The questions you will find in this article will help you get to know yourself better. By trying out different situations and asking yourself the right questions, you can discover thoughts and patterns in behavior that you usually miss. Grab a notepad and pen and let's get started.

Know yourself.

1. Who are you?

As luck would have it, nothing comes to mind. The question is so broad that it even causes irritation. We cannot just look inside ourselves; psychological mirrors usually help with this. The psychological mirror is clever man(ideally a therapist) to guide you. But if there are none nearby, then the right questions will replace them. And also a pen and paper to catch those thoughts and feelings that can be very well disguised and go unnoticed for a long time.

2. What is the meaning of life? What is love? Who are you?

These questions don't get a bad rap because they're incorrect. They are simply not broken down into more precise pieces, so they are difficult to process. The question of who we are needs to be divided so that it is easier to digest. Not “Who am I?”, but “Who am I at work, in relationships, with friends, children?”

3. What happened to you as a child?

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The question seems ridiculous, but, unfortunately, it is not. Almost everything that we are today is the result of behavioral patterns established in childhood (and safely forgotten). Children, due to their mentality, cannot fully understand the characteristics of their own psyche. We live the first 10 years blindly before we even learn to understand our motives and emotions. Now is the time to go back and rethink them.

Freud's theory is overrated, discredited and considered incorrect, you might argue. In some key areas this is true. But Freud's basic idea is considered undeniable and definitely true in psychology: the unconscious and childhood largely determine the choice of partners, sexual preferences and moral principles. Therefore, there is nothing left but to work with this difficult material.

4. What is shown in this picture?

This is a card from an association test developed by Swiss psychologist Hermann Rorschach. The idea is to show you something vague, uncertain, and then your imagination fills in those vaguenesses with its own associations, while at the same time releasing some of your repressed fears, expectations, desires. People with hidden aggression will see hostility, scandal. People suppressing sexual desires, - vagina. What do you see?

5. Continue with the following sentences:

• All men are men at heart...
• When you get to know them better, all women...

A favorite technique of psychologists is to ask you to quickly, without thinking, complete an unfinished sentence. We will not be able to fully control our unconscious, and therefore we will discover some important attitudes that we usually suppress. In the process of self-discovery, you will most likely be scared by some things. But that's okay, we're all very weird.

6. Draw your family on a piece of paper

Draw parents, brothers and sisters, a house, the sun, a tree. This is not a strictly scientific method, but it does suggest certain thoughts.

• The one you drew next to you is closest to you.
• The one who is at the greatest distance from you is emotionally far from you.
• By the size of the figure depicting you, you can tell whether you have high or low self-esteem.
• Home is an extension of you, your ego. Is it in good condition?
• Windows characterize the degree of your sociability. Does your house have a door? Do you allow people into your life?

7. Are you optimistic about humanity and the future of the planet?

8. Did you sleep well last night?

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We are inclined to deny that there is any connection between the answers to these two questions, attributing all our thoughts about the high to impartial rational calculation. But we must accept the fact that to some extent our thoughts are influenced by our physical state: how we are, what we ate for lunch, how long ago we were hugged. In this sense, despite big brain, we are not as far removed from babies as we once were.

9. What do you blame your parents for?

Why do you think they were the way they were? What pressured them and what difficulties did they experience? What can a good friend tell you about them?

Of course, your parents may take most of the blame for your failures. But shifting responsibility prevents you from better understanding what is happening in your life. Your parents were in the same position in relation to their parents and also cannot be fully responsible for their mental characteristics. What if we start thinking about the feelings of our parents, who, oddly enough, are also victims?

10. Let's say you're traditional sexual orientation. Have you ever wanted to touch the body of someone of the same gender as you?

Sigmund Freud made a brilliant discovery: much remains in the unconscious because of our own disgust or, as he called this phenomenon, resistance. The unconscious contains those feelings and desires that challenge our comfortable view of ourselves. But the price for comfort is high: it is difficult to get to the bottom of the causes of anxiety and neuroses. So we need to come to terms with our endearing quirks and contradictions.

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People we tend to find attractive aren't just for objective reasons (because they're friendly, you can talk to them about politics, or they like sports like you). But also because they bring with them problems and difficulties that are especially attractive to us. Most of us go through the same suffering, which is usually associated with the suffering and experiences experienced in childhood.

12. How exactly does your partner irritate you?

Don't just blame the other person for their shortcomings, such as being distant or overly sensitive. We must admit that, on the contrary, it is precisely these shortcomings that attract us. We look for them to reproduce the pattern of dissatisfaction we learned in childhood.

In general, in relationships we look not for what gives us the most pleasure, but for what seems familiar and close. Understanding the nature of this driving force will help us learn to empathize with ourselves and be more understanding towards our partner. After all, how does he know that we find him attractive in part because he can upset us?

13. Write down five qualities of a partner that you really find difficult to live with.

A good partnership is possible not so much between two healthy mature people (there are not so many of them on our planet), but between two crazy people who are lucky enough to find a safe place for the other person within themselves, among their relative madness.

14. How do you feel when you start to like someone?

You may feel depressed and start to bother this person or, conversely, try to run away from the admirer (“Why does he/she have such bad taste?”). This is a typical response from a person who does not know how to love himself, and about half of them are like that (mainly because the people who are most important to us in the past were not interested in us). Start resisting suspicions about yourself. At least in order not to dump them with rage on the person who shows interest in you.

15. What is the main problem in your relationship with your mother?

16. What is the main problem in your relationship with your father?

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These questions may sound like clichés, but it takes time for their true significance to emerge. Spend, say, one hour answering each of the questions in writing. If you are honest, you will experience not the most pleasant emotions: sadness, anger, resentment. But in order to move on, you need to deal with your grievances and experiences.

17. What did you learn about relationships from your parents?

Humanity is experiencing unprecedented growth in terms of technological progress: we are learning more and more effectively transferring our knowledge. But we have not made nearly as much progress in the emotional sphere. Because we do not sufficiently realize that we reproduce the negative behavior patterns that we acquire in childhood. adult life. Try to recognize yours before letting them out.

18. What slightly unhealthy, weird things do you find attractive in a partner?

Do your parents have these character traits? According to the theory of repetition compulsion from psychoanalysis, we are all drawn to problematic things that we encountered as children. This does not mean that we will repeat all the actions that will lead to emotional trauma. In some cases, on the contrary, we will avoid every aspect associated with this experience and thus continue to remain attached to it.

19. Make a list of people who really attract you.

Have you ever experienced, even fleetingly, sexual attraction of any kind towards each person on this list? And did this attraction bring any difficulties with it, no matter what the reason (perhaps this person had a date, or he you, or it made you doubt your sexual orientation)? The reasons for such excitement are always hidden within ourselves.

20. If you assessed yourself impartially, what would you warn a friend about if he were thinking about a relationship with you?

People can tell a lot about themselves and their problems. After all, in fact, we do not need those who are completely free from any problems or shortcomings. We need people who can explain their problems and how they cope with them.

21. Explain what you think is happening in this picture?

It's not clear what's going on in this picture because the image is (intentionally) vague and ambiguous. Therefore, everything you say comes from within. The details you add and the story you tell reflect the state of your inner world. Especially if you are absolutely sure that you understand what is shown in the picture, and you persistently prove it. This image is a test that psychologists use to evaluate your psychological defense mechanism, projection.

22. What is shown here?

Another controversial image. Here you can see many stories: a mother and her sick child, a wife who kills her husband moments before the kiss. Write what you think is happening here. Then ask a friend to do the same. Discuss what aspects of your life and personality you, without knowing it, are projecting into the picture.

23. Write what you will answer to the phrase “I’m very sorry that we splashed your clothes, although we tried very hard to avoid the puddle”?

Your answer can be used to judge your attitude towards disappointments. Typically, there are three options:

• we get angry, we go into a rage;
• we don’t go into a rage because of an internal sense of shame that prevents us from reaching the extreme point, even when there is a reason for it;
• we do not fly into a rage because we think that other people's reactions will be violent and unpleasant if we express our dissatisfaction.

24. How would other people react if you explained to them how you feel?

As children, we form a belief about what will surely happen if we open up about our feelings. Since people often turned away from us, we learned to hide our “bad” thoughts. And at first glance we may seem obedient and friendly, but you just have to look deeper...

To become a mature person, you need to understand the basis of self-knowledge: the world of childhood is not the whole world. This is one part of it, although it has a significant influence, from which we could not escape at the time. But, fortunately, we have become more eloquent and resilient than when we were five years old. Take courage and express your feelings.

25. What weaknesses do you have (or could you have) as a parent?

It is very difficult to imagine the possible disadvantages, especially if we truly want to be loving and kind parents. Nevertheless, we will have shortcomings, and they can be divided into two groups:

• recreated according to the type of unhealthy behavior patterns from their own childhood;
• an overreaction to unhealthy childhood behavior patterns that have influenced our own behavior patterns.

26. Name three sexual scenarios that particularly excite you.

Sexual fantasies can be interpreted as an attempt to recreate what causes us problems or is unavailable in the world outside of sex. So, for example, a uniform can be attractive because people in uniform seem strict and instill fear in us. Or we want to be seen and heard in public because our parents were overly well-behaved prudes. - these are small utopias that tell us about problematic parts of our biography.

27. What unusual sexual attractions do you have?

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Everyone has a fear of being (or appearing to be) a pervert. It's part of what makes us civilized. However, self-knowledge includes the recognition that the unconscious is by its nature completely flawed and is not a cause for alarm. We have extremely strong censorship mechanisms that 99.9% of the time prevent any of this from being implemented. At the same time, we can explore without fear what is hidden within us and affects our lives.

28. When did you cry or want to cry as an adult?

Most tears in adulthood are caused not by pain, but by the sight of something incredibly beautiful and close (reconciliation between father and son, the sudden generosity of a stingy person, beautiful garden). We remind ourselves what we want this one to be, and we feel sad that we so rarely see it like that.

29. Write down the five most important things in your life. How much time do you devote to them?

There is a huge difference between what we say we value and what we ultimately do. Ironically, we don't devote enough attention, time, and resources to the things we care about most. It is very important to realize this. Try to reduce this difference.

30. What things do you often buy, even though it doesn't bring you much joy?

We believe advertising, which, among other things, masterfully convinces us of what we should want. It's no wonder that we often have things that don't bring us any satisfaction, but only boredom and anxiety: clothes that gather dust in the closet after one outing, cars that don't justify their high price, and so on. We must monitor not only our expenses, but also the pleasure (say, on a scale from 1 to 10) that our purchases bring us.

31. What are you trying to say with your clothes?

Any clothing can be equated to the uniform of a certain category of people. It reflects who we see ourselves as and what group we belong to. In addition, our appearance can provide important information about some of our anxieties. What are you trying to protect yourself from with clothing?

32. Name three works of art that mean a lot to you.

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Often we love in art what we miss in our real life. Our taste is evidence of some need. For example, we like peaceful pictures because we are always in a hurry. Or carefree music, because we feel a lot of restrictions in our lives. Taste reflects not only who we are, but also how we would like to see ourselves.

33. What is your biggest regret?

We regret something so often. After all, sometimes in life you have to make important decisions without having any idea what you will face, for example, who to marry or whom to marry, where to live, what profession to choose. We have to go blind, and this is not our fault. We must learn to share our regrets and experiences. This is the only way to feel less lonely.

34. What are you slightly addicted to?

Alcohol, shopping, cigarettes, porn, arguments... Addiction cannot be strictly defined as an attachment to one specific substance, this concept is much broader. - this is a feeling of a strong need for something, and the cause is most often a serious problem in some area of ​​our life. Therefore, there is no need to focus on the substance or action that causes addiction. Focus on the sorrows and worries that fuel your addiction to him. Understand that you are not bad person, this is simply how your suffering manifests itself. And the solution to the problem of addiction lies in overcoming this suffering.

35. Make a list of three little things that annoy you about the person next to you.

Little insignificant things upset us because they have a direct bearing on larger issues. They go against some of our psychological expectations, such as punctuality, privacy, organization... Ideally, we need to understand what big things matter to us and protect them, with leniency towards the little things that people sometimes do unintentionally.

36. What negative traits of your character would you not like to show to people?

Almost certainly everyone is already aware of these shortcomings. Other people know more about us five minutes later than we know about ourselves decades later, because their knowledge of others is not suppressed by the unconscious. Honesty towards others comes easy. Instead of hoping that no one will ever notice yours, assume that everyone already knows about them. And in the future, treat them with a little humor and self-irony.

37. Rank the following concepts in descending order of importance in your work:

• money;
• status;
• creation;
• impact on society;
• Colleagues.

Our career aspirations are influenced by three forces:

• parents' hopes;
• expectations of society (other people);
• the feelings that arise during our work.

We are usually the least likely to listen to ourselves. And most often the first two forces win. It may take several decades before we recognize the terrifying fact that we worked only to please a parent (who may have already died) or for the sake of strangers and, most often, people who are indifferent to us. Most likely, it's not too late now.

38. If you knew that you could not fail in your profession, what would you try?

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We are often afraid of being embarrassed because our aspirations and desires regarding a career do not correspond to our actual knowledge or skills. And that's why we don't even try. And this is an exact guarantee that your aspirations will never become a reality. We owe it to ourselves to be vocal about what we want to do and who we want to be, even if it won't be easy or without failure.

39. What things have made you jealous lately?

We were taught that envy is bad, and we were strictly forbidden to do it. But in fact, the people or things we envy help us better understand our deepest desires, and this, in turn, tells us a lot about ourselves as a person. Try to keep a diary of your envious feelings, do not accumulate them inside yourself and try to make your dreams come true.

40. What can your work colleagues criticize you for behind your back?

And there is nothing to be offended by. Your fears are well founded. Everything you suspect could have occurred to others, and this is already reality. The point is not to try to avoid such imaginary gossip, but to take measures to combat their existence: do not give others a reason for criticism, strive to be better.

41. What or who do you associate yourself with?

• If I were the weather, I would be...
• If I were furniture, I would be...
• If I were a car brand, I would be...
• If I were a genre of music, I would be...
• If I were food, I would be...
• If I were an animal, I would be...
• If I were a font, I would be...

To ourselves we are something vague and formless, but sometimes we can recognize the key features of our personality through metaphors and analogies. The animal most often turns out to be particularly revealing.

42. Have you ever been unfair to others?

Make a list of guilt-inducing events where you were particularly unfair to specific people and lashed out at them.

What makes you worry? If you shared your concerns, could the situation change? In the future, try to tell others that you are upset instead of making a fuss over small things.

43. How do you react to stimuli?

Someone is annoying you. What would you say: “You’re so annoying when...” or “I feel irritated when you...”?

Psychologists prefer the second formulation: in their opinion, this approach is the essence of good communication. By describing how others affect you rather than blaming them, you avoid putting people on the defensive. Therefore, they are more likely to listen to you. Self-knowledge helps you separate what applies to you and what applies to other people.

44. Which of the following statements applies to you?

• When my partner upsets me, I lose interest, withdraw, and want to be alone.
• When my partner upsets me, I panic, get angry and start a fight.

These are the two most common and unhealthy reactions when you are hurt in . Psychologists describe the first situation as avoidant attachment, and the second as anxious attachment. Choose the third option correctly: explain what hurts you, calmly, confidently and without unnecessary vindictiveness. Only 10% of people do this. But this is the most the right decision if you want to build a mature relationship.

45. Write down everything bad in your relationship with your parents, and then with your loved one.

Please note that the same problems keep popping up. Or at least you can see a connection between them. There is irony in this. Perhaps it's time to resolve conflicts?

46. ​​What prevents you from making decisions?

Our brain has its shortcomings. Be prepared that when you make important decisions, you will experience them yourself. See mistakes as an opportunity to learn about your weaknesses and take action. Be vigilant when you come to conclusions about your shortcomings, do not let them bother you.

47. Name the first association that comes to mind when you hear these words:

• skirt;
• carrot;
• wool;
• lock;
• movie;
• shot.

We have become so good at hiding what is going on in our souls that the only way to recognize what is really bothering us is to turn off our minds for a while. Analyze your answers, think about what hidden fears and desires they may indicate.

48. How would you describe yourself?

Describe yourself using four adjectives. Ask three friends to do the same. Compare and contrast scores. What did you miss? What did you learn about yourself?

49. Map your failures

Write down your failures, indicating the approximate date they occurred. Next to each failure, write what it taught you.

You must recognize patterns. And the best we can do is to understand what behaviors lead us to and what they ultimately give us.

50. What did you literally just lie to someone around you about?

None of us lives in absolutely ideal conditions. White lies are the price for belonging to society. The desire for complete transparency is a naive and dangerous illusion.

51. Continue the phrases:

• If a truly kind person wanted to praise me, he would say...
• If a truly cruel person were assessing me, he would say...

Learn to stick to the golden mean between these two extremes. Be a demanding but generous friend to yourself.

52. Are you dominant or submissive in sex? What about the rest of your life?

Usually the second answer is the opposite of the first. In other words, sex is compensation and relief from stress from ordinary existence.

53. What things in your life would make your loved ones worry if they knew about them?

It’s completely normal to have secrets that even your closest people don’t know about. We try not to scare those we love.

54. What would you like to achieve in your career in a year, five, ten years?

Having your own plans means not being an executor of others.

55. What was your favorite thing to do as a child?

Are you experiencing similar feelings now? A good career involves a connection between your adult activities and childhood hobbies and feelings.

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Taking tests is a favorite pastime for many people. Whether we learn something new about ourselves or become convinced of long-familiar things is not important. The main thing is that we get to know ourselves again, get tremendous pleasure from the process and, of course, enjoy the result.

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Temperament

What will he tell?: Who you are by temperament: sanguine, phlegmatic, melancholic, choleric, will also determine your emotional stability.

How to pass: Answer questions as truthfully as possible, trying not to overthink the answer.

What will he tell?: Do you have any behavioral characteristics or predisposition to diseases?

How to pass: At each stage of the test, 8 portraits of people will be offered, you will need to first select the two most liked photographs (in descending order), and then the two most repulsive photographs (also in descending order).

What will he tell?: What leading character traits you have will be determined by the degree of self-awareness and level of self-esteem.

How to pass: You need to answer quickly, without thinking, there are no “bad” or “good” answers.

Personality type

What will he tell?: What are the characteristics of behavior in a group, family and personal relationships you have.

How to pass: You need to determine how well the given statement suits you on a 4-point scale.

What it will tell: What traits dominate your character? It will also reveal secondary qualities that participate in its formation.

How to go: When answering questions, do not think about a specific moment or mood, take your standard behavior as a basis.

What it will tell: What character traits, inclinations and interests are characteristic of you?

How to go: You should answer quickly, truthfully and as accurately as possible.

Career guidance

What it will tell: What professions do your inclinations and abilities resonate with?

How to go: Of the two proposed options, you will need to choose the one that is most desirable or least objectionable.

What will he tell?: What areas of activity correspond to your personality type.

How to pass: You will be given three answer options: “Agree,” “Disagree,” and “Difficult to say.” You need to choose based on your feelings.

What it will tell: What are the main motivational levers that drive your actions and decisions?

How to go: By answering questions, you confirm or refute your behavior in these situations. Give an answer honestly and quickly.

What it will tell: What is your IQ level?

How to go: In the proposed game situations You will need to make a choice based on your assumptions, calculations and ideas.

What it will tell: What are your abilities for generalization and analysis, speed of perception of material, accuracy of its assessment and flexibility of thinking.

How to go: Try not to linger on one task for too long; it’s better to move on to the next one. What is important here is the speed of decision-making and a superficial assessment of the situation.

What it will tell: At what level of development are your verbal and non-verbal components of intelligence?

Most people have never asked themselves these questions. And if they asked, they did not try to find a truthful answer. It's not even about the answer itself, but about the search for it. Each of these questions can lead you to think about yourself and the world around you, even if you don’t find the answer. They can move someone from their dead point and make them think about things they usually don’t want to think about.

The order of the questions does not really matter; I published them in the order in which they came to mind. Although several questions that follow each other can be logically connected. There is no need to get hung up on formulating the question and finding an answer to it. First of all, you must start thinking, reflecting, and this is the main task that I put into this article. Therefore, there is no need to look for any hidden meaning in the wording. Just think.

I warn you, many questions are uncomfortable, they can hurt your pride, make you think about something unpleasant, but you need to ask yourself them, because many problems cannot be simply ignored. And it’s better to ask yourself them now, think carefully and come to some decision, than to reap the consequences of misconceptions and wrong choices later.

Even if these questions give rise to unpleasant feelings, the purpose of these questions is not to upset you, but to encourage you to take certain actions. Don't get used to problems, but find solutions to them! I asked and ask myself many of these questions, and they help me get to know myself more deeply and, using this knowledge, move on. If you are not confident in your moral strength or suffer from depression, then it is better to skip this article, since in this case, the questions may plunge you into despondency.

If I understand that it is difficult for me to communicate with some people, then I think about how to avoid this.
If I understand that I am lazy, then I think about how to strengthen discipline.

In general, I am determined to solve the problem, and not to simply put my head down and meekly accept the circumstances. I want you to be tuned in too.

How to answer questions?

You don't have to answer everything at once. You may have to think carefully. Do not rush to immediately answer the question; it may turn out to be a template answer due to stereotypes that have developed in your thinking. These stereotypes are designed to simplify your thinking and protect your pride from the possibility of self-accusation. They work instantly, offering you the most psychologically “comfortable” answer. But such an answer does not mean an honest one. So take time to reflect, try to get to the bottom of it, and be as honest with yourself as possible. Return to the article if necessary.

Hint: Most problems lie within yourself, not in the outside world. And these problems can be solved by working on yourself.

You can also find some tips by following the links that I will provide in the post.

Some questions include a statement. For example, “why do you smoke?” If you do not smoke, skip the question; this does not apply to you. The same applies to all similar questions.

Some questions may puzzle some, but leave others indifferent. This is fine. It is impossible to predict in advance which path your chain of thinking will take and what will attract your attention.

Questions

1. Why should I care what other people think about me?
2. How do my friends treat me?
3. Why can't I be alone?
4. Why do I drink
5. Why am I
6. How do my children treat me?
7. Why is it difficult for me to make friends?
8. Do I have to be better than everyone else at absolutely everything?
9. Fate is unfair to me. So what?
10. Why do I swear a lot?
11. What happens in the world?
12. What's happening in my country?
13. What happens at my job?
14. What do I want from life?
15. Why are my plans not being fulfilled?
16. Am I happy with my choice?
17. Why be nervous and worried?
18. Who is responsible for what happened in my life this way and not otherwise?
19. Who is responsible for making me like this?
20. Is the life path that I have chosen for myself the only possible one?
21. What is stopping me from living the life I want to live?
22. Does anyone owe me anything?
23. Do I owe anything to anyone?
24. Why do I argue with my wife/husband? What's the point of this? Do we achieve anything valuable as a result of these conflicts?
25. Why are my emotions getting the better of me?
26. I have Bad mood. So what?
27. Why do I need a tenth dress or a third watch?
28. What will happen to me in ten, twenty, thirty years? Will my life somehow change if I continue to do what I do? Am I happy with these prospects?
29. What will happen to my health if I continue to lead the lifestyle that I lead now?
30. What will happen to me when I get old and can’t find pleasure in the things that bring me joy now (sex, food, drinking)?
31. I like my job?
32. Am I satisfied with my job as a source of income and my life's work?
33. Why can't I organize other sources of income?
34. What happens if I lose my job?
35. Why don't I work remotely?
36. Why am I not running my own business?
37. I was less fortunate than others. So what?
38. What will I do this weekend? And on the next ones? What do I do every weekend?
39. Why do I smoke?
40. Do I get enough rest?
41. Do I have enough free time?
42. Am I getting enough sleep?
43. Am I in good physical shape?
44. I feel good?
45. Am I able to save
46. How to eat properly?
47. Am I spending enough time with my loved ones?
48. Why do I stay late at work? What happens if I leave on time?
49. Why do I profess this particular one and not another? Are all other religions wrong?
50. Am I diligent in fulfilling the commandments of my faith? If not, how can I be sure of the salvation of my soul?
51. What's the point in suffering?
52. What are my interests, hobbies? What am I interested in?
53. How much time do I spend in ?
54. How much time do I watch TV?
55. How many books have I read in the last year?
56. What other interesting music is there?
57. Am I educated and erudite enough?
58. Why doesn't the Earth fall into the Sun?
59. How is genetic information encoded?
60. What does an atom consist of?
61. How many foreign languages I know?
62. Do I respond adequately to criticism addressed to me?
63. When was the last time I agreed with someone else's opinion that was different from mine and openly admitted it?
64. What is the point in those disputes in which each participant does not want to accept the opinions of the other? Is truth born in such disputes?
65. Why do I need to prove something to someone?
66. When was the last time I praised people, gave them sincere compliments?
67. How am I better than those people I don’t like?
68. Why do some people not like me?
69. Why do they love me?
70. Why do I love those I love?
71. Have I put in enough effort to enhance my strengths and get rid of my weaknesses?
72. How long have I given gifts just like that, for no reason?
73. How long has it been since I visited my elderly relatives?
74. Are there many people who will provide me selfless help if I need it?
75. When was the last time I cleaned my house?
76. Do I often stay alone and think about life?
77. When was the last time I did something that others didn't approve of and I ended up being happy with my choice?
78. Am I getting things done?
79. Do I have a developed sense of humor?
80. Do I laugh a lot?
81. Am I enjoying life?
82. Am I happy?
83. Do I often complain about life?
84. Many people live in conditions of hunger, lack of housing and their lives are in constant danger. Why do I consider my problems so significant and serious?
85. Am I doing everything to improve my life?
86. Why do wars happen?
87. Where do my fears come from? Why am I afraid of mice if they cannot harm me?
88. Why should I be offended by others?
89. Why should I pretend to be something I'm not?
90. What are my biggest life mistakes?
91. Why am I lonely?
92. How do my principles, my worldview help me?
93. What kind of people are my friends? Why are we together?
94. What determines my behavior?
95. When was the last time I cleaned up my apartment or work place?
96. What is good and what is bad?
97. Do I listen carefully to other people?
98. Have I caused a lot of suffering to those around me?
99. Why am I ashamed of my loved ones?
100. What do I know about death?

Ecology of consciousness. Psychology: Most people have never asked themselves these questions. And if they asked, they did not try to find a truthful answer. It's not even about the answer itself, but about the search for it. Each of these questions can lead you to think about yourself and the world around you, even if you don’t find the answer. They can move someone from their dead point and make them think about things they usually don’t want to think about.

Most People Have Never Asked These Questions - 100 Questions to Know Yourself

Most people have never asked themselves these questions. And if they asked, they did not try to find a truthful answer. It's not even about the answer itself, but about the search for it. Each of these questions can lead you to certain thoughts about yourself and the world around you, even if you don’t find the answer. They can move someone from their dead point and make them think about things they usually don’t want to think about.

The order of the questions does not really matter; I published them in the order in which they came to mind. Although several questions that follow each other can be logically connected.

There is no need to get hung up on formulating the question and finding an answer to it. First of all, you must start thinking, reflecting, and this is the main task that I put into this article. Therefore, there is no need to look for any hidden meaning in the wording. Just think.

I warn you, many questions are uncomfortable, they can hurt your pride, make you think about something unpleasant, but you need to ask yourself them, because many problems cannot be simply ignored. And it’s better to ask yourself them now, think carefully and come to some decision, than to reap the consequences of misconceptions and wrong choices later.

Even if these questions give rise to unpleasant feelings, the purpose of these questions is not to upset you, but to encourage you to take certain actions. Don't get used to problems, but find solutions to them! I asked and ask myself many of these questions, and they help me get to know myself more deeply and, using this knowledge, move on. If you are not confident in your moral strength or suffer from depression, then it is better to skip this article, since in this case, the questions may plunge you into despondency.

If I understand that it is difficult for me to communicate with some people, then I think about how to avoid this. If I understand that I am lazy, then I think about how to strengthen discipline.

In general, I am determined to solve the problem, and not to simply put my head down and meekly accept the circumstances. I want you to be tuned in too.

How to answer questions?

You don't have to answer everything at once. You may have to think carefully. Do not rush to immediately answer the question; it may turn out to be a template answer due to stereotypes that have developed in your thinking. These stereotypes are designed to simplify your thinking and protect your pride from the possibility of self-accusation. They work instantly, offering you the most psychologically “comfortable” answer. But such an answer does not mean an honest one. So take time to reflect, try to get to the bottom of it, and be as honest with yourself as possible.

Hint: Most problems lie within yourself, not in the outside world. And these problems can be solved by working on yourself.

Some questions include a statement. For example, “why do you smoke?” If you do not smoke, skip the question; this does not apply to you. The same applies to all similar questions.

Some questions may puzzle some, but leave others indifferent. This is fine. It is impossible to predict in advance which path your chain of thinking will take and what will attract your attention.

Questions:

1. Why should I be concerned about other people's opinions of myself?

2. How do my friends treat me?

3. Why can't I be alone?

4. Why do I drink alcohol?

5. Why am I shy and timid?

6. How do my children treat me?

7. Why is it difficult for me to make friends?

8. Do I have to be better than everyone else in absolutely everything?

9. Fate is unfair to me. So what?

10. Why do I swear a lot?

11. What's going on in the world?

12. What's happening in my country?

13. What happens at my job?

14. What do I want from life?

15. Why are my plans not being fulfilled?

16. Am I satisfied with my choice?

17. Why be nervous and worried?

18. Who is responsible for what happened in my life this way and not otherwise?

19. Who is responsible for the fact that I became like this?

20. Is the life path that I have chosen for myself the only possible one?

21. What is stopping me from living the life I want to live?

22. Does anyone owe me anything?

23. Do I owe anything to anyone?

24. Why do I argue with my wife/husband? What's the point of this? Do we achieve anything valuable as a result of these conflicts?

25. Why do my emotions get the better of me?

26. I'm in a bad mood. So what?

27. Why do I need a tenth dress or a third watch?

28. What will happen to me in ten, twenty, thirty years? Will my life somehow change if I continue to do what I do? Am I happy with these prospects?

29. What will happen to my health if I continue to lead the lifestyle that I lead now?

30. What will happen to me when I get old and can’t find pleasure in the things that bring me joy now (sex, food, drinking)?

31. Do I like my job?

32. Am I satisfied with my job as a source of income and my life’s work?

33. Why can't I organize other sources of income?

34. What happens if I lose my job?

35. Why don't I work remotely?

36. Why don't I mind my business?

37. I was less lucky than others. So what?

38. What will I do this weekend? And on the next ones? What do I do every weekend?

39. Why do I smoke?

40. Do I get enough rest?

41. Do I have enough free time?

42. Do I get enough sleep?

43. Am I in good physical shape?

44. Am I feeling well?

45. Am I able to maintain concentration?

46. ​​How to eat properly?

47. Do I spend enough time with my loved ones?

48. Why do I stay late at work? What happens if I leave on time?

49. Why do I profess this particular religion and not another? Are all other religions wrong?

50. Am I diligent in fulfilling the commandments of my faith? If not, how can I be sure of the salvation of my soul?

51. What is the point in suffering?

52. What are my interests and hobbies? What am I interested in?

53. How much time do I spend on social networks?

54. How much time do I watch TV?

55. How many books have I read in the last year?

56. What other interesting music is there?

57. Am I sufficiently educated and erudite?

58. Why doesn’t the Earth fall into the Sun?

59. How is genetic information encoded?

60. What does an atom consist of?

61. How many foreign languages ​​do I know?

63. When was the last time I agreed with someone else’s opinion that was different from mine and openly admitted it?

64. What is the point in those disputes in which each participant does not want to accept the opinions of the other? Is truth born in such disputes?

65. Why do I need to prove something to someone?

66. When was the last time I praised people and gave them sincere compliments?

67. How am I better than those people I don’t like?

68. Why do some people not like me?

69. Why do they love me?

70. Why do I love those I love?

71. Have I put in enough effort to strengthen my strengths and get rid of my shortcomings?

72. How long has it been since I gave gifts just like that, for no reason?

73. How long has it been since I visited my elderly relatives?

74. Are there many people who will provide me selfless help if I need it?

75. When was the last time I cleaned the house?

76. Do I often stay alone and think about life?

77. When was the last time I did something that others didn’t approve of, and in the end I was happy with my choice?

78. Do I get things done?

79. Do I have a developed sense of humor?

80. Do I laugh a lot?

81. Do I enjoy life?

82. Am I happy?

83. Do I often complain about life?

84. Many people live in conditions of hunger, lack of housing and their lives are in constant danger. Why do I consider my problems so significant and serious?

85. Am I doing everything to improve my life?

86. Why do wars happen?

87. Where do my fears come from? Why am I afraid of mice if they cannot harm me?

88. bWhy should I be offended by others?

89.Why should I pretend to be someone I really am not?

90. What are my biggest mistakes in life?

91. Why am I lonely?

92. How do my principles, my worldview help me?

93. What kind of people are my friends? Why are we together?

94. What determines my behavior?

95. When was the last time I cleaned up my apartment or workplace?

96. What is good and what is bad?

97. Do I listen carefully to other people?

98. Have I caused a lot of suffering to those around me?

99. Why am I ashamed of my loved ones?

100. What do I know about death?published .

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All psychology textbooks say: “There is a whole kingdom of wisdom, knowledge and skill stored within us.” And accordingly, we can also find answers to our questions within ourselves. It is important to be able to listen to your “I”, to be able to isolate yourself from intrusive noise, someone else’s unnecessary stream of thoughts, as well as the speed that we have been addicted to lately. As my friend, a journalist, says: “It’s important to slow down and analyze: what exactly am I?”

I propose to conduct several psychological tests, which help you look inside your own “I”, see the world of your feelings, sensations, emotions and personal qualities. See your “wrong side”, on which the psychological “facade of the building” so often depends. And yes, not all of these tests are done quickly. Slow down and then you will learn something new.

Ask your assistant to take the stopwatch and say the command “Start.” After this, you count down the minute in your head. You can count silently or simply silently maintain the required time interval. When you finish counting, you say “Sixty” out loud. Your assistant records the real time and tells it to you.

The essence of the test is that each of us experiences time differently. People with high ability to adapt to stress under heavy workload are good at “stretching” time. And people who are unwell, frightened or tense reduce the duration of the internal minute, because they want to quickly stop the stress factor. What is your psychophysiological state at the moment? Let's find out from the table.

Try to compose about yourself... a fairy tale. In this tale, you may have a different name, gender, or maybe even wish to turn into an animal. Start with the traditional “Once upon a time...”. Develop the plot as you want without thinking too much about the rules of storytelling. You have to come to an end that works for you on its own. Write down the story. And, without re-reading, put it in a distant folder. Read it in two weeks. What emotions and feelings did the fairy tale evoke?

Read this fairy tale to a friend, but for the time being do not call yourself the author. Ask to evaluate the characters and the events that happened to them. Listen carefully, as if observing yourself from the outside. Also monitor your body's reactions. What words of a friend caused you discomfort, where did you feel a muscle contraction? Which words made your body relax, and which words inspired you? The topics that made you feel discomfort and compression are your unprocessed areas and grievances. This is what will be your further “psychological field of activity.” The topics that make you want to fly or jump for joy are your potential to solve your problems.

Choose a few of your friends. Describe in one or two words the nature of your relationship with each of them. Imagine these relationships as bridges between you. It is likely that the bridges will be different: differ in appearance, design, strength. It is important not to gradually create a bridge in your imagination, but to see it immediately. Write down or, better yet, sketch these images.

Choose any of these bridges. Imagine yourself moving along it. Look down, what do you see? Grass, river, ducks, garbage, nettles, beams? Pay attention to how you walk across this bridge. Are you running as fast as you can, walking at a normal pace or barely crawling, holding on to the railing, stumbling, looking back? Who or what meets you at the other end of the bridge? Write down the details of your transition.

Repeat the test with the remaining bridges. There shouldn’t be too many of them; two or three are enough for the first time. Then analyze what was behind the images you saw. Were the images pleasant or not? What emotions did they evoke? What emotions did the obstacles evoke? Was it difficult to overcome them? Also write down your ideas and read them after two weeks. Something has changed?

Draw a web with a diameter of 6 cm on paper. Now draw a spider and two flies on it. An important condition is that one fly must be outside the web, and the other must be in it. Did you draw it? Great! Let's analyze who you drew first?

Spider. If a spider appears first in your picture, this speaks of you as an active and determined person. There are no hopeless situations for you. You know how to control your emotions and listen to your mind more than your intuition.

A fly in a web. A person who first of all portrays a fly in trouble projects his doom, lack of initiative, and inability to act without the help of another. There is also the option that you are currently in a depressed state and this mood is reflected in the drawing.

The first picture of a fly outside the web speaks of you as a person who prefers the position of an observer. You understand people well and are interested in observing them. You don’t like to run headlong, but prefer to wait for the time to carry out your plans.

Location: figures equidistant from each other (I’d like to write “insects”, but a spider is not an insect) indicate that you objectively perceive life and understand that anything can happen. You saw both ups and downs, sometimes you could control events, and sometimes you just went with the flow. You evaluate neither the first nor the second. In your opinion, this is just reality, without bad and good. If a spider and a fly are nearby, it means that you accept life as an eternal struggle. If the flies are located close to each other, this indicates your strong desire to get out of the “web”, that is, to free yourself from life’s troubles. You are like a flexible willow tree that bends from the wind, but does not break itself.