Stages of relationship development

What is the development of relationships?

First, we need to move through the seven stages of relationships - from the usual “Hunger-Satiation-Disgust” to fulfilling our duty and friendship.

And secondly, we only need to go through three steps. There are only three steps to ensure that Love blossoms in a relationship. But these three steps are not as simple as they seem.

These are three keys to changing relationships, three foundations for building a big house on them.

First step- this is acceptance. The step is very, very difficult. A woman is considered to accept a man if she accepts:

His character and habits (even if he doesn’t wash for 4 days and throws his socks off)

His family (especially his mom and their relationship)

His friends (even if they are alcoholics and parasites)

His job and income level (even if he is a janitor and earns pennies)

His living conditions (even if he lives in a communal apartment in the same room with his parents

If at least one point is in doubt, discomfort or disgust - there is no talk of any acceptance.

Accepting your husband means seeing him as he is. Without embellishment, without plans for what exactly needs to be changed in it, without rose-colored glasses. Imagine that he will never change. So he will live in a communal apartment with his mother, work as a janitor and save water on washing his body. Acceptance is agreeing to live in peace with him like this. Even if he never changes.

It's difficult, isn't it? It always seems to us that something must be made of a man. We know exactly what we want to do and how to change it. Make him wash every day. Ban meetings with friends. Fight with his mom. Make him become a boss and earn money for the house.

And we are actively getting down to business. First, every self-respecting woman throws away all her husband’s things that don’t suit him. Even if he liked them. She will also conduct a shoe inspection, eau de toilette. Often men agree to this, but after many years, in the heat of a quarrel, “his favorite sweatpants” that she once secretly threw away suddenly come up.

Then she will take over his career, force him to quit his favorite, but not very profitable job for the sake of prestigious paper shuffling. This reminds me of a not-so-happy candidate of science who loved his bugs and microscopes until his beloved decided to make him a businessman. He tried to make her happy, abandoned his business for the sake of trade, which disgusted him. Ten years later, the family broke up, and he returned to the laboratory.

Therefore, it is very useful to take a sober look at your husband before you get married. To figure out who you are marrying, what your prospects and background data are. But if you haven't done it before, do it now.

A little later we will do an exercise with you on accepting your husband, which will help you take such an important step.

Once accepted, the next step is respect. It is not enough to agree that he is a hare. It is also important to learn to respect the hare nature in him. That is, to see strengths your man, his potential is not imaginary, but real. The real potential of a PhD is the opportunity to become a doctor or professor. And the idea is to become a businessman, manager or media person.

Having seen his features, personal characteristics, habits - begin to respect it. Respect his right to free time, personal space, relationships with other people.

Once the acceptance stage has been completed successfully, the respect stage passes easily and painlessly. When you accept his family as part of himself, it is easy for you to learn to respect that he wants to communicate with them. And it's not so hard to be nice to his mom anymore.

Respect for any man is like fresh water for plants. With such high-quality watering, it will grow faster and more efficiently. And reciprocal respect will begin to emerge in his heart. Usually for men this happens easier and faster. And then you no longer need to prove that you need personal territory or time to take a bath and girlfriends.

A man pays for respect with respect in return. And as a bonus, such a wife receives a successful husband who is ready to take responsibility for her and take care of her.

Why do men allow us all this? They think that this way they will make us happy. And they often try to become what we want them to be.

But it is impossible to make a wolf out of a hare. Even if you insert a sharp jaw into it, repaint it and force it to hunt. He will not become a wolf, but will remain the same hare, only very sad.

the third step is fidelity b. When a woman has already understood who she married, accepted him for who he is, and learned to respect him, she learns one simple phrase.

“I don’t need another husband.”

Without the previous two steps, such a solution is impossible. Because from time to time you will again think that you got carried away. Still, somewhere there must be “my person,” and not this monster who gets on my nerves with his socks and friends. Still, there must be a prince somewhere who will carry me in his arms and give me armfuls of roses every day.

And maybe this prince is one of the previous men you dated? I wish I could marry Vasya - at least he has his own apartment. Or for Misha - at least he’s the boss. Or for Ivan - he is handsome and dresses very stylishly. But Dima’s mother was adequate and lives far away...

Or maybe this prince is your boss or colleague? As long as you see them a couple of hours a day, he is polite and courteous. They open the doors, if they step on their feet, they apologize...

All these doubts steal happiness. The husband feels that he is just a temporary husband. That when a better option is found, he will be dismissed. And this does not add motivation to him to become good husband. He doesn’t want to spend money on such a wife, he doesn’t want to invest time and effort in her. There is no incentive for growth. There is also no opportunity to strengthen relations.

In order for true Love to be born, this search must be put to an end. The point is loyalty. Not only physical, but also emotional. When you don't even think about breaking up with him and finding someone better, you don't compare and don't choose. You put an end to your searches and doubts.

Three difficult and very important steps to changing relationships and birth true love exactly that: acceptance, respect and loyalty. Three pillars on which it is built happy marriage. Three steps up that you should start climbing for the sake of what awaits you at the top. Olga Valyaeva

I no longer play rescuer and am no longer manipulated. Sorry. When a woman has pain in her soul, where she is unsure of herself, where she feels uncomfortable and difficult, she looks everywhere for a word that she can cling to in order to be offended. It's like the whole world is against her. Transferring responsibility is not the hell I have inside, hidden under the whipped cream, but it is others who offend me.

I’m writing a post about the fact that everyone new baby- greater pleasure. And the lady spits bile, saying that they offended her and her only child. Why does she react this way? Maybe her words about “a conscious choice to give birth to one and give him everything” are a lie to herself? Is that why it hurts?

I write that we don’t have nannies, another one comes, whose nanny is insulted and humiliated. Seriously? Maybe the problem is that she herself is not sure of her decision, she sees Negative consequences this, but because of his own convenience he turns a blind eye to it? Otherwise why such a reaction?

I write that I wear skirts and dresses, and a dozen people come who are offended by the fact that I don’t consider them women because they are wearing jeans... Why? Maybe because they themselves understand that looking like a woman is more natural and harmonious? But again, because of convenience, they pretend that it’s all good?

I’m writing a post about the fact that politics needs women who have realized themselves as mothers, not childfree, and a dozen of those who don’t have children are offended. Like, I called them second-class citizens. It's like they're all going to be politicians. But you can realize yourself as a mother in different ways. And the difference between those who are childfree by conviction and those who fail is huge...

I write about the fact that I am for naturalness in appearance, eyelash extension specialists come running and swear that everything natural is ugly, that all natural women simply don’t take care of themselves, and since you can’t pump up your lips and make breasts, then you don’t need to put on makeup, and comb your hair, and remove hair from different parts of the body, and even insert dental implants (which are more for health than for beauty). Maybe you can’t wash yourself either?

In all cases where one word is taken out of context, the ladies are not talking to me, even if they are addressing me. This is a conversation with their own heart, which contains so much pain, poison and trauma.

But I don't play rescuer anymore and I don't fall for it. I don't want to feed their trauma. Only those who are ready to be treated are treated. Who is ready to heal the pain in the soul. The rest can only be sympathized with. I sincerely sympathize with all of them. And that's the point.

I no longer play these games “my husband hurts me, what should I do?”, when every piece of advice is answered with an excuse, like, I can’t do this, and I can’t do this, and that. I can't do anything, I can only complain. What then can and should be done with you? Should I come and scold your husband, give him an attack, and pat you on the head and feed you cake?

And I haven’t been trying to prove anything to anyone for a long time, to re-educate someone, to set them on the right path. You can only lead a horse to water, but you cannot force it to drink, no matter how hard you try.

Everything in my life is simple, when I want to offend and offend someone, I will do it directly and without hints. Personal and personal. I’ll come to the person’s page and write a huge, condemning comment. Maybe even with obscenities.

The problem is that I have no such desire. I don't judge anyone for their choices in this life. By and large, it doesn’t matter to me - jeans, silicone, the number of children, nannies, kindergartens, schools, vaccinations.

I made my choice, I am satisfied with it - and I am writing about it. You may not agree with him, it is your choice. Write about it yourself.

And when I write a post, I mean only what is written, and not what the female brain is able to twist in the direction of its trauma. And a woman is able to spin any phrase in the direction she wants in a couple of minutes, and make a molehill out of a molehill, and out of the blue build a dense forest. To be offended.

I don't play these useless and harmful games anymore. My energy is valuable and important to at least five people around me, four of whom are children. And this is the main point. Therefore, without me.

It seems to me that only such an attitude can help a person stop and see that this pain comes not from the outside, but from the inside. Although a person can make a different choice, become angry and offended even more. But this is also his choice. And I accept this with a calm soul - you won’t be nice to everyone. It is more important to me what my husband and our children think than the opinion of Apollinaria from Volgodonsk.

Your life is your life. Your pain in your soul is your trauma. And only you can figure it out. If some topic bothers you painfully, figure out why this is so. There is no need to prove to a person that he is wrong. Everyone is right in their own way in their life. The question is, why are you so attracted to someone else’s life, someone else’s thoughts and someone else’s way of life? What hurts inside you and screams from this pain? Where does this pain in my soul come from? And how long are you willing to ignore this cry, looking for problems in others?

I don't play this anymore, sorry. I've played enough.

I'd rather focus on those who are ready to change and want it with all their hearts. With whom I am pleased to share some insights and experiences. These are the majority of my subscribers. And that's great! I am very glad that my subscribers are exactly like this! Real, open, ready to change, moving forward, inquisitive...

And it is for them - that is, for you - that all these books, articles, notes are written. And just for you, in honor of our eighth anniversary, by popular demand, we have another surprise. Not even one :)

For those who really need books in electronic format - for an e-reader, for a smartphone (it’s easier with apple ones - they have an application), for tablets. For those who have been waiting for an application for Android for a long time - and we are just testing it to launch it. For those who want to read the new version of "Destination" without buying a paper one. For those who don't want to carry heavy books.

In honor of our eighth anniversary - the final time of such a holiday - for three days we are opening the sale of electronic versions of books in epub format - which suits most e-readers and smartphones!

Important. I kindly ask you to respect the laws of the Universe - and do not share e-books on the Internet, do not distribute them, and certainly do not sell them. I believe that my subscribers are decent girls who are familiar with the concept of karma. If karma is not enough, there is also the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation and its 146th article. Well, this is so, just in case - and probably not for you :)

Also important. Books are in only one format - and this is epub - the most universal and popular. Books are not available in other formats. And yes - these are ELECTRONIC books, not printed ones!

It is also important that this disgrace is only for three days. After that the opportunity will be closed again - and we will all wait together for the Android application and the apple application update :)

There are currently six books available in electronic form. The long-awaited “Healing of the Female Soul” has appeared! And a new version of our first book[

1. NEW “Design to be a woman” - which many probably already have, in one way or another. With the marriage virus, by the way! UPDATED VERSION! The one that is 78 percent thicker, with tasks, stories, new chapters and a new structure!

The printed version of the book cost 1370, and today the electronic version costs only 370 rubles

Order - https://shop.valyaeva.ru/43/561/

2. “The Art of Being a Wife and Muse” - which in printed form is more than 800 pages, and at the same time it also contains the pregnancy virus. I don’t know if this virus works in e-books - we haven’t collected such statistics. But the text is the same - it should work :)

The printed version of the book costs 1,670 rubles and weighs about a kilogram; today the electronic version costs only 470 rubles and weighs several megabytes.

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3. “The purpose of being a woman-2. Fruitful" - 880 pages in print, very heavy, but very necessary for every woman. Each one and no other! The virus of self-love lives in her!

Again, the difference in cost with the printed version is noticeable - 470 versus 1,670 rubles - in terms of weight, this is also undeniable.

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4. “The Purpose of Being a Mother” - in printed form it is a two-volume book with more than 1000 pages in total. For every mother and those who are going to become one.
The printed version costs 2170 rubles - and the electronic version is only 570 rubles.

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5. “The woman who tamed the crisis” is relevant to almost every family nowadays, because times are difficult. And it has the lowest price! Only 170 rubles instead of 1270!

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6. New “Healing the Female Soul” - which is in two volumes and in total more than 1000 pages in printed form. For all those who want to heal their wounded heart or kind scenarios! It's not even in the app yet - but it will appear soon!

In printed form it costs 2570 - and in electronic form only 570 - the benefit is 2000 rubles! 🙂

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But that is not all. Because today there is a unique offer - even more profitable. All SIX books in one package - at a discount. Which is the maximum today. You can buy 6 books today at a price of 1970 instead of 2520! Tomorrow the cost of the set will already be 2170.

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Yes, you can also save money - after all e-books are at least three times cheaper than printed ones (and some are even cheaper). You can also save on shipping, especially if you live abroad. And carry your own smartphone or e-reader in your hands instead of a kilogram book.

Yes, this is a one-time promotion and only for your trusted and loved ones! We hope for your understanding and decency

Regarding downloading books. First, the links will appear in your personal account in the shop. Secondly, they will come to your email - please check your spam here - they may end up there. If you didn’t come and didn’t find it, write to the care service - [email protected]- the girls will help you and answer you (but most likely not instantly, because there are always a lot of requests on such days)

There are NO other book formats. If it opens somehow wrong for you, again check with the girls, try opening it in another program. Everything should work out! 🙂

These and other books are not sold in regular stores or other online stores. Only on our website

We also have standard sets with themed gifts. And for those who want to get married, and for those who have difficulties in their relationships. In addition, you can create your own set yourself - or add to the set the books you need that are not included in it, and pay for delivery once

If you have questions of a technical nature or complexity, be sure to write to the care service - by mail - [email protected] we will help you! Write there if you have questions or difficulties with your order!

With respect and love to you,
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The art of being a woman Evgenia Frolova

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Title: The Art of Being a Woman

About the book “The Art of Being a Woman” by Evgeniy Frolov

“The Art of Being a Woman” is a book written by a real expert in women's practices. Evgenia Frolova founded the first geisha school and the “Evgenia Frolova-Zaitseva Academy of Relationships” in Moscow. For sixteen years now, she has been imparting sacred knowledge to women, teaching them to control their bodies, and getting rid of physical and psychological blocks. In her opinion, the great women of the past captivated and conquered men’s hearts precisely thanks to the secret knowledge that has now become available to modern women.

In the work “The Art of Being a Woman,” a wonderful world of priestesses of love opens before us, who delicately control the muscles of their bodies. This ability allows them to experience unearthly pleasure during sex and give unforgettable sensations to their partner. Here we are talking about techniques that allow you to develop intimate muscles and control them.

Evgenia Frolova, talking about the muscles of love, makes a historical excursion into different cultures: ancient Slavic, Arabic, Japanese, Indian, Asian. She talks in detail about the anatomy of pleasure, erogenous zones, orgasm. Reading the theoretical part is very interesting and informative. Separate chapters are devoted to the birth process and age-related changes.

But, of course, training methods are of particular interest. intimate muscles and the ancient techniques of pleasure themselves. The Art of Being a Woman is a very practical book. She truly teaches how to become a true goddess of love. It even contains several plots of enchanting temptations, with the help of which you can drive even the most sophisticated man crazy.

Frolova’s motto is “Being a woman is an art.” But art needs to be studied. In the same way, you can learn to use the feminine energy given by nature and become a desirable, sexy, successful and happy woman.

Evgenia Frolova outlines in great detail the techniques for developing intimate muscles. Thanks to this approach, you can do them yourself at home. The author also describes in detail breathing practices, without which relaxation is impossible.

After finishing reading “The Art of Being a Woman,” you will learn more about your body, your feminine nature, and be able to diversify sex life. We recommend it to those who are already involved women's practices. With this book you can hone your skills. And also to those women who have just embarked on the path of self-discovery. This book will inspire you a lot.

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