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Psychological protection- this is the use by the subject of psychological means of eliminating or mitigating the damage that threatens him from the side of another subject.

The most ancient method of defense, apparently, must be recognized as flight, followed by freezing and hiding (going into hiding), and only then – a counter attack on the aggressor or the desire to influence his behavior. At least, they can be observed in almost all species of animals (the latter, for example, is expressed in special signals of submission or in the use of various kinds of tricks).

We find these same methods in the history of human relations: in the combat of warriors, in the military actions of squads and states. Here we find complete analogues of the already mentioned defenses: 1) flight and its various weakened forms - retreat, evasion, delays; 2) camouflage as an analogue of fading - the desire to become invisible to the enemy; 3) the use of natural and the creation of artificial barriers and shelters in the form of walls, ditches (directly borrowing ideas from the features of the landscape: a dense wooden palisade, “moving” a river or ravine to the walls of your city, etc.), and as a lightweight modification - the use of portable barriers : shields, chain mail, armor, etc.; 4) the attack of the aggressor is an active defense, the essence of which is fixed in the truism “ best way defense - attack"; 5) managing the behavior and/or intentions of an actual or potential aggressor - cajoling, using tricks and other tricks.

The predominance of passive forms of protection may be explained by the fact that active protection in both animals and people occurs only in cases where the danger comes from another subject (human or animal), while passive protection is also applied in relation to the elements and other factors of non-subject origin.

So, we have five initial forms of defense: flight, hiding (going to cover), freezing (camouflage), attack (destruction, expulsion) and control (control). At the same time, the possibility of pairwise correlation of active and passive forms of protective actions, together forming independent variables of the protective process, is obvious. Thus, the flight-attack pair can be combined according to the result achieved - an increase in the intersubjective distance to safe boundaries. The difference lies in the means of achieving it. In flight there is a removal of oneself, and in an attack (by which is meant the desire to expel or destroy) - the removal of the aggressor. The shelter-control pair correlates with a change in the parameters of influence: shelter involves barriers that make it difficult for the aggressor to influence, and control, on the contrary, removes obstacles for the opposite influence - on the aggressor.

Without a pair, there is freezing. However, if we determine the variable to which this action corresponds, namely, stopping the flow of information about oneself coming to the aggressor, then it is not difficult to restore the second member of the pair - ignoring, which stops the flow of information about the aggressor and the threat. The apparent absurdity of this tactic is relative. Its use is justified if the information itself is dangerous (for example, accusations, rumors, difficult prophecies) or when other forms of defense are not used for some reason and adaptation to the stimulus occurs. The selective ban on the transfer of information is one of the most important laws of intrasystem interaction - from the transfer of genetic information to religious sacraments).

Thus, we received six prototype actions, combined into complementary pairs: run away - expel, hide - take possession, hide - ignore. Each couple sets its own parameter for the defense process: distancing from the aggressor, controlling the flow of influence, controlling the information channel. These actions are given the status of basic protective settings.

Table. Typology of prototypical protective actions

1. Care– increasing the distance, interrupting contact, moving oneself beyond the reach of the aggressor’s influence. Manifestations of this type of defense: changing the topic of conversation to a safe one, reluctance to aggravate relationships (avoiding sharp corners), the desire to avoid meeting with someone who is the source of unpleasant experiences; avoidance of traumatic situations, interruption of a conversation under a plausible pretext, etc. The ultimate expression of this tendency can be complete isolation, alienation, refusal of contact with people.

2. Exile– increasing the distance, removing the aggressor. Variations of manifestations: kicked out of the house, fired from work, sent somewhere under an acceptable pretext, condemnation, ridicule, humiliation, caustic remarks. The ultimate expression of this tendency is murder - aggression that is defensive in origin and brought to its logical conclusion. Since we have already accepted the multiple nature of personality as a model, it becomes easy to explain the attribution of condemnation and ridicule to the strategy of expulsion - this is partial killing, the destruction of some part of another: character traits, habits, actions, intentions, inclinations, etc.

3. Lock– control of the impact reaching the subject of protection, placing barriers in its path. Variations: semantic and semantic barriers (“it’s difficult for me to understand what is being said”), role-playing drawings (“I’m at work”), “mask”, “persona” (Jung), etc., which take on the main “blow” (“it’s not me - it’s my character”). Ultimate expression: fencing oneself, complete self-isolation through defense in depth.

4. Control– control of the influence emanating from the aggressor, the influence on his characteristics: crying (the desire to pity) and its weakened forms - complaints, aching intonations, sighs; bribery or desire to appease; attempts to make friends or become members of the same community (“they don’t beat their own”); weaken or destabilize activity, completely inactivate; provoke the desired behavior, etc. This also includes manipulation that is protective in origin. The ultimate expression is subordination of another, pushing him around.

5. Fading– control of information about the subject of protection, its distortion or reduction of supply. Manifestations: disguise, deception, hiding feelings, refusal to act so as not to express oneself (not to cause trouble). The extreme form is numbness, anxious depression.

6. Ignoring– control of information about the aggressor, the presence or nature of the threat on his part, limitation in volume or distorted perception. For example, stereotyping (“he’s just being a hooligan”), belittling the degree of threat, explaining with positive intentions (“she wishes me well”). The ultimate manifestation is critical distortion, loss of adequacy of perception, illusion.

As often happens with all types of typologies, when confronted with reality, it turns out that many intermediate or combined cases can be found. In relation to defenses, this circumstance is not a disadvantage. Knowing the basic settings, we can distinguish compositions from two or more trends, better understanding their internal structure. For example, such a well-known technique as “he left slamming the door” contains, in addition to the main implemented attitude - leaving itself - additionally the features of masking flight with anger and an attempt to influence the aggressor - to intimidate him with his “menacingness”. The “I don’t want to talk to you” technique combines avoidance of traumatic contact, expulsion (rejection) of the opponent and the desire to make him more manageable.

Basic defensive attitudes give rise to a wide variety of interpersonal defensive actions, playing the role of guiding tendencies relevant to the key variables of the defense function: distancing, control of the flow of influence and information. The sources of variability in behavioral manifestations lie, firstly, in changes in the intensity of one or another tendency, secondly, in a combination of attitudes, their joint manifestation, and thirdly, in plastic modifications that take into account the peculiarities of the situation and the conditions of the activity. The result of these influences, as well as other adjacent ones, is a specific behavioral act, sometimes very non-trivial, despite the fact that it is formed from a very limited set of primary elements.

The initiator of manipulation (as of any hidden control) certainly has considerable advantages, if only due to the fact that he has the opportunity to prepare and he has the first move. However, for a potential “victim” of manipulation who has the ability to recognize a threat in time, these advantages - surprise, high tempo, planned advantageous distribution of positions - are quite easy to neutralize. After all, an act of hidden control, which has a precisely planned and long-lasting effect, is a work of art - the art of influencing people. This performance has a fine balance of a variety of elements, sometimes in rather bizarre combinations. In most cases, destroying such an artificial (as well as skillful) structure is not difficult, while inventing and successfully implementing hidden control is more difficult than defending against it. Therefore, protection against hidden control is largely a technique. And as you know, technology (as well as craft) is easier to master than art. Therefore, learning hidden control gives more advantages to those defending against it, rather than to the attacking side.

Not every influence requires protection from it. There are many examples of hidden control that benefits the recipient. You must be able to protect yourself from manipulation.

Despite the enormous variety of types of influence, the protection scheme is based on one universal model of countering influence. Knowing it allows you to build reliable protection against any act of influence. You can implement protection by following the universal flowchart below:

1. Don’t give information about yourself
2. Realize that you are being controlled
2.1. Passive protection
2.2. Active protection
2.3.Countermanipulation

Active and passive protection against manipulation

It is advisable to counter the technological tricks of the manipulator with special techniques of passive defense, specifically aimed at repelling the manipulative psychological influence. They allow you to build more reliable barriers and obstacles to manipulative intrusion. These special passive defense techniques include the following.

Concealment by the recipient of the manipulation of his situationally experienced emotions and feelings. Such concealment will not allow the manipulator to “discover” the true emotions and feelings of the recipient of the manipulation and have a psychological impact on them. Emotional “masking” of the addressee throughout the entire period business communication, strict control of the situational feelings he experiences will serve as a kind of barrier to manipulative intrusion.

Distancing the recipient of manipulation from the manipulator. The maximum possible increase in the personal zone of communication with the manipulator within a given business situation allows the recipient of the manipulation to avoid the significant influence of the psychological space of the manipulator and the activated mental complexes included in it, aggression and forceful pressure.

Building semantic and semantic barriers with a manipulator when discussing options for solving a business problem. The recipient of the manipulation refers to the “difficulties” of perceiving the meaning of the information transmitted by the manipulator and the terminology he uses (for example: “The solution to the problem you proposed requires additional elaboration and understanding”; “The interpretation of the terms you use is too controversial and incorrect”).

Avoidance of psychological contact with the manipulator. Avoiding “small conversation” with the manipulator. The “verbal reconnaissance” of the manipulator, undertaken by him in order to establish psychological contact, is ignored by the recipient of the manipulation. Calling the manipulator to line up trust relationships under the conditions proposed by him, the addressee of the manipulation “does not notice” and essentially ignores it.

Identifying metacommunications– hidden meanings, motives, assumptions, preferences, interpretations in the communicative flow of information transmitted by the manipulator. The addressee can establish the “transparency” of the manipulator’s verbal messages by asking a whole series of open, clarifying and explanatory questions (for example: “What do you really mean by offering this solution to the problem?”, “Under what conditions do you want to achieve such effectiveness?” in solving the problem?").

Careful monitoring by the addressee of the manipulator’s responses answering the questions posed and registering the possible occurrence of reservations and slips of the tongue in these answers will help him establish some hidden meaning in the solution to the business problem proposed by the manipulator.

Application of status and role protection. The recipient of the manipulation, with the help of logical arguments and argumentation, makes reference to the need to strictly adhere to his status, his official powers and his professional role, which “do not allow” him to fully accept the solution to the business problem proposed by the manipulator.

Behavioral and operational blocking of the manipulator's actions. Manifestation on the part of the addressee of deliberate absent-mindedness and inattention to the technological tricks of the manipulator, deliberate slowness in mental responses and behavioral actions contributes to blocking the actions of the manipulator.

“Escape” from predictability in behavioral reactions and actions. In response to specially structured communicative requests of the manipulator, who expects to receive responses from stereotypical reactions and behavioral actions, the recipient of the manipulation operationally delays such reactions and actions if they arise in him. This delay can be expressed both in a temporary delay in the addressee's response, and in his deliberately demonstrating indecisiveness and caution. For example, in response to a solution to a business problem proposed by a manipulator that seems very attractive and beneficial for the recipient of the manipulation, he may show hesitation and express doubt about the possibility of implementing such a solution. In this case, the unpredictability of the mental response and behavioral responses of the recipient of manipulation plays an important role. “If the addressee behaves in such a way that he cannot be “calculated,” then the manipulator will have nothing to adapt to.

Focusing the manipulator's attention on the most important tasks for solving a business problem. The manipulator tries in every possible way to divert the attention of the recipient of the manipulation from these tasks, to switch it to secondary goals that obscure from him the circumstances that are really important for making a decision.” Monitoring by the addressee of the substantive significance of the issues under discussion for solving a business problem is undoubtedly a reliable operational method of protection against manipulative psychological influence.

Temporary interruption by the addressee of the manipulation of business contact with the manipulator. The need for such an interruption may be dictated by the emergence of a tense emotional background of business communication, aggression or intense psychological pressure from the manipulator. At the same time, quite “obvious reasons” can serve as a verbally voiced pretext for such an interruption of business contact (to carry out an “urgent order” from a high-status manager, or, on the contrary, to give the executor an “urgent order”, to make an “urgent call”).

The considered special techniques of passive protection against manipulative intrusion have varying degrees of effectiveness, and their use in the technological process of business communication is largely dictated by the given parameters of the business situation and the type of technology used by the manipulator.

Use of psychotechnical techniques of active defense
Along with passive defense techniques, the addressee of manipulation can use active defense techniques in business communication. The main goal of these techniques is to destabilize the activity of the manipulator in such a way that he completely abandons his manipulative intentions.

A significant difference between active defense techniques is not only their total resistance to manipulative intrusion, but also their counter-influence on the manipulator. The most used active anti-manipulative defense techniques in business communication technologies are:

1. A targeted psychological attack on the manipulator carried out by the recipient of the manipulation. The addressee’s use of sharp critical comments, assessments, condemnation, ridicule in relation to manipulative signals and behavioral actions of the manipulator destabilizes the latter’s psyche and forces him to spend a significant part of the energy resources of his information and power supply on protecting his own personal structures. This, in turn, leads to a weakening of the manipulative intrusion;

2. Transformation by the addressee of verbal and non-verbal signals received from the manipulator, taking into account his own interests in solving a business problem. Such a transformation at the initial stage involves the selective selection by the addressee of manipulation of the most significant supporting discourses for him in the communicative flow of information transmitted by the manipulator. Then, based on selective selection, the recipient of the manipulation transforms the supporting discourses taking into account his own interests. By verbally emphasizing the importance of “accepting” the solution to a business problem proposed by the manipulator, the addressee at the same time offers his own scenario for solving it, which takes into account not only the interests of the manipulator, but also his own interests;

3. The recipient partner’s use of psychotechnical techniques of counter manipulation – countermanipulative defense. The peculiarity of this active defense technique is that it reaches the level of equal forceful struggle with the manipulator. Essentially, countermanipulation, as the most powerful method of defense, is a response manipulation that uses the circumstances created by the initial manipulative influence of the attacking subject.” Since any manipulation is unthinkable without a hidden psychological influence, the psychotechnical techniques of counter manipulation are built taking it into account. Having recognized the manipulative intrusion, the recipient of the manipulation carries out his own hidden search for targets of psychological influence in the mental structure of the manipulator, identifying its “weak points” and “ pain points" By influencing them, the addressee can seize the initiative of manipulative control, for example, bringing to the forefront of a business conversation issues that are of primary importance for solving a business problem, instead of secondary topics, the discussion of which the manipulator is trying to impose on him. And therefore, the next main task of the addressee is to “impose” on the manipulator his own criteria for choosing options for solving a business problem and his own model for assessing this choice by initiating them and providing motivational support.

Here we should also keep in mind some instrumental features of counter manipulation.

• Firstly, the counter-manipulative techniques of the recipient partner will be undertaken until the manipulator completely abandons his intentions.
• Secondly, when carrying out counter manipulation, the addressee must simultaneously build in his personal structure unique anti-manipulative “shields” that prevent manipulative intrusion.
• Thirdly, the goals of the counter manipulation undertaken by the addressee are not only to “neutralize” the manipulator, but also to achieve a solution to the business problem, taking into account its own interests.

Countermanipulation
Countermanipulation - the most powerful of the defenses - is a response manipulation on the part of the addressee, which uses the circumstances created by the initial manipulative influence of the initiator.

Execution of counter-manipulation: pretend that you don’t understand that they are trying to manipulate you, start a counter game and end it with a sudden turn of the situation, showing the manipulator your psychological advantage - a psychological blow that leads to the defeat of the manipulator.

Protection from psychological pressure

Everyone knows well how bad it is to be the object of pressure from someone else. A little confused - and you begin to act like an automaton, carrying out one of the children's programs: fleeing, engaging in battle, etc. How to get out of the usual rut?

The first thing you need to do in preparation for your defense is to stop your impulsive reaction and begin research.

This can be done in different ways. Sometimes they recommend: count to ten. However, this has little effect. They also advise: carefully examine the person you are communicating with, look for some details that characterize him. For example, features of clothing, facial expressions, gestures or, say, features of his workplace. This helps better.

It’s even more effective to start tracking all the changes in your partner’s state that arise in the course of his actions. Try to catch your eye: where is it going? Match the content of the words with hand movements or facial expressions. For example, it may turn out that the interlocutor is not looking into your eyes, but somewhere above you or to the side, or maybe down (are you uncomfortable for yourself?). It happens that menacing words contrast with the bustle of hands: tugging at a button, thoughtlessly rearranging something on the table, etc. All this information allows one to make assumptions regarding the partner’s condition, motives, and intentions.

Once you have managed to put yourself in a state of exploration, you can begin to figure out what kind of pressure you are experiencing. If it is pressure or humiliation that is recognized fairly quickly, then you can immediately begin to protect yourself from it.

Protection from psychological pressure
So, you are under pressure: you are experiencing obvious coercion. For example:

• You are asked for something that you really would not like to do, but it is difficult to refuse, since you are dependent on the person asking.
• They offer you to do something, you refuse, but they try to put pressure on you with something.

It is worth recalling that pressure can be exerted using rumors, petty nagging, hidden threats, hints, etc.

1. To buy time, ask questions. Based on the examples given, in the first case it would be good to ask: “Can I disagree?” If your partner said that you are free to choose, then you can refer to this statement and refuse. If a hint was made about your addiction, try asking whether your refusal will entail any consequences.

It is important for you that the relationship between request and dependence sounds clear and distinct. Typically, the aggressor will want to avoid appearing to be the aggressor (especially in the presence of witnesses) and may choose not to press further.

If this relationship was clearly outlined from the very beginning, then the point of questioning will mainly be to gain time to think through further tactics.

In the second case, pressure from the interlocutor can be weakened by a series of clarifying questions:

• What led you to think that I refuse to take responsibility? What am I not taking responsibility for? Who will I answer to? Responsibility must be balanced by the provision of power, what will it be expressed in?
• Why did you decide that I was afraid? What could I be afraid of here? Do you find any other explanations for my refusal?
• What are your suspicions based on? Why did you make this assumption? How can I check your information? Have you checked this information?

The main point of these questions is to find out exactly the reasons why your partner has a power advantage. That is, you should:

2. Set the type of force your opponent uses. You really need to identify the source of his power over you. Then you will be able to more accurately organize a response.

Maybe he is only counting on shouting - the smart thing to do is not to give in, but to wait until his shouting stock runs out, when he starts repeating the same techniques for the second time. Then the third... Or, perhaps, pressure is organized through those present: “Just look...”, “Well, tell me...”, “It’s clear to everyone that...”. Don’t hesitate, carefully study the reactions of those to whom these phrases seem to be addressed. Just the fact that you are looking at these people forces them to give you some kind of signal. It is very rare that there is complete unanimity among observers. It may turn out that there will be someone who will come to your defense. And, at the very least, you can always turn the silence of those present to your advantage.

The main thing is not to let yourself be broken, calmly and slowly object. Look for opportunities to question the identified type of power or weaken it in some other way.

Let's say there is a reference to authority - we weaken either the authority or the scope of applicability of the judgment: they say, for this case it is not suitable, or is only partially suitable. If your partner focuses on his age, find arguments in favor of your age as well.

Do not disparage his arguments in themselves (keep the perspective of cooperation), but limit their applicability to some objective considerations. For example, a partner relies on the same good relationship with you or previously provided services. Without belittling them, show how difficult it is for you to do what is expected of you. Explain in detail the essence of your problems, show why they outweigh the strength of previous services. Of course, all this must be true.

If your partner is trying to influence you due to the high pace of communication (at once), come up with a reason to stop: say that you need to call, turn off the kettle, go away - anything that can serve as a convenient excuse and allow you to interrupt the onslaught. Then set a slower pace of conversation that is comfortable for you. Moreover, every time he starts to rush you, ask again about any detail, “study the problem.” The technique, of course, is bureaucratic, but if a partner can use an “unclean” technique, then it is not always necessary to resist “cleanly.” But this must be done just enough to stop the partner. You should stop taking it as soon as it starts to ruin your relationship.

3. Find a new type of strength that makes you stronger. This could be: someone's support, previous relationships, your role as a money earner or order organizer for the company, etc.

For the sake of maintaining the prospect of cooperation, it is better to avoid using retaliatory pressure overtly. It is best if your arguments relate to any previous agreements. It’s good if you can develop the logic of questioning in such a way that circumstances or objective requirements suggest a different solution - great if it suits both parties (the strength of your ability to analyze the problem is combined with the strength of objective circumstances).

Make sure that you do not get carried away in carrying out attacks on your partner and do not revel in your qualifications as an arguer. After all, you only need to equalize the balance of power. Once you have completed the task of neutralizing the pressure, look for an opportunity to agree on how to solve the problem and what needs to be done to achieve this. You can then discuss how you will interact in similar situations in the future. That is:

4. Offer cooperation. Offer it by the very style of behavior, the nature of the agreements. The main protective effect will be that you have found ways to weaken (destroy) pressure from your partner and counteract your own strength. And there is also a promising result: you teach your partner that it is useless to put pressure on you.

Within the framework of a cooperation orientation, the struggle for future relationships is more important than for immediate benefits (note, the struggle is not with a partner, but for the relationship). Therefore, even if you are losing in a given situation and you have to give in, it would be useful to somehow indicate the prospect of development. There is no point in blaming or trying to infringe on the offender; it is better to leave something (perhaps only, as it were) unspoken, unclear, in order to preserve the opportunity to return to this problem. Yes, you obey, you give in, but you do not agree with this outcome, and expect to change something else.

Avoid threats. Returning to the problem means analyzing it. It will not be difficult for your partner to admit the incorrectness of his behavior after he has achieved his goal. While he is “kind”, get this confession out of him. Later, the very reminder of this conversation will become an obstacle to the repetition of psychological violence. And even if your partner then manages to overcome such an obstacle, the next portion of your influence will be added to the previous one. Gradually, you will “tune” your partner to a more peaceful mood.

So, protection against pressure is as follows:

• Start asking questions to gain time, control yourself, and get ready to organize your defense.
• Find out what type of power (advantage, leverage) your partner uses.
• Find the type of strength in which you are stronger and start using it.
• Catch the moment when the balance of power is leveled: there is no one who is stronger.
• Move to cooperation: start solving problems together, agreeing on what to do next.

Ability to take a punch

Getting stung by one or even several bees can be good for your health. But if you are attacked by a swarm of wasps or find yourself the victim of a poisonous snake bite, then you will be in trouble. Your competitors, ill-wishers or enemies are capable of causing you no less harm simply by using words that hurt your soul as a psychological weapon. And the longer you worry about this, the more likely you are to end up among the losers.

“If a person shows that he is irritated and is not able to control his emotions, he needs to do something other than work with people,” confidently stated the Frenchman Michel Fadoul, who has achieved brilliant success in business at the world level.

Psychological security is a property of a mature personality. It consists of a whole complex of characteristics such as level of intelligence, worldview, attentiveness, tendency to analysis and reflection, critical thinking, emotional stability.

Ask yourself and others more often magical questions: what, where, when, how, why and why? Try to imagine the entire panorama and dynamics of the event, see the whole picture and note contradictions, inconsistencies and blind spots, pay careful attention to the details. They are the necessary material for assessing the reliability of information.

There are many methods of psychological defense. We list some of the most accessible techniques:

"Ventilator" technique. Analyze what you react to most painfully. What irritates you? What makes you mad or sad? Remember the specific words, intonations, gestures of your opponents or offenders.

Close your eyes and remember again all the most offensive, biting, burning words that make you feel confused and worthless or cause powerful outbursts of aggression.

Now imagine that you are sitting opposite the person who is inflicting these psychological blows on you. He is the one who says cruel, hurtful words to you. And you feel yourself starting to get turned on. Create a feeling of impact within yourself. What part of your body reacts to it? What happens: does heat appear throughout the body, or is something shrinking inside, or maybe breathing is simply interrupted? What exactly is happening to you?

Use the emotion ventilation technique. Imagine that between you and the offender there is a powerful fan, which immediately takes his words to the side, their sharp arrows do not reach you.

And one more thing. Make a fig with your right hand and cover it with the palm of your left hand. Mentally direct it at the person who is trying to get you out of peace of mind. Remember how the same thing helped you “take revenge” on your offender as a child.

Open your eyes, and you will probably feel that you are now able to withstand such a psychological blow.

Reception "Aquarium". If, when communicating with people who are negatively disposed towards you, you continue to react painfully to their attacks, use this technique. Imagine that between you and your offender there is a thick glass wall of an aquarium. He says something unpleasant to you, but you only see him and don’t hear the words, they are absorbed by the water and only bubble with foam on the surface. That's why they don't affect you. And you, without losing your composure and peace of mind, do not succumb to provocation, do not react to offensive words. And thanks to this, you turn the situation in your favor.

Disneyland reception. The painfulness of a psychological blow can be softened, or even completely eliminated, if you treat all people like little children. You don't take offense at stupid children, do you?

Imagine that you find yourself alone against a whole group of people who are negatively disposed towards you. The preponderance of forces is on their side. And you have only one chance to turn the tide: imagine them as a group of children on the playground. They get angry, act up, scream, wave their arms, throw toys on the floor, and trample them underfoot. In general, they try in every possible way to piss you off. But you, as an adult, wise man, treat their antics as childish pranks and continue to remain calm until they run out of steam. You do not perceive their words as insults, you do not react to their attacks. It’s funny for you to watch all this as an adult...

Reception "The Fox and the Grapes". If there have been cases in your past when someone managed to annoy you so much that the experience of defeat remains to this day, use the technique of rationalization, removing negative “anchors.” Remember the fable “The Fox and the Grapes”: not reaching the bunch of grapes, the fox said that she didn’t really want grapes - they were sour and green.

Reception "Ocean of Calm". Imagine yourself as the main character of the parable: “The ocean receives the waters of many stormy rivers, but at the same time remains motionless. The one into whom all thoughts and emotions flow in the same way remains dispassionate in peace.”

Theater of the Absurd reception. You can use such a psychological defense technique as bringing the situation to the point of absurdity. This is basically the same as making a molehill out of a molehill. That is, to hyperbolize out loud beyond recognition what someone is only hinting at, and thus unexpectedly knock psychological weapons out of the hands of one’s enemies or ill-wishers. Your goal is to make sure that any attacks from an ill-wisher no longer cause anything but laughter. This is the solution to the problem of how to protect yourself from psychological attack.

Puppet Theater reception. If you find it difficult to communicate with people who are emotionally significant to you, use this technique. Imagine that they are just caricatured characters from the TV show “Dolls”. And let them say nonsense when communicating with each other. And you just watch it from the outside and make your own assessments. Like, this smart guy pretends to be a superman, and the other one pretends to be a strong personality, a professional, and he himself is a weakling, just bluffing. Play this show until you laugh. Your laughter is an indication that the technique worked.

Techniques for neutralizing annoying comments and objections

Where to start when the interlocutor makes a remark to us or raises an objection? How to behave in such cases? Firstly, we will try to understand the meaning of the remark by asking questions, we will lead the interlocutor to answer himself to the remark he made or refuse it. We admit that he is right and will continue our speech, especially if the comments were made to the point (professional comments). We will try to turn the remark into an incentive for further speech (“every fabric has two sides”), to give examples from real life that refute the remark made. However, we must strongly oppose inappropriate or derogatory remarks (if our organization or enterprise, our state or our personality are underestimated).

From this strategy, over time, several technical methods of neutralizing (refusing) comments have been developed, some of them are universal. Let us dwell on them in a concise form and with the most necessary comments, and the order of listing does not depend on the effectiveness of the method.

2. “Boomerang” method. Many of the comments, contrary to the wishes of our interlocutor, in fact directly or indirectly speak about the advantages of the draft solution we have described, and we can use them as the starting point of our argument.

3. “Compression” of several comments. The impact of several comments and objections is significantly softened if you respond to them “in one fell swoop,” that is, in one phrase, concentrating everything essential in it and avoiding endless discussions.

4. Approval and destruction. This method is used against objective and correct comments and objections. We first accept these comments and objections, and then neutralize their significance by repeatedly explaining to the interlocutor the meaning/advantages and features of our proposed solution. Sometimes it can be considered a success that we manage to at least localize and limit the practical significance of the objection.

5. Paraphrasing. This method consists of repeating and at the same time softening the interlocutor's remark, to which we can give a satisfactory answer or simply paraphrase it.

6. Conditional consent lies in the fact that we first admit that the interlocutor is right (often with minor comments), and then gradually win him over to our side. Such actions make it possible to establish and maintain contact with the interlocutor even when, at first glance, a positive outcome of the conversation has no prospects.

7. "Elastic Defense" is used in cases where our interlocutor mechanically bombards us with comments and objections in an irritated and dissatisfied tone. In such a situation, it is better not to directly respond to comments, but to make sure that the thread of the conversation does not break. When the interlocutor subsequently returns to his remarks, and this will definitely happen, he will already lose in power.

8. Accepted premises mainly refer to subjective comments that are very difficult to respond to, and therefore we can afford to refuse the interlocutor an answer and simply accept his remark if it does not have a significant impact on the essence of the conversation.

9. Comparison. It is often the case that a remark is most easily neutralized by using analogies rather than answering it directly. Comparisons can be made from an area that our interlocutor knows, or a parallel can be drawn from one’s own experience.

10. Survey method. This method provides maximum protection from the risk of ending up in the stormy waters of an unpleasant discussion. It is based on the fact that we do not respond to the interlocutor’s comments, but ask him ourselves, and construct the questions in such a way that he himself answers his comments. The disadvantage of this method is its extensiveness.

11. Method “yes..., but...” lies in the fact that up to a certain point we agree with the interlocutor in order to reduce his desire to contradict us and prepare him for counter-argumentation. Example: “You are absolutely right. But have you taken into account that...?” Over time, due to frequent use, this very “but” may depreciate somewhat. In addition, this “but” to some extent acts as a warning signal (“but now he will finally say what he wanted to say”). Therefore, we can recommend the “yes... and...” method and the “yes...?” method, which is only a modification of the “yes... but...” method. In that case, the above example would look like this: “You are absolutely right. Have you taken into account that...?”

12. Protective measure simplified means that we structure our speech in such a way that the interlocutor does not have any comments at all, since we do not give him a reason for this. Many potential criticisms can be dispelled in advance if the main arguments are decomposed into a large number of partial ones, which can also be expressed in the form of questions. It is recommended that after expressing each partial argument, using sub-questions, check whether it is accepted by the interlocutor.

13. Warning. An unpleasant remark that you can probably expect from your interlocutor can be easily softened if you include it first in your speech. By this we simultaneously determine the moment of response. And this is undoubtedly an advantage.

14. Proof of meaninglessness. If all our responses to the interlocutor's remark indicate its inconsistency, we can push the interlocutor to admit the meaninglessness of his remark. But this must be done with maximum tact and only if it is really necessary, adhering to the well-known folk wisdom “after Senka and the hat.”

15. Postponement. Practice shows that a remark loses its meaning as the conversation moves away from the moment when it was made. But along with this, you need to be very careful with the wording: “Let me come back to this issue later. We will touch upon this issue again at such and such a place. Do you agree with this proposal? This method is used only when the remark made greatly interferes with the further conduct of the conversation or completely blocks it. In any case, if we are already using this method, it is certainly necessary to dwell on this remark before the end of the conversation, that is, at such a moment that we consider favorable for us. After all, it is known that deferred and inconsistent remarks always arise again during subsequent contacts and conversations.

16. Controlling reactions. When neutralizing comments, it is very useful to check the interlocutor’s reaction. The easiest way to do this is with intermediate questions. We calmly ask the interlocutor if he is satisfied with the answer. If not, we suggest that he look into this issue in more detail. It is especially important to carefully observe the interlocutor, since his answer must be in accordance with his internal state. This, however, may not be the case, which is relatively easy to notice from external manifestations (impatience, disapproving position, increased tone).

17. No superiority. If we, almost without thinking, successfully parry every remark, gradually our interlocutor will form the opinion that he is sitting in front of a experienced “professor” against whom there is no chance to fight. Therefore, at the first opportunity he will again try to launch a counterattack. Due to this:

• Don't parry every objection
• we need to show that we are not alien to human weaknesses
• It is especially important to avoid immediately responding to every remark, because by doing this we indirectly underestimate the interlocutor: we solve what has been bothering him for many days or weeks in a couple of seconds. Admit it, it’s unlikely that you yourself would want to find yourself in such a situation.

18. Preparation for neutralizing comments. This phase, as well as the entire conversation in general, requires thorough preparation. You should become as familiar as possible with the topic and content of the conversation and with supporting information and information. You need to think in advance about the personality of your interlocutor, collect information about him, his reactions and habits. You should prepare in advance for possible comments and objections that can be expected during the conversation.

It remains to determine what moment is most favorable for neutralizing comments. It is very important to understand that choosing the right moment to respond to a comment is much more important than is commonly believed, and is often as important as the content of the response itself. When to respond to comments made, the following options can be offered: before the comment is made; immediately after it is made; later; never.
Let's now see when and what needs to be decided.

To. If you know that the interlocutor will sooner or later make a certain remark, it is recommended to pay attention to it yourself and explain to him what the consequences may be. Advantages:

• we will avoid contradictions with the interlocutor and thereby reduce the risk of a quarrel in the conversation, we have the opportunity to choose the wording of the remark ourselves, thereby reducing, as far as possible, the severity of the remark;
• we have the opportunity to choose the most appropriate moment in the conversation to respond to such a remark and provide ourselves with the time necessary to think about the answer;
• Trust between us and our interlocutor will be strengthened, since he will see that we are not trying to fool him, but on the contrary, we clearly state all the pros and cons.

Straightaway. This is the most accepted method for responding and should be used in all normal situations.

Later. Postponing an answer to a later moment makes sense if an appropriate answer cannot be found at the same moment and if an immediate answer might jeopardize the normal flow of the conversation. In accordance with this, we must in any case ensure that we have the right to independently decide at what point we will respond to the interlocutor. And especially if there is no desire to directly contradict him, so the answer is postponed until a more convenient moment from a tactical and psychological point of view. This is also used when they want to reduce the significance of a remark, since it loses its meaning as the conversation continues. It is important to remember that due to the delay, the need to respond to any comments may disappear altogether: the answer arises on its own after a certain time. It may also happen that the interlocutor's remark completely goes beyond the scope of our conversation.

Never. Certain types of remarks, excuses, especially hostile remarks, and above all those that represent a general hindrance to the conversation, especially at the beginning, should be completely ignored if possible. The same applies to excuses, tactical maneuvers, as well as remarks that do not affect the essence of the business conversation. And also in cases where it is possible to admit that the interlocutor is right without prejudice.

Reliable protection against offensive words

Hurtful words await us every day - often when we are least prepared for it. And, it seems, everywhere: on the road during rush hour, when the worst qualities in people come out; in queues, when we run out of patience; at work and at the holiday table, where people consider rudeness almost permissible.

Critical attacks are so varied that they defy classification. There are “light”, everyday injections (congratulations, finally!), and those when the eyes darken from resentment (“I see you’re busy doing what you do best—eat again”).

Sometimes words simply reveal insensitivity. Having gathered his courage, the son told his mother that his wife had left him, and in response he heard: “It took her a long time to get ready.”

It is believed that in the family we can hide from the world. But in fact, relatives say to each other things that they would never say to a stranger, often adding in justification: “You know, I’m saying this because I love you.”

One woman recalls how one day, when she was 12 years old, she was standing in front of a mirror and her mother suddenly said: “Don’t worry, honey. If the nose still grows, it will be possible to have surgery.” Until that day, it had never occurred to the girl that her nose was not perfect.

Especially “good” are veiled insults that are called “constructive criticism”, although they have nothing to do with it. They are easily recognized by accompanying phrases such as “I hope I can speak frankly with you” or “I am telling you this for your own benefit.” It turns out that you should almost admire the sincerity of the critic and appreciate his concern, while you are having difficulty recovering from a blow to the gut.

When defending yourself against insults, it is easy to find yourself in a vicious circle of blows and counter-blows. Fortunately, there are ways to fend off an attacker without losing your dignity. The next time you find yourself the target of criticism, try these tips.

1. Try to understand. Those who criticize others are often filled with resentment themselves. If you cannot understand what is really bothering the person who insulted you, ask him about it. Remember: offense is not always intended for you personally. Take a look
look at the situation from the outside and look for the reason.

The waitress is rude to you not because she didn’t like you in any way - it’s just that her loved one left her the day before. The driver, cutting you off, does not want to annoy you - he is in a hurry to see a sick child. Let him go ahead, support him. By trying to understand those whose words hurt you, you will be able to bear the insult more easily.

2. Analyze what was said. In her book, The Subtle Art of Verbal Self-Defense, Suzette Hayden Elgin suggests breaking down a remark that offended you and responding to the unspoken reproach without playing the victim. For example, having heard “if you loved me, you would lose weight,” you can answer like this: “And how long ago did you decide that I don’t love you?”

3. Turn to face the offender. Dealing with insults is not easy. Directness, in particular, helps. Remove the negative charge, for example, with this question: “For some reason, do you need to offend me?” or “Do you understand how words like that might be perceived?”

You can also ask the person to clarify the meaning of the comment: “What do you mean?” or “I want to check if I understood you correctly?” Once your critic feels that his game has been figured out, he will leave you alone. After all, when you are caught red-handed, it is very shameful.

4. Use humor. A friend of mine once heard: “Do you have a new skirt? In my opinion, chairs are upholstered with this fabric.” She was not taken aback and replied: “Well, sit on my lap.”

My friend’s mother spent her entire life zealously keeping the house clean. One day she discovered a spider’s web on her daughter and asked: “What is this?” “I’m conducting a science experiment,” the daughter retorted. The best weapon against offensive criticism is laughter. A witty response will help you deal with almost any offender.

5. Come up with a symbol. One woman told me that her husband always criticized her in public. Then she began to carry a small towel with her and whenever her husband said something offensive to her, she covered her head with the towel. He was so ashamed that he got rid of his bad habit.

6. Don't mind. Agree with everything. If your wife says: “It seems to me that you have gained ten kilograms, dear,” answer: “Twelve, to be exact.” If she doesn't back down: "Well, what are you going to do with overweight? - try this: “Nothing, probably. I’ll just be fat for a while.” A hurtful remark is only as powerful as you give it power. By agreeing with criticism, you disarm the critic.

7. Ignore the injection. Listen to the comment, tell yourself it’s inappropriate, and forget it. The ability to forgive is one of the most important abilities that help us live and which we can develop in ourselves.

If you are not yet quite ready to forgive, let the speaker know that his remark has been heard, but there will be no response. The next time someone makes a sarcastic comment, wipe an imaginary stain off your shirt. When the person who offended you asks what you are doing, say: “I thought something hit me, but I must have been mistaken.” When the abuser knows that you know too, he becomes much more careful. Or pretend you're not interested. Blink, yawn, and look away as if to say, “Who cares?” People can't stand being considered boring.

8. Add 10 percent. You will never be able to completely protect yourself from offensive remarks. Try to perceive some of them as natural manifestations of irritation that happen to everyone. Most of us try not to offend others, but sometimes we make mistakes. So protect yourself when you think it's necessary, but also consider the 10 percent rule:

• in 10 percent of cases it turns out that the item you bought is cheaper elsewhere.
• in 10 percent of cases, an item you lent to someone is returned to you damaged.
• in 10 percent of cases even yours best friend may say something without thinking and then regret what he said.

In other words, grow thicker skin. It is usually easiest to assume that people are trying to do the best they can, and many are simply unaware of how their behavior affects others.

Constantly holding the defense, proving you are right and controlling the situation is too expensive. Try to forgive and in return you will receive much less insults and troubles than these notorious 10 percent.

When a man insulted the Buddha, he said: “My son, if anyone refuses to accept a gift, to whom does it belong?” “To the one who gives,” the man answered. “So,” continued the Buddha, “I refuse to accept your offensive words.”

The world is full of people who put others down to gain self-esteem. Do not accept insults, even when they shower you with them as gifts of love. By ignoring them, you will relieve stress, strengthen your relationships with others, and make your life more joyful.

Laws of psychological security

Law one: To best repel attacks, security must be excessive and protection must be adequate. In order to live without unbearable problems and resiliently fend off threats on the street, rudeness at work and ridicule at home, both security and protection are required. If a person’s psychological arsenal contains many sophisticated psychotechniques, but his overall security, that is, the supply of vitality, is at zero, then we have a type of informed impotent. If a person is strong and self-confident, but at the same time does not know a single technique and reacts to all blows in only one way: does not notice them, then we have a type of brute strongman, a kind of psychological rhinoceros. Both are undesirable extremes. A healthy balance between strength and skill is required.

Why should the power of security be excessive? Because in this case it plays not only a reflective, but also a preventive role. If a person exudes strength and self-confidence, then who would want to attack him? The victory is half won even before the battle, which in the East is considered the highest aerobatics of the art of battle. And even when the attack occurs, and the blow falls on an excessively powerful aura, the collision quickly stops.

Excessive security allows a person to spend a minimum of tension and energy on repelling blows - after all, even according to the laws of physics, an increase in power reduces the force of tension.

Why should defense be adequate to a blow or attack? Firstly, because usually a blow or attack is of a one-time, quickly passing nature, and you should not strain in response as if you were dealing with constant hostilities. Secondly, you should not shoot cannons at sparrows. Why deliberately strain yourself beyond measure when you still have body armor for general protection in stock?

Law two: The ability to stand up for yourself prevents most attacks. Preventing an attack is still an art of a higher order than the ability to competently conduct psychological warfare. Of course, the price we pay for peace is always important. If, in order to avoid the unpleasant feeling of struggle for ourselves, we continually conclude an unfavorable “Brest-Litovsk Peace” with every boor and manipulator, then this does not solve the problem. By definition, it is impossible to pacify an aggressor, and we inflict unnecessary injuries on ourselves with such unnecessary compromises. Therefore, a peaceful strategy of behavior must have an overtone of force. We must learn to communicate with people in such a way that they feel our strength and understand that they are not dealing with toothless pacifists, but with strong and confident people who can stand up for themselves.

What is such a protected force that diverts conflicts? It is a fusion of wisdom, which foresees the possibility of an attack and takes action in advance, charm, which creates such an atmosphere around a person that one does not want to attack him, and confident power, which includes the will that parries attacks, a sufficiently high self-esteem that is not subject to direct influence, the ability not to mince words, a good sense of humor both in relation to other people and in relation to oneself. A person who radiates such power averts many types of conflicts and attacks very far from himself. Fighting as a type of gross aggressive energy bypasses it even on a subtle level.

Law Three: In conflicts, it is not so much direct blows that are scary as their chronic consequences. A severe psychological blow, even if it is strong and unexpected, can seriously damage our personality and worsen the condition, but it rarely breaks a person’s inner core at once. If he is a one-time phenomenon, then the traces left by him gradually disappear. But if you have received several strong blows in a row, or you have been subjected to petty but persistent bullying, provocations, and manipulation for a long time, then the resulting mental wound begins to bleed constantly. Psychological trauma occurs, which is detected by other people and periodically provokes them to aggression, ridicule, rudeness, and clicks on this particular weak point. The wound does not heal, on the one hand, because of these external influences, and on the other hand, because of the person’s depressive experiences, which corrode his mental tissue from the inside and intensify the trauma. Many psychological problems, experienced by a person, are a kind of blows extended over time, or, in medical terms, a chronicle that is more difficult to treat than acute diseases. Therefore, without serious work to get rid of mental trauma, you will never be able to find true security.

Law Four: A person can be psychologically “broken,” but it is impossible to completely break him without his consent. Each of us can receive an unexpected blow or simply meet an aggressive and at the same time stronger person than us. It is possible that the trials that befall us will be more difficult than we can bear. They penetrate our personality and aura. However, the human core cannot be broken suddenly and at once - it is too deep. To break a human personality, a person's consent is required, even unconsciously. If you defend yourself and your dignity, it is impossible to completely break you. As Hemingway said well on this topic: “Man can be destroyed, but he cannot be defeated.” Therefore, if you want to maintain the integrity of your personality in critical and extreme situations, learn to stand to the end and not agree to defeat and concession, even on an unconscious level.

Law Five: Internal psychological support is always stronger than any external support. When you are often attacked and you begin to lack strength, you usually lose your balance and try to look for support and support outside. For some time you succeed, but then for one reason or another the external support stops, and the person loses his balance again. The best option support and protection will be the internal support of a person, which involves turning to serious psychological and spiritual goals and values ​​in difficult times. External support for a person subjected to blows and attacks can be very effective and impressive, but it is fragile, and internal support, despite all the external fragility and unpresentability, turns out to be very real and strong.

Law Six: It is not weakness and insecurity that is scary, but the reluctance to overcome it. You can be very weak person and have a fragile, painful psyche, but if you consciously work on yourself, it will be less dangerous for you than if you are a strong and confident being who has stopped working on yourself. By applying diligence, energy and will, you can forge strength from weakness, but if you do not apply any force, you can lose your natural abilities.

Law Seven: In real life, incomplete openness does not give a person true security. If you have turned your life into a complete defense, there is nothing good about it - you stop the healthy exchange of energy and information, turn into an ever-lagging retrograde, robbing yourself, and deprived of living experience. If you have accepted the idea, fashionable among pseudo-esotericists and bioenergeticists, that with a pure heart there is no need to defend yourself at all, then you have become an open platform for all the winds and influences of life. Are you really sure that your heart is so pure and your mind so wise that you voluntarily abolished all immunity in your body? Then your actions resemble the behavior of some fantastic state that disbanded its border troops and eliminated borders and customs. Do you think that in this case, first of all, good people will pour across the border? No, the myth that defending yourself is harmful is itself very harmful.

We can partly agree with those people who argue that constant protection is not needed, if we understand by it a special technique that erects a permanent shield around the individual, blocking access to unwanted information. However, the shield of constant security as natural psychological immunity from aggression and evil is very necessary. And special techniques are only useful in specific situations.

So, constant security is always needed. This means that a person’s personality must be integral, the aura dense and strong, ending with a protective network that firmly protects the person from blows and attacks, like a state border. But defense techniques can and should periodically change and alternate depending on who the person is dealing with. With close friends, it is enough to simply be a strong, protected, but open person who does not use any special methods of protection. When communicating with enemies, you need both security and protection, based on the alternation of different techniques, that is, on the principle of complete secrecy. In general, life requires a reasonable balance between closedness and openness.

Traits and qualities of a protected personality
A truly secure person cannot be a self-centered egocentric, a complete egoist, or a closed introvert. He has a healthy openness to the world and is able to easily establish relationships with the outside world, with people and with his immediate environment. Contact, openness, and goodwill in communication help him freely attract more and more new friends who protect him in difficult times.

A protected person has managed to curb his deep-seated aggressiveness, and therefore, in relationships with people, he is not inclined to make sudden movements and strike thoughtlessly, which inevitably cause retaliatory actions. He transformed his innate aggressiveness into grit and the will to achieve. He is good-natured and forgiving, but behind these properties he has a powerful core hidden somewhere deep down, an inner strength that comes to the surface only if real danger arises.

A secure person relies not so much on the attitude of other people towards himself, but on how he himself relates to his own personality and behavior. He is self-sufficient or strives to be so, and in the course of communication he knows how to rely on himself, without looking for constant support from the outside. He is not afraid to express his point of view, even if it differs from the opinion of the majority. He knows how to defend his own interests, relying on a code of honor. He is able to make decisions and bear reasonable responsibility for them.

A truly secure person is not prone to painful self-examination and mental analysis of other people's opinions about his own person. He is a holistic person for whom thought and action are inseparable. He may seriously ponder for some time whether he should take this or that action or not, but if the decision is made, he will no longer hesitate and will be able to cast aside all doubts. In most situations it's okay for him more important than nuances relationships, although he knows how to insist on his point of view and his own decision, without offending other people and correctly explaining to them the motives for his personal choice. If he is by nature too sensitive and thin-skinned, he gradually forms in himself a kind of corset of security that softens the blows.

A secure person is a purposeful person. In any situation, he knows well and remembers what he ultimately wants. He does not wander along the winding paths of life, but tries to choose the road that leads him to his goal in the shortest way.

A secure person is a person with the right attitude towards time. He always manages to do the most important things in his life on time and by this alone protects himself from possible reproaches, dissatisfaction and high expectations. He lives a full life in the present and at the same time always aims at the future. He was able to learn from the past, taking on board everything useful that he encountered in life, and at the same time coped with most of the psychological traumas. When faced with situations similar to previous ones that caused injuries, he does not shrink, like a rabbit freezing in silent horror before a boa constrictor, he remains calm and confident that he will be able to overcome this situation with dignity. He remembers that in the end, as Solomon said: “This too shall pass!”

A protected person adheres to a certain order, clarity and system in his life. In his daily existence there is no place for chaos and confusion that interferes with the successful achievement of goals. As a result, his actions acquire such a successful rhythm that carries a protective force and absorbs many blows. People feel this rhythm, involuntarily become imbued with its power and begin to adapt to it, and they do not have an impulse to aggression.

A secure person has the quality of healthy self-confidence and self-esteem, which radiates from his aura and creates a special atmosphere around him that one does not want to disturb with dissonant actions. People are automatically imbued with this atmosphere of self-respect that this person carries within himself, and then they can no longer rebuild themselves on a different wavelength. The energy of self-esteem is contagious in the good sense of the word.

A secure person reacts correctly to obstacles. Obstacles not only do not suppress him, but, on the contrary, inspire him to new efforts and achievements. Such a person only gets excited at the sight of new obstacles and is always determined to overcome them. He is protected from depression and doubt, even if such a significant obstacle has arisen on his way, which is usually called insurmountable. But even in this case, he will find a way out: either he will retreat, accumulate strength and deliver a direct crushing blow to the obstacle, breaking its defense, or he will find workarounds, or he will wait until the obstacle naturally weakens and clears the way for him. Even if an obstacle, from an external point of view, is insurmountable in principle, he will still attack it, at least in order to toughen himself internally and practice overcoming it. Only in this way can you develop your strength and patience.

In case of failures, intractable problems or mistakes made, a protected person knows how to use an excellent method of defense that instantly devalues ​​the threat, reducing its strength - humor. He applies this medicine not only to the direct enemy or other people involved in the conflict, but also to the entire situation, being able to look at it as if from the outside and laugh at it. He is extremely capable of laughing at himself, both alone and in the presence of other people, which very well disarms attackers who expect him to suffer from the victim syndrome, always reacting to a threat with excessive seriousness and internal pressures. The humor of a protected person, on the one hand, can be considered as a manifestation of his excess vitality and ingenuity, the ability to always find an unexpected way out of a dead end or offer a look at it from an unusual point of view and laugh at an imaginary dead end, and on the other hand, it is a manifestation of a person’s deep wisdom , who understands well that nothing lasts forever under the sun, and therefore it is not worth taking many problems, threats and psychological blows so seriously and to heart. Such humor presupposes a person’s ability to instantly find words and resourcefully respond to any blow or attack against him.

A protected person is a balanced person who can calmly accept angry attacks, outbursts of irritation and threats. He is in harmony with himself, knows how to accept himself as he is, as a starting point for further improvement and perfection, and has a close connection with the center of himself, with his own soul and spirit. He values ​​his state of emotional balance more than profit or the desire to annoy another person and therefore does not agree to easily and thoughtlessly exchange it for the dubious pleasure of anger or irritation, a concession to which will still not bring desired result. He consciously maintains stability and calm within himself and tries to introduce these qualities into his behavior, which is regarded by other people as restraint and good manners.

A protected person must have a considerable supply of vitality and health in order to energetically repel any attacks. This applies to cases of passive reflection, when a person silently and calmly listens to threats, attacks or hysterics, but does not internally break down and maintains a stable sense of self, and to cases of active reflection of aggression, when he has to conduct a tough dialogue, gives biting answers, parries accusations with counter-accusations or irony.

The protective power of image
A secure person cannot help but think about the impression he makes on the world around us, consisting not only of friends and neutral-minded people, but also of ill-wishers and even enemies. We are talking not only about the rather rare breed of consistent personal lifelong enemies, but also about the much more common situational enemies, or, more precisely, adversaries that arise when our interests suddenly and quite seriously intersect with the interests of other people. Then these people instantly become our enemies. In order to have fewer such opponents, we need to take care of our image created in the outside world, or, as they say now, about the image. A protected person, depending on the characteristics of his character, can choose several types of image that play the role of protection:

• a modest person who keeps a low profile, and at the same time a strong, confident professional, busy with his work (such people are extremely rarely attacked);
• a powerful armored tank, a man with the psychological skin of an elephant, who is so confident and calm that it is impossible to hurt him;
• a charming and friendly person who is so pleasant in personal communication and is able to radiate warmth that you somehow don’t want to hurt or attack him;
• a witty mocker who doesn’t mince his words and doesn’t mind, in the language of Shukshin’s hero, “cutting off” anyone who dares to offend him;
• an unpredictable person who is better not to touch, because he can do anything in response;
• a person with great connections, behind whom there are serious forces and therefore it is better not to mess with him.

Image, even in one of the listed options, is not one isolated property of a person, but an alloy of many properties that manifest themselves in the form of a person’s role behavior and self-image, which he must remember and which he must constantly demonstrate.

Nurturing the necessary qualities
These and many other properties form the basis of the personality and behavior of a protected person. The question arises: how should he acquire them if he does not possess them at all or possesses them, but to a rudimentary degree?

The acquisition of properties that protect a person cannot occur instantly at his capricious desire. One of the most excellent instructors of such education is an interesting, difficult life, full of various trials. It hardens a person, forming a powerful armor of character and spirit from the jelly-like amorphous material of the psyche. However, the art of living such a life could educate us into a person capable of standing up for ourselves, and therefore for others, weaker ones. And such art is not given into the hands of a lazy or soulless person. If you start teaching a person to swim by throwing him out of a boat into deep water, he may drown. How many people, thrown into the sea of ​​life, without prior preparation, supervision and support, drowned or broke down - the pressure was too strong. Therefore, the trials of life, inevitable on the path of any purposeful person, especially those trying to educate themselves into a more perfect being, must be supplemented by a system of self-education and conscious efforts to acquire these qualities.

In what cases does a person need protection? Of course, in the event of an attack, including a mental one. Moreover, these attacks can be both conscious and unconscious. Against the background of general physical well-being, a person, after communicating with another person, may feel weak, tired, and drowsy. The overall feeling is as if my strength has gone. And they actually left - the interlocutor, perhaps unconsciously, fed on your energy. But this is not the worst attack. It is more terrible when the mental attack is committed deliberately. To protect yourself from unpleasant consequences such an attack exists mental defense.

Mental protection and its types

Sometimes an attack is made on a person’s mental shell in order to destroy stereotypes of seeing the world. In this case, the victim is visited by doubts. It happens that such an attack turns out to be for the benefit of a person, although he feels uncomfortable for some time, which can affect his emotional state and health. But in case of panic, a mental breakdown can also occur.
The mental body cannot remain in an amorphous state for a long time, so a person either returns to his previous views or leans toward a new worldview. The latter is more beneficial for a person, since the frame of the mental shell becomes better than it was before. But something else is important - how to protect yourself from an attack whose purpose is to destroy your mental shell? Mental protection can be accomplished in several ways. The best effect is to combine these methods into one.

• Mental shield. This type of protection is mainly used by magicians; there is a certain ritual for this. But ordinary people who have such abilities as stubbornness, reluctance to listen to other people’s opinions, strong will, can also build a mental shield.
• Share your energy if you have the ability to quickly generate it. If you feel bad in a certain society, exclude it; someone around you is annoying you - do not communicate with him.
• Think logically, not with feelings. Mental attacks are difficult for emotional people to endure. In this case, such a person needs to learn to manage his emotions.
• Disbelief in anomalous phenomena can also serve as a defense, but only if the attack was not so serious.
• An effective defense against mental attacks is to imagine a mirror in the solar plexus area. Protection is carried out thanks to the law of reflection.

What to do if your defense against mental attacks is weak

It is possible that your protection from mental attacks It may turn out to be weak or you, out of ignorance, were unable to build it. A broken state does not give you peace. What is the way to return to balance?

• Try not to focus on your condition, but do something that gives you pleasure and completely absorbs you - switch.
• A walk in the fresh air and simple physical exercises in nature will help your mental body recover.
• Taking a shower can provide a tangible effect. At the same time, you should imagine how droplets of water, flowing down your body, cleanse it.

Use mantras to cleanse your mental body.

Mental defense and attack

Nowadays only the lazy do not practice mental attacks. What advantage does magic provide? The first, and most obvious, it would seem, is impunity. If a person annoys you, then you can simply get rid of him. You can “push through” the decisions you need, you can easily climb the career ladder. Here I am talking about the so-called black magicians or dark neophytes.

A dark neophyte is a person who, due to his beliefs or actions, has consciously accepted the dark side. He is not dangerous in himself, the danger comes only from his teacher or from the egregor, under whose protection he is.

The dark side provides ample opportunities for self-realization. For example, your knowledge at the moment is enough to do terrible things. Due to the deterioration of your karma, due to the depletion of your life supply, at the expense of your soul, which is absorbed by the dark side (this is the “payment” for power), you can harm, zombify, hypnotize, etc.

But not everything is so simple for dark neophytes: they are obliged to obey their mentor, usually a strong magician who succumbed to temptation and turned away from the bright path. Usually his power is enormous and he reluctantly shares it with his novices, giving them objects of power in return for their devoted service to him. Without an object of power, dark neophytes are nothing.

The craze for black magic makes it possible for black magicians to choose strong students for themselves. Out of hundreds, someone will be found. And your passion for the light path will cause some reaction from the dark egregors. Therefore, it is necessary to at least know how to protect yourself from all this.

In addition to the usual energy attack, which, as a rule, is used purposefully very rarely, there are several other types of combat.

Mental. Starting from the fact that another boss calls your boss and asks you to fire you. Or the unexpected arrival of orderlies and taking you to a psychiatric clinic. Or just calls and letters with threats. Some psychological techniques, together with subsequent defenses, will remove this type of attack that is unwanted for you.

Astral. This is when your astral body is abused by dark personalities. There are powerful defenses against this type of attack: Rituals, runes, talismans, etc. They will protect you from these impacts. And I have never met a person capable of breaking through the protective runic circle of watchtowers if they were installed correctly.

Mental. With limited sensitivity, if someone decides to read your thoughts, you simply won’t feel it.

Protection against unwanted contact

Hold a visualized pentagram in the Ajna chakra area. Usually this scares you away right away.

Think logically, not with feelings.

Now let's look at the problem of mental and psychic protection from so-called psychic and magical attacks. Perhaps you have already heard something about them.

There is a group of people, fortunately not very large, who are happy to attempt mental attacks on others. By telling stories about imaginary or real psychic attacks that they themselves carried out or repelled, they try to strengthen their prestige, counting on respect and deference.

The most common signs of a psycho-mental attack are:

• mental and physical weakness;
• feeling drowsy and tired;
• problems with concentration;
• feeling that vitality is leaving;
• other people's thoughts, emotions, visions come;
• a constant sensation of the presence of some person or immaterial being.

Among parapsychologists, very often the signs mentioned above are considered the result of a psycho-energetic attack or manipulation. However, this is not always the case. Fortunately, actual attacks are rare.

People who are hypersensitive to the weakest energies (almost not felt by other people) believe that they are often subject to such attacks. Such people, staying in geopathogenic zones or near installations that create a strong electromagnetic field, may experience similar symptoms.

Another reason for negative feelings may be the natural ability for many people to equalize their level of vital energy according to the principle of connecting vessels. This often happens in the family.

When one person feels bad, the others subconsciously “give” them excess of their own energy. Their health suddenly deteriorates.

An example would be a wandering headache. Mechanisms of this type most often come into play in close partnerships or in a parent-child situation.

Sometimes there are people who unknowingly cause the phenomenon described above - both in acquaintances and strangers. This is how they strengthen their energy using the presence of another person. They are often said to "drink all the blood."

“As a result of such meetings, victims cannot work normally and act actively, they have problems with concentration. They must rest and gain strength again.

There is evidence that some people in concentration camps survived in those terrible conditions precisely thanks to such energy recharging.

If someone does (or has done) something like this unknowingly, this cannot be blamed on him. However, you need to learn to protect yourself from such actions. Protection is especially important when a person acts quite consciously.

There are two schools of thought for solving this problem. One proposes to transfer excess energy to people who require it, that is, to help them. Naturally, this method can only be applied by those who can generate large number energy.

By giving their own energy, they not only do not weaken themselves, but also support others. For now, we will deal with another school, which categorically orders: “Do not give your energy to others.”

A person’s biofield shell is his most basic defense against the harmful effects of other people. It is difficult to imagine how many times a day our biofield is exposed to this effect, and how much it is deformed: we simply feel general fatigue, loss of strength, and we need a night’s sleep to restore our energy.

Such random deformations received during the day are not yet a disease, but if they become stable, then in the area of ​​​​violation of energy harmony a person begins to experience a certain discomfort.

Thanks to topological diagnostics, it is possible to characterize the consequences and identify the degree of influence of evil on the human protective shell. The thing is that the emotions of irritation, envy, anger and others excite strong energy vibrations around the source of these emotions.

And if a person in this state concentrates his anger on this, this vibration is capable of piercing or pushing through the biofield shell of the victim even in the case when any chakra is energetically completely normal, and the field of the organ subordinate to it is deformed, therefore it can be argued that the blow was struck from the outside.

You can often come across the belief that only those people who share a belief system with the attacker are susceptible to mental attacks. This could be a belief in the “evil eye,” spells and curses, magic, ultra-subtle energies, astral bodies, spirits, telepathy, negative energies, radiant forms, etc. Probably all this really weakens our resistance to such actions.

The belief that a given phenomenon does not exist can sometimes be very good remedy protection. However, since we are talking about little-known phenomena, we cannot “build” our defense only on the fact of disbelief.

It can always happen that the force of influence of the person trying to harm us will be stronger. Such a person can “bring to light” our phobias. For example, it can restore in our minds the feeling of guilt or low self-esteem instilled in us in early childhood.

At the same time, the “aggressor” may try to impose on us the “only possible way” of solving our imaginary problems. There may even be a way in which it is possible to reconstruct the primitive and archaic belief system that continues to exist in our subconscious (despite the millennia that separate the present from the past).

Thanks to altered states of consciousness, it was proven that the fear of big cats and snakes still sits in the subconscious of the Eskimos - residents of the distant and cold North, who for many generations have not had the opportunity to encounter these animals and feel threatened by them. But despite this, the fear sitting in the corners of their minds has survived to this day.

Now we'll move on to learning some mental defense techniques.

If you are afraid that you may become the object of someone's attempts at negative influence, first of all, change your environment. If you feel bad in a given place, leave it.

Go for a walk, preferably in the lap of nature. Perform several physical exercises, this could be fast walking, running, free dance, during which you can perform movements that would free you from invisible shackles, from someone else’s skin stretched over you.

Eat something tasty - something you like, it’s good if it’s spicy or sour. You can take a cold or hot shower, imagine that the flowing water cleanses you and protects you from all negative influences.

In situations of such threat, shift your attention from the fear of negative impact to something else. Concentrate on your new job or the task assigned to you. Do something that interests you and attracts you, that usually completely absorbs you.

Another way to protect yourself is to set yourself up to disbelieve any possibility of a psychic attack. This good method, unfortunately, are a double-edged sword.

On the one hand, it can protect you from a possible attack, but on the other hand, it carries with it a certain danger. If you persistently tell yourself that parapsychological techniques are ineffective, you yourself will block the possibility of achieving success in this area.

Since many attempts negative influence consist of energetic influence, we will create the appropriate protection - at the energetic level. On occasion we will also develop our visualization abilities.

Parapsychology. Exercise

Become free. (...) Stretch your arms forward, place your palms at an angle of 90 degrees relative to your forearm. Focus on the center of your palm. (...) Imagine a point located in this place. (...) Feel her presence. (...)

Feel and become aware of the space that is between your body and this point. (...) Imagine that your palms begin to glow with white-golden energy (...). Slowly draw your palms into a circle around your body, at shoulder height.

The radiant energy begins to create a light circle around your body. (...) Lower your palms along your body, stretch the radiant energy with outstretched arms from your feet, along your body, to a point above your head. Fill the cocoon formed in this way with the energy of the golden white.

Feel the positive energy vibrating and shining around you. (...) A cocoon of energy surrounds you on all sides. It is located around your body, above your head and under your feet. (...)

You are completely safe in this cocoon; no negative energy has access to you. Any negative energy will be reflected from your protective cocoon. Only positive energy surrounds you. (...)

Take a deep breath, imagine the number "5" and “exhale” it from your lungs. (...) Every time you need protection, it will be enough to provide a figure "5" and exhale it from your lungs - and the cocoon will surround you with a dense barrier. (...)

Do this exercise many times. As you acquire skills, the effectiveness of your defense will increase. Over time, it will be enough for you to imagine only the number "5" , and the energy protection you created will itself appear around the body.

Despite this, it is necessary that you update your cocoon from time to time and perform all the actions associated with creation. Remember that, like any energy, your protection gradually fades away, and after some time you will have to create it again.

It is very important that during the creation of a protective cocoon you realize that this energy barrier protects you from the effects of negative energy, while simultaneously allowing any positive vibrations to pass through.

If a completely impenetrable cocoon were formed, then after a while you would begin to “suffocate” in it. To exist we must be able to energy metabolism with our environment and other creatures. It is up to us to choose at what level and with whom we will conduct energy exchange.

Other defense techniques include visualizing mirrors to reflect someone's influence and energy, and building walls to separate us from potential threats. These techniques are especially helpful when dealing directly with a person who is trying to influence us in a negative way.

We are confident that, using the experience gained from visualizing a cocoon, you yourself will be able to perform the corresponding exercises with visualizing a wall or reflecting mirrors. Remember that such impenetrable barriers must then be “dismantled” so that you do not remain cut off from the world for too long.

Parapsychology. Exercise

Work through and complete the exercise on your own with building a wall and installing mirrors that protect you mentally. Try to make your visualization as detailed as possible, with all sorts of features. Use all channels of sensations for this.

Now we will make some small changes to our protective cocoon and perform several versions of the previous exercise.

Parapsychology.Exercise

Follow the introductory procedure, say a protective affirmation.

Create your own protective cocoon. (...)

Imagine that your cocoon is filled with red light, (...) move it in a circular motion to the left, (...) feel how the cocoon rotates around your axis, passing from your feet through your spine to the top of your head. (...)

Imagine your cocoon filled with orange energy and move it in a circular motion to the left. (...) Similarly, set in motion yellow, (...) green, (...) blue, (...) indigo, (...) violet energy. (...) Now bring into simultaneous movement the energies of all colors. (...)

During their connection, a common white energy arises. Feel how it rotates around you - slowly, evenly. (...) A cocoon of energy surrounds you from all sides.

It is around your body, above your head, under your feet. (...) You are completely safe in it, no negative energy has access to you. All negative vibrations are reflected from your cocoon. Only positive energies have access to you.

Now, thanks to rotation, your defense has become more effective.

Take a deep breath, holding the air in your lungs, imagine the number “5”. Now “exhale” it from your lungs. (...) Every time you need protection, it will be enough to imagine the number “5” and exhale it from your lungs - and the rotating cocoon will surround you with a dense barrier. (...)

Parapsychology. Exercise

Work through the next version of the exercise suggested above and do it yourself.

Draw the axis of rotation of energy (in a counterclockwise direction) parallel to the plane of the earth, it passes through your center of gravity, which is located 2-3 centimeters below the navel.

Now we'll move on to visualizing the two most effective versions of protective cocoons.

Parapsychology. Exercise

Follow the introductory procedure, say a protective affirmation. Create your permanent protective cocoon of multi-colored energy. (...)

Imagine that the colored energy you created begins to rotate and flows through your feet into your body, surrounding it on all sides. After this, it flows back into your feet to rise up your body again. (...)

You are completely safe in your spinning cocoon, no negative energy has access to you. All negative vibrations are repelled from your cocoon. Only positive energies have access to you. Now, thanks to rotation, your defense has become more effective.

Take a deep breath and imagine the number "5". Now “exhale” it from your lungs (...) Every time you need protection, it will be enough to imagine the number “5” and exhale it from your lungs - and the rotating cocoon will surround you with a dense barrier. (...)

Parapsychology. Exercise

Work through and complete the following version of the exercise yourself. Make changes in the movement of energy. When it flows above your head from your body, rotate it around the vertical axis of your body.

You have been introduced to four options for creating a rotating protective cocoon. Try to practice creating them all. The one that works best will become a model for you. Try to use it always.

different, very good way mental protection lies in absolute concentration on magical objects, such as amulets, medallions, objects of worship - especially if they were performed according to all the rules, and the power was skillfully contained in them.

Concentrating attention and energy on a given subject will not allow us to succumb to someone else's suggestion and submit to someone else's energy. If we are associated with some religion or denomination, then through prayer and visualization we can ask for protection from the corresponding forces and spiritual beings, for example, saints, Spiritual Guardians of a given path of development.

Through prayer, we can appropriately communicate to them the problem that concerns us and the difficulties that lie in our way. The stronger our faith and practice, the more sincere we are, the stronger the protection we will receive.

Although this may seem paradoxical, our psyche functions like the energetic world. To receive something, we must first believe in it. This condition also applies in the case of a request for protection, etc.

Most effective form defense is a clear conscience and pure intentions, a sense of innocence. The person who wants to attack us mentally, we must FORGIVE with all my heart. We don't know this person's life path.

We don’t know what persuaded him to take such actions. We are unable to objectively evaluate his life, and, in the end, no one gave us the right to do so. We must not only forgive him, but also mentally ask him for forgiveness. After all, maybe, by chance, by our behavior we provoked him to attack.

At the same time, we must be aware that our behavior, which is extremely noble, can lead to the negative energy of the attacker being turned against him. According to the laws of nature, everything that is energetically “released” by us into space returns to us in a state enhanced many times over.

Many people have difficulty noticing this pattern. This happens because the Universe's response to our actions can return to us even after many years.

We use mental defense not only to protect against mental or energetic attacks, but also against threats in the physical world.

Now we will introduce you to the technology that came from Hawaii. There she is taught by Kaguns - the so-called Guardians of the Secret - priests, magicians, healers and psychologists at the same time. You will learn to harness the energy coming from your Highest Self to protect yourself and others.

First, let's look at an example of how this technique works.

EXAMPLE

At a certain place, two women who were successful in spiritual practice took part in meditation. Suddenly a drunk man came in and grabbed a chair to smash everything into pieces. The women uttered a protective formula in their thoughts. At that moment, the man seemed to suddenly sober up, came to his senses, put the chair in place and said: “Forgive me, it seems I behaved unworthily.” And he left.

Parapsychology. Exercise

Take a few deep breaths in and out. (...) Imagine that above your head hangs a huge ball of white-golden energy, which is radiated by the Highest Self - the Supreme Being.

Take a deep breath and as you exhale say out loud or in your thoughts:

"The wonderful Light of Kindness is upon me." (...) Imagine how white energy slowly flows down your body, surrounding it on all sides. (...) Now you are in complete mental and physical safety - in the energy “enveloping” you from all sides. (...)

Take a deep breath and as you exhale say out loud or in your thoughts: “The wonderful Light of Kindness is upon You.” Imagine how white energy slowly flows down onto the person you want to surround with protection or from whom you expect danger.

Now you and the person you protect are in complete physical and mental safety, immersed in the energy enveloping you. (...)

Always remember to surround yourself with protective energy first and then the other person. The distance separating us doesn't matter. The person we want to help may be either near us or on another continent.

Neither time nor space can limit energy. Over time, when you acquire the necessary skills, it will not be necessary to imagine energy. This will happen automatically; it will be enough just to say the words of the protective formula.

To enhance the impact of this exercise, you can “multiply” the impact of white-golden energy in your thoughts. To do this, when completing the pronouncement of the formula, add: “one”.

In place of the ellipsis, say any number. Don't think about how this mechanism works. Your subconscious will be freed from such a task.

This technique can be used when a child does not return home at the agreed time or when someone close to you goes on a trip. Remember! The power of this technique increases as your abilities in visualization, concentration and energy work develop.

It will also depend on your faith in it and your practical skills. Use this method only for serious purposes, in situations where you (or someone else) really need protection.

Do not play with it, because then you will weaken its effectiveness and the power of its impact. Your subconscious may later, in a difficult moment, not distinguish whether you are joking or really need help.

As a rule, people who live predominantly

emotions identified with their vital “shell”; mental

As a rule, people who live primarily by intellect are attacked,

identified with their mental "shell".

Mental attacks are not a frequent occurrence, since an inducer capable of

to carry out such an attack must combine many already rare

quality. In this case, the mental shell is directly attacked, in

bypassing the energetic and vital. This type of attack is not designed to

to cause "bad thoughts" in the recipient ("bad thoughts" arise in

as a result of a vital attack), but in order to confuse him, to shake him

pillars of his belief system, to destroy the stereotypes of seeing the world, in short,

activate the inherent ability of the intellect to doubt everything, including

their own conclusions, principles and reasons.

Since one can really doubt everything, against such an attack

Only those mental guidelines that are strengthened in more

deep, non-mental layers of the psyche. If you try to look more broadly, then

a mental attack can turn out to be a blessing, because as a result it sweeps away

all random formations and all i's are dotted. After all, what "foundations"

trembled and dissipated like fog, revealing their illusory nature, you can

be regarded not only as a fiasco in life, but also as an awakening from sleep, as

the guarantee of future wakefulness. Often the initial phases of such awakening and

are taken for "mental attack" or "mental disorder".

Waking up isn't always easy.

When the "metal frame" of old landmarks dissolves into emptiness, a person

ends up in the so-called "no man's land". Off-road reigns here: old

landmarks have disappeared, but new ones have not yet appeared. A space without support

extremely uncomfortable for the intellect; throwing the intellect in search of support is inevitable

reflected on the emotional state of a person, and through it on the general

psychophysiological tone. If a person panics in this situation, he

can really get lost in the vastness of "no man's land" and become a victim

mental breakdown.

It must be said, however, that the mentality is incapable of maintaining

amorphous state, and soon the process of “natural

crystallization." The formation of a new "mental frame" can proceed in two ways

paths, and it is in the power of a person to CHOOSE these paths:

1/ A person can choose to return (“abortion”, as they say in esoteric

circles), as a result of which the “crystallization” will follow the lines of the discredited

yourself of the old "frame". This is an easier path, but it will achieve its former strength

fails and the “framework” remains in disrepair.

2/ A person may choose a more difficult path, deciding that it is better to die standing than

live on your knees. This is the path of the so-called "second birth", and it does not

guarantees: but only on it can one find a new, more perfect “framework”. He

every support for the intellect, and which the intellect is so afraid of, having survived the process

formation of a new “mental frame”, a person can grasp the mechanics

disidentification with the mentality and subsequently make “no man’s land” yours

a home - a home that is not afraid of any “mental attacks”.

However, for those who are not disidentified with the intellect, and whose "mental frame"

formed mostly spontaneously, there is nothing left but

consider mental attacks as a “test of strength”, neither

moment without forgetting that “everything that comes into conflict with reason is doomed

to perish and deserve it."