habit of repeating lessons until we learn them. This applies even to small things. For example, as long as we are irritated by lies, we will constantly encounter them. As soon as we understand that no one owes us anything, including telling the truth, and we stop feeling irritated, lies will disappear from our range.
Or maybe it will, but we won’t react to it. Any such change in ourselves is also for the better.
And finally, winning is always nice. And it’s doubly nice when you conquer yourself. After all, whatever one may say, these are the most difficult victories. And if life gives us a chance to overcome ourselves, isn’t that for the best?
Well, what if it’s really hard? Repeat like a prayer " It won't always be this way" Remember a situation where you already came out victorious once. And then you said: " What is being done is being done for the better" It will be so this time too. Do not doubt!
“No matter what is done, everything is for the better” - such a hymn to denial and rationalization. This was invented by those who did not find the moral strength to cope with the challenge of the human situation. A wonderful consolation for events beyond one's control or an excuse for poor choices?
Probably, we want to believe in the harmony and higher meaning of what is happening, inaccessible to us logic and wisdom beyond the limits of consciousness. But it's hard to rely on something you can't control. There are things that happen with varying degrees of regularity, but some are a consequence of choice, including unconscious ones. For example, being in a zone with an increased probability of a particular event is also a choice. And any choice leads to certain consequences - “good” or “bad”.
I'm afraid there is nothing predetermined: scenario, fate, guarantees. It is not easy to accept responsibility for something that has gone wrong that is our fault. This is a difficult moment. But it in itself is a challenge to maturity and a point of growth. How to come to terms with what turned out to be a consequence of choice?
The main goal of Gestalt therapy is to fix the Ego function. That is, to return or replenish the ability to make choices, be responsible for them and at the same time be satisfied with the course of one’s own life. For spending the rest of your days regretting the previous ones is somehow irrational from the point of view of evolution. If we turn to the religions of the world, we will find that one of the common and most important ideas is the idea of humility. Reconcile - be at peace. Do what you need to do, come what may. Some things depend on us, and some don’t.
The starting point is to take the fact that no one knows how life would have flowed had it been decided differently at that moment of choice. This will all remain in the fantasy zone. In reality, there are only consequences that then need to be dealt with somehow. That's all.
The consequences may be different. Joyful - giving a feeling of triumph, victory over circumstances, special luck. Or sad - leading to feelings of guilt, powerlessness, deep regret. You can't ignore unpleasant feelings. You can, with varying degrees of success, suppress them, repress them, or try to get rid of them in some other way, or you can meet them and live with them. In the first case, this is a large expenditure of mental energy, loss of time and stagnation. In another - learning a lesson, even a bitter one, and reaching new level. Having made a so-called mistake, you receive a wonderful bonus - a kind of vaccination against stupidity! And in the light of this experience, many things become clear.
In reality, making the right choice is not so easy. To set priorities correctly, to navigate what has not yet happened (to predict the future), to feel what will be important later... It is not at all easy. I would say - on the verge of the possible. “Following the stars,” hearing the subtlest voice of intuition, trusting it, reading the signs correctly, does not always work out, but only when you are under stress.
Important decisions are always associated with anxiety, and under stress we usually regress and become “stupid.” It’s stupid to feel sorry and reproach yourself for choosing something that seemed important at that moment. At that moment, you were a person to whom this choice seemed the best possible. Then it’s easy to argue that it would be necessary...
It's bad if you don't make a choice at all. More precisely, there is still a choice - to react passively or to transfer responsibility to someone or something. But this, again, is rarely recognized as a choice. Everything that cannot be explained is endowed with an artificial meaning, and fatalism is formed. Lucky in some situations - and a victim of circumstances in others.
In general, gritty realism is not popular. The magical paradigm is much nicer. But life is not for weaklings.published .
Tatiana Martynenko
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness, we are changing the world together! © econet
The principle “everything is for the better” works.
At least I haven’t had a single situation where it didn’t work.
Everything that is taken from you, that is not given, that does not happen as you would like, that you even destroy yourself - all this passes and is replaced by something much more correct and good for you. And then, of course, you can lose this again. And something better comes again.
For example, a sad breakup later turned out to be really right and useful - a much better relationship came. The breakup of the next ones was also beneficial - if there had not been a painful separation once again, then there would not have been much best story Then.
Or a large debt that arose due to a combination of seemingly unfavorable circumstances, and had to be repaid - thanks to it, new projects were built many times faster and not only was the debt paid off, but life also became much easier and more enjoyable, suddenly new opportunities appeared, which wasn't there before.
And at the moment when something happens, you don’t know why this or that situation is better for you - why it’s good that you missed the train, the sale of something you really wanted ended, you didn’t get into university, or ended up in accident.
The path is often very long. It is forgotten what led to what, what the chain was, and where it all began. Or there is not enough awareness to understand and appreciate the full scope of what happened, this entire chain of events from start to finish.
For example, it’s like this for me - several years after the events ended, I now consider all the worst things that happened to be the main benefit for me. It was this that moved me most in an unexpected, but very good direction. I like where I ended up.
There can be a lot of reasons for “bad”, unpleasant events, the same esoteric ones - you spoiled your karma with something, the universe wants you to pass a new lesson, fail an old lesson, you wanted something too much, you were clinging or afraid, or you just secretly wanted precisely this himself - this destruction and change.
But the fact remains a fact. The most correct and effective thing is to perceive any situation “all for the better” and with humor.
If, of course, you are adequate, draw conclusions, take responsibility, work, improve your life, develop and move forward.
And don’t just slide into a hole, saying “everything is for the best” - this all may not work.
At the same time, it is not easy to be in the situation. It is often very painful when you are inside this tornado, you experience here and now emotions about the loss, a lack of understanding why this is happening to you, because just yesterday it was good. You just need to wait out this moment and continue to act actively in all directions, look for solutions and comprehend what is happening. It is possible that they want to tell you from above, what lessons you have not learned, or you need to radically change something in your life.
I began to consciously apply “everything is for the better” as a principle for processing situations, and not just as a folk saying.
This is the fifth rule - “The ability to give thanks for everything: both good and bad”.
I will quote it here in its entirety:
“By giving thanks for what is good, we strengthen it, and by giving thanks for what we consider bad, we transform it into something positive.
All non-positive events are low-frequency, and gratitude is a high-frequency vibration.
Thus, by giving thanks for the bad, we do not interact with the negativity and do not allow it to take root in our lives. And if we learn to be grateful for events that we don’t like, then over time we will be able to realize that through the bad, good always comes.
When we are not ready to accept the positive (categorical or emotionally dependent on what we are betting on), we are given the opportunity to cleanse ourselves through troubles. And this is not masochism at all, but the understanding that we are given a chance to realize something that we did not understand before. After all, God has no “bad” and “good”; God has everything that is useful; it is important that it is in its place and fulfills its function.
Seraphim of Sarov said that it is very good for an ordinary person, unconscious before death, to be sick for a couple of years, because the soul is cleansed through the fact that claims, attachments, and condemnations of the people around him are removed, and thus the person falls into higher frequency vibrations. We are also given troubles, indicating where we need to change our attitude. And after the changes, become more successful, rich and happy.”
All his rules are about being conscious, positive, grateful, or simply smooth (without distortions), i.e. maximum effective perception of reality.
Alexander also often says that In some situations, good things can only come to us through bad things..
“Depending on what level you are at, you will be given:
— or false information (in order for you to do the right thing);
— or information that you are ready for (and you will DEFINITELY need to act!);
- or the information you need, but if you DO NOT use it, then good things will come to you through bad things.”
Here's another piece of advice from Alexander Palienko:
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“If you want to be rich and successful, and get good things not through bad things - spend more energy on humor when the situation does not give you pleasure. Make jokes about it.
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Because if we begin to condemn what we used in our lives yesterday and that was normal for us, we destroy today: “yesterday’s” becomes of poor quality and ineffective for us. However, we had it because it matched our energy.
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When we come to some sad village and we don't like everything about it, we need to start thinking creatively about what we would like it to be like. This “creative” will save us, so that we do not take other people’s problems upon ourselves and do not work off this village. For example, they did not restore roads in it with their energy.
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Condemnation is rejection. By condemning, we finance changes, which means that in our life there will be “this village and its broken roads,” while everything will be fine in the village itself.”
And more from Alexander:
« Happiness is a state in which you remain regardless of what happens. This is an emitter that shapes events.
If you begin to depend on events, then it is not easy for you to be happy.
A happy person is one who is happy no matter what happens, and then, in his likeness, corresponding events begin to occur for him.
Much has been said about the transition to a new dimension. We measured everything by length, width, height. And now what comes to the fore is how much Love there is in this.
We need to understand that the most dangerous thing now is information. Because even if we talk about love, but at the moment we talk about love, we don’t have love, we push people into an even greater state of fear.
And this means when we read literature in which we need to do very well and efficiently in order to be happy, where the most precise events that can lead us to happiness are described, but the internal state of the person who gave this information is not included , then this information, it always requires fullness, takes our vital energy in order to be realized, and the future is always realized on emotions, which means the first thing that is done is our emotions are activated - no matter what, and then through the bad the good begins to come.
The Ecclesiastes says that “knowledge casts one into despondency,” but it does not say why. There is only one reason - knowledge should always be less than love. Or there should always be more love than knowledge.
When there is more love, then love harmonizes knowledge and brings us to a state of happiness. When we have a lot of knowledge, we, without love, cannot harmonize the structure of this knowledge, we become arrogant and say “we know more than you,” and what to do in these situations. Or we become discouraged because we can’t even imagine how we can make this world happy.
So, any information always requires a supply of love in order to structure and harmonize it.
If we do not have a reserve of love, we have more knowledge, then they take advantage of our life and do not enter into life correctly in order to be realized here in physics.
And it turns out that when we read empty books, even about very good things, they lead to troubles and problems in our lives.
The Bible says “speak out of abundance of feelings” because feelings and emotions shape our future.
If you speak and write correctly, but there is no inner feeling, the state that you experience, then these words will only create troubles, problems, difficulties for other people who read it, because they will begin to be attracted to what would it was happening. They dont have emotional state to produce this in your life, and this requires energy. Where does energy come from? From health, from business, from family relationships.”
The benefits of difficult situations for us
Different unexpected and unwanted situations give us a lot:
— They increase their capacity—the ability to lose more and receive more, i.e. move to the next level. This means that in the future we will get a chance for larger changes in life. It is perfectly.
- Train the spirit effective attitude to life. Stimulates thinking, awareness, change, learning to switch quickly. It’s like a simulator; without it, illness will begin, muscles will atrophy, and strength will go away. Everything in life will never be perfect. But the good news is that starting from a certain level of spiritual and material upgrading, problems will turn into simply interesting tasks, fear will turn into curiosity, excitement.
- They provide an opportunity to claim greater power. . Spirit and strength are basic concepts in stalking (Castaneda, etc.)
“They throw us into major changes, give us the opportunity to get them in a rush, very quickly, if before that we were afraid for a very long time or did not find time for them. But relaxing and accepting everything is one of the most difficult moments.
Esoterics and psychology
I believe in both esotericism and psychology and try to combine them. The practice of accepting the situation as it is and accepting everything for the best works in both interpretations.
Esoterics:
Gratitude, calmness, acceptance, positivity, humor raise the frequency of vibrations. High frequency aligns everything - what is happening, the future, karma, and forms new ones good events. By staying on a low-frequency wave, you stimulate the attraction of new bad events.
Sometimes good things can't come to you except through bad things.
What is happening “bad” (and it can only be so in your current perception) is usually always compensation- for the past or the future. For what was wrong, incorrect in your past action or perception, or for your not being ready to perceive current information, for not being ready for change, growth, for the lack of your energy to build the right future that is correct for you now.
The universe, God, has no duality - there is no black and white, bad and good, everything is equal, fair. Everything is to your advantage in this current situation.
Treating everything as a game is the most correct state. Upgrade as a character from level to level.
The Universe is insisting that you go through some situation, learn a lesson, change your perception of the situation and behavior. If you don’t get through it now, you’ll encounter the same thing again.
Remove categoricalness, be flexible in accepting situations, and do not react overly emotionally. And then there will be no diseases that could be caused by these psychosomatic reasons. Alexander Palienko often says that at the head of all problems is haste. The desire for everything to be the way I want it right now, as quickly as possible. From haste comes categoricalness and other emotional and energetic imbalances.
Psychology:
Accepting a difficult situation as it is allows you to look at the situation you are in truthfully. Perhaps somewhere you should work on important resources - Work, Economy, Image, Family.
When we are in internal dissonance - we try to pass one thing off as another, we often end up in some kind of accident, unpleasant situation, because... everything inside is aimed at solving this dissonance, and such “turmoil” occurs.
If you solve situations based on your internal locus of control - relying as much as possible on what you yourself can do right now to solve the situation so that you feel better, then such an attitude and a successful solution straightens the locus more and more. And straightening the locus, finding a way to solve problems that is accompanied by maintaining and increasing self-esteem, gratitude and respect for people and situations - all this then affects all subsequent situations very favorably, and even creates good situations.
Your energy, all your messages, your communication become less hungry, looking for someone to blame. And then you automatically become more pleasant to everyone around you and to yourself too - people intuitively perceive you better, as stronger, and value you higher. Self-esteem is still growing.
You focus more on the fact that “okay, let’s assume that everything is for the best, but what exactly should I do now?” instead of “This is all terrible, I don’t want it, who’s to blame for this?”
Humor and ease of approach to situations make us more charming; gratitude, separation of boundaries, and internal locus make our importance higher in the eyes of other people.
My story yesterday
This is not the first time I notice that when I try to talk about something on a blog, then some kind of rudeness comes to me that was not there before. It’s as if the universe is saying, “You write about this so easily, come on, if you put your nose into such a situation, will you be able to follow those wonderful positive rules that you write about.” By the way, it dips quite lightly, but compared to ordinary life it is noticeable.
That’s why I don’t like to write about something in the spirit of “I learned it, I’m doing it this way now, do everything the way I think,” but sometimes, of course, it slips through, and then it’s as if they immediately give the situation to test.
Yesterday I wrote a draft of this post and went with my child to Saigon to get new passports. And there, early in the morning, in a crowded and seemingly safe park, where my grandparents were playing sports around me, my favorite Kindle e-reader was snatched out of my hands in a very unpleasant way.
In general, the universe is like this with popcorn - yeah, I’m ready to apply the principle, well, go ahead and apply it) And I’ve never had anything stolen from me in my life. And what to do if nothing can be done? I sit and think that everything is for the best, but in the first half hour of the situation I am emotional, I cannot come to terms with it and accept it. It’s angry that everything could have been smooth and successful on this trip, but it wasn’t. That everything is usually fine - why and why such an out-of-the-ordinary event, it seems like I didn’t break any particular rules?
Then, of course, I imagined that if they asked me - what are you ready to lose now, if you definitely need one of the things in your hands - your phone, your child’s, a bag with documents and everything, a backpack with other documents or a Kindle ?) Of course, Kindle is the least evil. If he had stolen the bag, I would not have been able to calmly go and pick up the passports; a long story would begin with their recovery. Then I just remembered how Alexander Palienko said “through the bad comes the good.” I remembered how I recently lost my favorite expensive sports jacket, but I took it as a hint that I needed to buy something new, and indeed, I love the new one much more, and I am very happy about this replacement, even though I had to invest financially. Gradually it let go.
What am I talking about - not for the first time I come to the conclusion that you have to be very careful with your self-confidence. When you think that you have learned your lesson, that you are the smartest, that you are ready for anything, and that you are teaching others how to live, this is very thin ice. And it's not just about blogging.
I’ll write all this now, and something else will come)
But I, as a researcher, describe the principles that are most interesting to me, and may be interesting to others.
Plus no matter what happens
It all started when an acquaintance sent me a short therapeutic fairy tale (the author is listed at the end), and I decided to write my thoughts on this topic.
« Matthew's principle.
She remembered a joke that a friend told her the other day.
A new Russian came to the store to hand over a New Year's garland.
- Does not work? - the seller asks him.
- Why? “It really works,” he answers.
- What's the matter then?
The buyer sighed and replied:
- Not happy.
That’s how it was with her: everything seemed fine, but nothing made her happy. And it’s strange, but with each passing month the problems only accumulated.
First, a pipe in the bathroom burst and flooded the neighbors below. Then they scratched the fender of her jeep. Then a friend’s puppy, while they were drinking tea in the kitchen, ruined her new Italian shoes. Well, when a painting suddenly fell in the middle of the night and almost hit her, SHE realized that she had clearly messed up somewhere.
When she told her colleagues about this in the morning, marketer Sveta just shrugged:
-Matthew's principle, dear.
- In terms of? – SHE didn’t understand.
- Well, the Bible says: “...to him who has, more will be given to him, and he will have abundance; but whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.”
-Who will take it?
- Well, who-who? “Like a little girl,” Sveta answered and she raised her eyes to the sky.
- So what should we do?
Sveta sighed:
- Plus.
- What? – SHE didn’t understand.
- All! - she answered. - Both good and bad.
SHE would have forgotten about this strange principle, but after a couple of minutes the guard said that the second wing had been scratched. And then she decided that it was worth trying this Svetkin law... Therefore, when at lunch the director criticized her new project, she calmly replied:
“That’s fortunate,” and left the office.
I added it.
Then I decided to do something nice for myself - I went to my favorite cafe. 10 minutes later the secretary called: “Let's go back. The boss decided that one of the competitors was interested in your project, so he urgently put it into development.”
Until the end of the week, SHE answered all minor problems: “Counted,” “Plus,” “Fortunately.” And with a creaking heart she accepted the larger ones: “Well, good, and this is in the piggy bank,” “Everything is for the better.”
And what’s strange is that in some incomprehensible way this principle of Matthew worked. Because somewhere was taken away, but at the same time some new opportunities opened up. And where SHE did not expect at all.
And when Misha suddenly decided to leave her... she wasn’t even surprised.
– Do you really care that I’m packing my things now? – he asked indignantly.
“I don’t give a damn,” SHE answered, “But you are for a civil marriage, you are not ready for children and you don’t even want to introduce me to your friends.” Then I have a question for myself: “Why do I need you like that, if I’m for a relationship, I want children and usually the life of the party?” Therefore, your departure, Misha, is fortunate.”
He went nuts from such words and even stopped packing his things, but SHE already began to help him, pulling out the second suitcase...
Sveta was right: Matthew’s principle worked, and now no one cut off pieces of what she had. On the contrary, where there was little, there was an increase from somewhere. If problems arose, then as a lesson or reminder: do not do bad things to others - he will definitely return. But still there was more good. Many times more. It’s just that whoever notices what he already has will be given and it will increase.”
Veronica Kirilyuk
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Every person has heard at least once in his life: “Everything that is done is done for the better.” Or in this version: “Everything God does is for the best.” People usually hear this phrase from their mothers or grandmothers as children, but they do not think about the truth of this statement. They remember, and so their relationship with this folk wisdom ends, or, rather, is interrupted exactly until the time when they have to independently enter the battlefield with life. And then they will be able to answer the question of how much God arranges human life for the better. In the meantime, as modern children grow up, we will look at the interpretation of the phrase “Everything that is done is done for the better” in various philosophical and religious traditions.
Christianity
Why are Christians convinced that God does everything for the better? Because, from the point of view of believers, everything in life is either a reward or a punishment (test). God tests man with punishment, and God's servant becomes better. Therefore, one way or another, everything that is done is done for the better. If a person believes in God, then in any case he wins: happiness falls on him - he enjoys life, he suffers - he becomes better, morally purer and generally closer to the Lord.
Indeed, what could be desperately bad in earthly life if it is only a prelude to heavenly life? Everything plays into a person’s hands in one way or another. Therefore, one can even say: “Everything that is done leads to the better.” Yes, but this opinion had objections, first of all, from common sense. Voltaire spoke on his behalf.
Voltaire (1694 - 1778)
The 18th century French philosopher wrote the book Candide, or Optimism. In this absolutely beautiful and infinitely wonderful work, Voltaire ridicules, among other things, metaphysics, especially the optimism of Leibniz, the quintessence of which can be considered famous quote: “Everything is for the best in this best of all worlds.” In the philosophical story of the French philosopher, there are two main characters - Candide and his teacher Pangloss. The story is structured in such a way that the heroes are faced with all sorts of adventures and trials, but Pangloss never loses heart and constantly repeats: “Everything is for the better.” He says this even when he is left without an eye as a result of misadventures.
Arthur Schopenhauer (1788 - 1860)
Voltaire died in France, 10 years later A. Schopenhauer was born, and, strangely, he also did not like Leibniz and his “pink” optimism. And in revenge he came up with his own aphorism: “This world is the worst of all possible worlds” - implying that everything here is changing only for the worse. Why is that? Because reality, according to the German philosopher, is controlled by the evil and ruthless World Will, its task is only one - to reproduce in human beings and thus exist forever.
In the world of A. Schopenhauer, existence has only one content - suffering. A person is locked in it, he is a prisoner of life. The tragedy of human existence is that it is not followed by any otherworldly continuation. The life task of a person is interpreted by A. Schopenhauer as an awareness of one’s slavery to being and the adoption of a decision on the purposeful destruction of the will to live (another name for the World Will). Based on this, Schopenhauer had a favorable attitude towards both suicide and mortification, because the weaker the human body, the less will to live it has. The ideal death for the hero of philosophy A. Schopenhauer would be death from hunger in utter poverty. So it goes.
The reader will probably be interested to know how the venerable Mr. Philosopher himself lived. There is no need to worry about him, he lived well: he ate well, slept well. He was very careful about his health and, according to A. Camus (French philosopher of the 20th century), A. Schopenhauer could talk about suicide while sitting at the dinner table.
When the first irrationalist was asked why he did not follow his own instructions, he replied that sometimes a person’s spiritual fervor is only enough to show the path, but he no longer has enough strength to follow it. A witty answer, no doubt about it. This is how Schopenhauer invented an alternative to the popular wisdom that says: “Everything that is done is done for the better.”
Jean-Paul Sartre (1905 - 1980)
It's time to show your cards. Behind the formulation examined here lies ordinary fatalism. Even those who are not particularly keen on philosophy know this term. Fatalism means the predetermination of everything that happens to a person in the world. Accordingly, such a worldview forms a person submissive to fate. It is this type of person who believes that everything is done for the better.
Fatalists are opposed by voluntarists. The latter believe that there is no predetermination, everything depends on the willpower of a person (hence the name). Existentialist philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre belonged to such people. He simply could not believe that God does everything for the better, since in his worldview system God died. The death of the Almighty happened already in the 19th century, Nietzsche announced it.
J.-P. Sartre argued that there is no predetermination in man. He is completely responsible for himself, he is his own personal “project”, and there are no higher powers above him. He's the only one. God, according to Sartre, did not die without a trace and not painlessly for man. As an inheritance to his son, the Almighty left a “hole in the soul”, which a person will have to fill during his life and thereby become successful.
Buddhism
Let's take a break from the West and turn to the East. For Buddha, there was only one predetermination - this is the dependence of a person on his actions. An ordinary person lives in samsara, i.e. in a constant cycle of birth and death. We remind you that, according to Buddhism, a person is reborn again and again until he reaches nirvana (from Sanskrit - “extinction”) - liberation from the endless circle of rebirths and, accordingly, the suffering associated with them.
The existing world is filled with suffering. And, in principle, nothing good awaits a person if he does not realize the truth that life is suffering, this is the first step towards liberation. Then we should learn other “noble truths”: the desire to live gives rise to suffering; it is possible to achieve a state of complete indifference to what is happening - this is called nirvana; The middle road leads to nirvana, which runs between asceticism (mortification of the flesh) and hedonism (the desire for constant and unbridled pleasure). Thus, if the Buddha said that everything that is not done is done for the better, his quotes could sound like this: “You will achieve nirvana only if you realize: life is suffering, you need to give up your desires and stand on middle way"; “If you are already on the path of enlightenment, then everything is for the best.”
Is it worth blindly submitting to fate, God or chance (God-Chance)?
The Buddhist “middle way” can be quite easily applied to Everyday life. Fatalism and voluntarism are facets of life. Everyone chooses for himself who he is - a puppet in the hands of higher powers or a creature endowed with will and capable of deciding his own destiny and being its master.
Fatalism is quite suitable for someone who does not want to decide anything, but prefers to go with the flow, and he can say: “Everything God does is for the best.” True, fatalism can be different; it can express a certain thinking after the fact. For example, a person struggled with fate all his life, and then submitted to it, and he considers his entire life path as the fulfillment of a higher predestination.
Voluntarism, on the contrary, is for those who do not want to surrender to the mercy of God or fate.
Thus, depending on the choice of the side in this dispute, a person decides for himself whether the statement placed in the title of the article is true or not.
A small bonus for readers who do not know Latin, but would like to show off some expression. So, the phrase “whatever is not done is done for the better” in Latin sounds like this: Omne quod fit, fit in melius.
Failures happen to anyone. Some people endure them steadfastly, while other people get very upset, they give up and lose the desire to do anything. If you belong to the second category, this publication is just for you. We are firmly convinced that everything that is done is for the better. Try to pull yourself together and see the good in every situation.
Every failure is a colossal experience
No person succeeds without the experience of failure. And even if everything in his life is going great from birth, the very first failure will deprive such a lucky person of vitality. If you periodically encounter difficulties, you should thank fate. Now you know how to solve many problems - you are not afraid to move on. Difficulties strengthen us, and hardly anyone will deny this.
The most successful people have this experience
Look at the rich, famous and talented people. It often seems to us that everything is wonderful and smooth in their lives. But just spend one evening reading the biographies of those who seem lucky to you. You will be surprised to discover the obstacles they had to overcome to achieve success. Many of these people went bankrupt repeatedly and started from scratch, sat without work for years, and became objects of ridicule. Some of them lost loved ones or underwent serious treatment. There is not a single person in life whose life would be ideal and absolutely happy. Remember: if others can overcome difficulties, you can too.
Another failure. Your actions?
Something unpleasant happened again and you are ready to deal with it in the usual ways? It could just be despondency and doing nothing, a desire to endlessly feel sorry for oneself, or attempts to cry into someone’s vest. Or do you withdraw into yourself, start eating failures, washing them down with alcohol? We know very well: none of those methods work. They don't help, they only make things worse. Perfect option knock bad thoughts out of your head - give your body a task. Play sports, do hard physical work, go on a hike. Give your brain the opportunity to free itself, drive away all thoughts from yourself and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Stop expecting instant results
If you want to achieve something and constantly don’t get what you want, stop and think: perhaps you want to get something in an instant that takes a whole year to achieve? In those circumstances that depend only slightly on you, do not set strict limits for yourself. There is no need to say: “I work well, so I will be promoted next month.” In this case, it is not only you who decide. Tell yourself, “I worked great this month. Next time I will work even better so that the boss has reasons to promote me when he needs a deputy.” By formulating your expectations in a completely different way, you do not set limits for your brain, violate them, and become disappointed.
Sometimes a small dream is more important than a big one
This point has something in common with the previous one. If you set yourself a goal to lose 20 kg, then high probability this is the road to nowhere. The long-awaited result does not come, failure happens again. Break your dream into several small ones, start with the desire to lose 5 kg and tighten up some part of your body a little. In just a month, you will be able to check the “done” box next to such a goal - then you can safely set the next one. One small step at a time, your goal will be achieved - and no unnecessary frustration.
Find a saving hobby
If you are a calm person, you will need something that causes a surge of emotions, a surge of adrenaline. For example, try rope jumping. If trouble happens in your life again, just go and get another boost of energy. Such a shake-up will give you the strength to survive the trouble and move on.
If there are already a lot of turmoil in your life, choose something opposite for yourself - try learning the art of calligraphy. When you need to feel sorry for yourself and get upset, you will calmly sit over your notebook and write beautiful letters. This not only calms and distracts, but also helps you acquire an additional useful skill. There may be many options for hobbies, but the essence is the same: your life should not revolve around the same problems - dilute every day with new colors.
Our mistakes are our path to a better life
Only those who do nothing make no mistakes. Remind yourself often that only through trial and error can you truly find your path. And on this path you cannot do without defeats, problems, and troubles. They are the ones who make you the warrior who will definitely win a significant victory in the future.
