Alina Demeeva

“Our story of acquaintance is banal to the point of indecentness: there were no accidents or mystical coincidences - we were introduced by mutual friends. First there was correspondence on the Internet, then the first meeting followed at the celebration of Catholic Christmas in the club, where we were relaxing with classmates, and then the wonderful time of our relationships - dates, movies, walks around the city, cafes, flowers, gifts. Six months later, I realized that I had truly fallen in love, and how happy I was when I realized that my feelings were mutual. We remember this moment as the beginning of something! A year later, we began to think about it. living together. My husband (at that time he was still just my boyfriend) insisted, but I was categorically against it - my upbringing did not allow it. That's how the idea of ​​a wedding arose. Our parents supported us, and we began to prepare our wedding together.

We have been married for almost 2 years, we have been together for more than 4 years, but we still remember that evening of our first meeting and our feelings and emotions. We often remember our acquaintance and each time our story acquires more and more new details that we were previously embarrassed to tell each other. It turned out that we liked each other at first sight, and although we are very different, we can no longer imagine life without each other. Only when my beloved is nearby, I am calm and incredibly happy. Love helps us to be together in harmony and understanding."

Katerina Lebedko-Pogrebnaya

“The first time I met my now husband was at an acoustic evening dedicated to fans of the work of the group “Spleen”. I sang there, and he came as a guest. Our eyes met and I immediately liked him. However, that evening we never We met. 4 months later, an acoustic evening was held in the same place, this time dedicated to Russian rock, and I was again invited there as a performer. What a surprise I was when I saw Him there again. At the end of the evening we met and talked a little, but things didn’t go further. I left the establishment earlier, and he stayed. Later, I tried to find him on social networks, but, unfortunately, nothing worked out for me. After about a month, we completely. We met by chance in another place. That’s when I realized that it was fate! It happened like this: somewhere in mid-March, my friend and I agreed to meet at a bar, I came to the bar before my friend, ordered a cocktail and in. stood waiting at the bar. And suddenly He passes by! I was a little confused and continued to stand near the bar. Suddenly, someone lightly tapped me on the shoulder from behind, I turned around and saw my future husband. He was no less surprised to see me and decided to come over and say hello. We got to talking, and it turned out that he had come to a “corporate party” with his colleagues. The most amazing thing is that he came to that bar for the first time, while I was a regular customer of this establishment. That evening we exchanged phone numbers. He called me 2 days later, and from that call our romance began. And a year and a half later we got married."

Zhazira Zharbulova

“My husband and I met in a cafe on August 30, 2008. I often went there with a friend, and he, as it turned out later, had lived nearby all his life. That same day he gave me a ride home, and I understood everything. I realized that he is the one. The next day he invited me on a date, and the next day, on September 1, he left for Russia to continue his studies at the military academy. At that time I lived from call to call, from SMS to SMS. 2 times a year – for summer holidays and on New Year. So two years passed. After graduation, to my great joy, he was sent to serve in Almaty. But, as it turned out, I was happy early. He disappeared from work for days. We even broke up because of this a couple of times. So another 2 years passed. And in the 5th year we finally decided that it was time to decide something. I told him that if we don't get married by September 30, 2013, we will have to separate. After all, I was already 25 years old and, as is customary in our society, it was time to think about a family. As a result, in January 2013 they put earrings on me according to Kazakh custom, in July of the same year I was betrothed, in August they first held an “uzata”, a traditional farewell to the bride, and on September 21, 2013 there was a wedding (it turns out that my husband managed to marry me before September 30th). Now we are expecting our baby!"

Tatiana Kudrina

“I sincerely believe that there are no coincidences, and when we meet our person, a certain mysterious voice quietly whispers to us how important this meeting is, urging us not to pass by. You would have to have very serious hearing problems not to pay attention to this voice.:) Apparently, I had such problems, so I did not immediately recognize my happiness and could not even imagine that a banal story of meeting at work could develop into something big. However, let’s talk about everything in order. I was organizing an office move. and my husband was a representative of the contracting company, and, accordingly, initially our conversations with him were based on topics such as the terms of the contract, payment terms and the quality of the services provided. Although, I must admit that I am a little disingenuous, because I really liked him from the first. the same look. In general, when the move was successfully completed, he continued to come to my office under various pretexts, but even then we did not think about anything serious. However, gradually, step by step, we became closer to each other. Finally, we didn’t notice how all the doubts disappeared, and we both realized that we wanted to be together always, all our lives.”

Perhaps these very personal stories will not form the basis of a romantic film, will not touch hearts and will not cause tears of tenderness. However, they will always retain that special magic and warmth, turning into a little fairy tale for each individual family.

Dear readers, how did you first meet your loved ones?

Is it possible to find love on the Internet? Or they don’t register on dating sites serious men which later? Our heroes will help you figure it out. They are ready to share their most intimate things.

1 No dinner

Tatyana, 35 years old

“We met on the app. He seemed to me a charming and intelligent person. A couple of days later they set up a date, which I went to a little later. He greeted me irritated: “You’re a full 5 minutes late!”

While we were walking to the car, she asked what we were going to do. We decided to have dinner. In the car he put his hand on my knee. I was wary.

We drove for a long time. When I asked where the restaurant was, it turned out that he was taking me from Moscow to my native Korolev to try the “most”.

I suggested that he either have dinner in Moscow or let me out of the car. He said he would drop us off at the first stop, but we passed it. He dropped me off only when she threatened to call the police. In general, now I’m more careful about dating on the Internet.”

2 First time

Daria, 32 years old

“I've always had prejudices against dating sites, but cousin I sat on them around the clock and even managed to do it not once, but twice.

After 1.5 years of loneliness, under the strict guidance of my sister, I went to look for happiness on the Internet. At first, strictly perverts were interested in me, but one day a guy who had a bust of Voltaire in the title photo “knocked.”

And we started corresponding: we chatted for hours, and a week later we switched to Skype. We agreed to meet in a cafe. He came with flowers, drank coffee and went to the cinema. And we recently celebrated our second anniversary.”

In general, I chose mine and over the past 4 years I have never regretted it. And now I’m agitating my friends in every possible way: dating sites are really a great opportunity to find a loved one. If it weren’t for the Internet, I would never have met my husband in life.”

Alina Demeeva

“Our story of acquaintance is banal to the point of indecentness: there were no accidents or mystical coincidences - we were introduced by mutual friends. First there was correspondence on the Internet, then the first meeting followed at the celebration of Catholic Christmas in the club, where we were relaxing with classmates, and then the wonderful time of our relationships - dates, movies, walks around the city, cafes, flowers, gifts. Six months later, I realized that I had truly fallen in love, and how happy I was when I realized that my feelings were mutual. We remember this moment as the beginning of something! serious and global. A year later, we already began to think about living together. My husband (at that time he was still just my boyfriend) insisted, but I was categorically against it - my upbringing did not allow it. So the idea of ​​marriage arose, and our parents supported us. We began to prepare our wedding together.

We have been married for almost 2 years, we have been together for more than 4 years, but we still remember that evening of our first meeting and our feelings and emotions. We often remember our acquaintance and each time our story acquires more and more new details that we were previously embarrassed to tell each other. It turned out that we liked each other at first sight, and although we are very different, we can no longer imagine life without each other. Only when my beloved is nearby, I am calm and incredibly happy. Love helps us to be together in harmony and understanding."

Katerina Lebedko-Pogrebnaya

“The first time I met my now husband was at an acoustic evening dedicated to fans of the work of the group “Spleen”. I sang there, and he came as a guest. Our eyes met and I immediately liked him. However, that evening we never We met. 4 months later, an acoustic evening was held in the same place, this time dedicated to Russian rock, and I was again invited there as a performer. What a surprise I was when I saw Him there again. At the end of the evening we met and talked a little, but things didn’t go further. I left the establishment earlier, and he stayed. Later, I tried to find him on social networks, but, unfortunately, nothing worked out for me. After about a month, we completely. We met by chance in another place. That’s when I realized that it was fate! It happened like this: somewhere in mid-March, my friend and I agreed to meet at a bar, I came to the bar before my friend, ordered a cocktail and in. stood waiting at the bar. And suddenly He passes by! I was a little confused and continued to stand near the bar. Suddenly, someone lightly tapped me on the shoulder from behind, I turned around and saw my future husband. He was no less surprised to see me and decided to come over and say hello. We got to talking, and it turned out that he had come to a “corporate party” with his colleagues. The most amazing thing is that he came to that bar for the first time, while I was a regular customer of this establishment. That evening we exchanged phone numbers. He called me 2 days later, and from that call our romance began. And a year and a half later we got married."

Zhazira Zharbulova

“My husband and I met in a cafe on August 30, 2008. I often went there with a friend, and he, as it turned out later, had lived nearby all his life. That same day he gave me a ride home, and I understood everything. I realized that he is the one. The next day he invited me on a date, and the next day, on September 1, he left for Russia to continue his studies at the military academy. At that time I lived from call to call, from SMS to SMS. 2 times a year - on summer holidays and on New Year's Day. So two years passed after graduation, to my great joy, he was sent to serve in Almaty. But, as it turned out, I was happy for him for days at a time. We even broke up a couple of times because of this. So another 2 years passed. And in the 5th year we finally decided that it was time to decide something. I told him that if we don’t get married by September 30, 2013, we will have to. to leave. After all, I was already 25 years old and, as is customary in our society, it was time to think about a family. As a result, in January 2013 they put earrings on me according to Kazakh custom, in July of the same year I was married, and in August they married me first.” Uzatu”, a traditional farewell to the bride, and on September 21, 2013 there was a wedding (it turns out that my husband managed to marry me before September 30). Now we are expecting our baby!"

Tatiana Kudrina

“I sincerely believe that there are no coincidences, and when we meet our person, a certain mysterious voice quietly whispers to us how important this meeting is, urging us not to pass by. You would have to have very serious hearing problems not to pay attention to this voice.:) Apparently, I had such problems, so I did not immediately recognize my happiness and could not even imagine that a banal story of meeting at work could develop into something big. However, let’s talk about everything in order. I was organizing an office move. and my husband was a representative of the contracting company, and, accordingly, initially our conversations with him were based on topics such as the terms of the contract, payment terms and the quality of the services provided. Although, I must admit that I am a little disingenuous, because I really liked him from the first. the same look. In general, when the move was successfully completed, he continued to come to my office under various pretexts, but even then we did not think about anything serious. However, gradually, step by step, we became closer to each other. Finally, we didn’t notice how all the doubts disappeared, and we both realized that we wanted to be together always, all our lives.”

Perhaps these very personal stories will not form the basis of a romantic film, will not touch hearts and will not cause tears of tenderness. However, they will always retain that special magic and warmth, turning into a little fairy tale for each individual family.

Dear readers, how did you first meet your loved ones?

Almost each of us has a similar experience of communication and acquaintance, and we are no exception. Therefore, today our girls decided to talk about their online dating experience. Of course, everyone could have several of them, but we tried to remember either the funniest, or the most unfortunate, or our very, very first acquaintance. After all, it was so long ago, it’s scary to remember, but it’s even more interesting!

Well, are you ready to laugh, remember and be surprised with us? Then welcome, let's begin!

The Internet appeared in my life when I was about 15. For me then it became a good assistant in communicating with people: I was always very shy, had difficulty making new acquaintances, but there were no particular problems with this online. Of course, there were many acquaintances, you can’t remember them all, but I will definitely remember one person for the rest of my life, the story of how I met now I’ll tell you :)

I used to really like the actress Scarlett Johansson, I was a member of one of her VK fan groups, and somehow I saw that one girl (let’s call her Sveta) wrote in a discussion that she had created her own group and invited people there. I joined, added photos to the albums, created several topics to bring some kind of revitalization. Sveta quickly wrote to me, thanked me for my activity and offered to become the second editor of the group, to which I agreed.

Since Sveta and I worked together, it seemed to me that it was worthwhile to communicate a little, and not just intersect in the group. And so gradually I realized that, in addition to Scarlett’s passion, we have a lot of common interests, and from absolutely different areas. What is the probability of meeting a person who is interested in both string theory and Mandelstam’s poetry? So it seems to me that there is none, so I considered meeting Sveta something incredible, I saw in her a kindred spirit, and from her I felt the same attitude towards myself.

Soon we started sending each other real letters and parcels, which is something incredible in our time. In the century virtual communication to receive a living letter, and with it a piece of a person, is priceless. With each line, Sveta became closer to me, and I happily decorated the room with her gifts.

We always dreamed of seeing each other, but we lived not just in different cities, but also in different states, and being a minor did not allow us to make such trips without hindrance. But still, after several years of communication, our dream came true, I came to Svetin city. And you know, it would be better if this never happened.

In life, Sveta turned out to be completely different from what I imagined her to be. She was very quiet and taciturn, I had to start most of the conversations, although I am terribly shy... The awkward silence drove me crazy, I wanted to finish our walk around the city as soon as possible. No, Sveta is not bad, but she turned out to be too similar to me, and it’s hard for me to establish live contact with such people. During my entire stay in Sveta City, we never met again, I didn’t want to, and Sveta herself wasn’t particularly eager. After that meeting, our communication came to naught. We began to exchange exclusively congratulations on holidays, and soon we stopped doing that too...

I will probably remember Sveta forever. She became my first virtual friend, a kindred spirit online... But after the disappointment of a real meeting, I try not to start virtual acquaintances... Or at least not to transfer them offline.

During my youth, online dating was almost the main activity of young people. ICQ, Quips, later VK and Mail RU, all sorts of different sites... But the origins of all this entertainment were phone dating (every operator had such a function on their phone). I don’t remember very well how it all worked, but the fact is that those phones had neither cameras nor the ability to exchange photos, and this foreshadowed a blind acquaintance.

My first attempts to communicate with someone only led to disappointment - someone was rude, someone wrote dirty words, someone was 3 times older (and I was in school then). Gradually, I began to think that it was time to give up on this idea and stop spending money. And then one day a boy from the city of Pushkino burst into my life.

I don’t remember at all what we talked about there, for how long, or for how long. I remember how, after several days of communication, he offered to come to Moscow and see each other. His voice was normal and his behavior was adequate. By that time, I had been traveling to Moscow for a long time to study and this did not pose any obstacle for me. We agreed to meet at the Leningradsky station and then go to the zoo. We also agreed that if I liked him, I would let him kiss him goodbye. And this will be a kind of green light for further communication. And if he doesn’t like me, he won’t kiss me. Everything seems to be clear and transparent.

He was late for the meeting. I started to get angry, because my plans did not include standing on the station square among the homeless and beggars and waiting for someone unknown.

He called when he got off the train and walked toward me, talking to me to make it easier to find me. When I finally saw him from afar, I was seized with animal horror. A man with strange huge eyes was walking towards me, his head was turned to the side, a little in profile or something. He always held her like that, I don’t know if it’s an illness or what. His feet shuffled along the ground, he almost didn’t lift them. One leg raked forward, somehow unnaturally making a semicircle in the air as he took a step. In general, this is exactly what a Hollywood movie maniac looked like in my opinion. STRANGE. A very strange guy.

I didn't know what to do. I couldn’t run away, because that would be completely miserable - we had already seen each other and talked on the phone. Instead of immediately finding an excuse to leave, I decided to behave with dignity and not offend the person. Although I was naturally scared to even be around.

In the end, I somehow managed to endure the trip to the zoo. You, of course, already guess that he did not understand that something was wrong and happily chatted with me about his own things, looking at me with his huge bulging eyes. The topics for conversation were completely flat, I could not support any of them, I assented to something, nodded, looking more at the animals in the cages than at him. It was very painful - I wanted it all to end as quickly as possible, but I couldn’t say “no” right away.

As a result, he walked me to the train and, yes, went in for a kiss. And then the unexpected happened. I was so scared that I couldn't push him away. In general, I couldn’t kiss either, and I didn’t intend to. I just stood in a stupor with my eyes closed and waited for the execution to end. After that, I silently turned around and rushed into the train like a bullet, additionally passing several cars.

This story was supposed to teach me how to say “no” more often and protect my boundaries, but I still can’t say that I have adequately mastered this skill. So, blind dating is just cruel, I don’t recommend it to anyone :)

I have a lot of positive experiences with online dating. Nowadays it is not a problem to simply friend a person whose thoughts or services are close to you or necessary. Exchange a few words, etc. How communication goes from there depends only on you.

I don't consider dating sites to be really useful. Often people come there “just to look” because they believe in their hearts that everyone on the dating site is idiots and losers, prostitutes and ugly people. And then a doubting man comes there, standing there handsome in a white coat, looking around and wincing. It is not surprising that his arrogance is noticeable and unattractive to others. Therefore, if you meet online for the purpose of a relationship, then it is better to do it on a platform that does not cause internal rejection. For example, in comments on VK or Facebook.

I met many of the people I communicate with in real life online. These were Online Games, and public interest groups and even LJ. Everywhere you can find good people. True, on VK there is a high probability of running into trolling, and on FB - a bunch of pretentious conclusions. But these are costs. Filtering is not difficult if necessary.

Previously, I often met guys on the Internet, periodically went on dates, and struck up friendships. I still communicate with someone, for more than five years, but all these stories of acquaintance are so similar to each other that it’s not particularly interesting to tell. However, there is one story that I remember well. It's more like a not very funny joke that happened to me in reality.

I met a nice young man on VKontakte, we immediately found a common language. We corresponded online for days, then started communicating by phone. Almost from the first day we met, he began to invite me for a walk, but I refused. The guy was becoming more and more persistent every day and it scared me a little.

After a few weeks of communication, I agreed to go for a walk with him. We met in the city center and went for a walk along the embankment. It was a warm spring day, I had great mood, which could be ruined by just a few questions: “You don’t work anywhere, do you?” Do you want me to teach you how to make good money? Have you heard anything about *network marketing organization*?”

I was, to put it mildly, shocked by this turn of events. That is, the guy “hustled” me for several weeks to offer to sell cosmetics from the catalog?! I politely refused, but the young man continued to talk about the advantages of the work and that he had achieved unprecedented success in this matter. A couple of minutes later, my friend “unexpectedly” called me and said that she urgently needed my help. I quickly said goodbye and we never saw each other again.

I often think that if the Internet had not been invented, I would have spent my entire life sitting alone in my room. I am a 100% introvert, all these acquaintances in real life, any parties, any companies exhausted me too much, and even the prospect of being completely without friends scared me not as much as the prospect of communicating with a bunch of people.

But online everything was different. I could initiate communication myself at any time convenient for me, I could stop it at any convenient time, and the choice of suitable people was immeasurably greater than in reality. A whole world opened up to me and I could explore it without leaving my room. The ability to be anyone online? Choose your gender, age, name, legend? It's definitely interesting and a great exercise for the mind, but I had enough of me. I just wanted conversations with like-minded people, I wanted to “find my own and calm down.”

The very first acquaintance

“Oh, God, why did I agree!” - sounded in my head when I went to this very, very first meeting. Several times I was ready to turn back and then lie something. And when it comes to planning the next meeting, lie again. Or quietly merge. Or bury yourself in the sand and sit it out. This is a stranger!!! So what if we’ve been corresponding for a long time, what if the real image turns out to be so monstrous that we have to run away shooting back?! It’s strange, but I was always more afraid that I wouldn’t like a person than that he wouldn’t like me. In general, it was easier for me to jump with a parachute than to show up in that cafe and casually say: “Hello, I’m Lisa.”

Everything went very well :) The boy was almost no different from the image I had imagined. Well, adjusted for the sound of the voice, perhaps. All my subsequent million devirtualizations, the trend has hardly changed - I still can’t imagine how it’s possible to find a person when meeting who is 180 degrees different from himself in the virtual world.

The most not good acquaintance

Since I am paranoid, it is impossible to drag me into reality until I have a minimum of confidence in the adequacy of my interlocutor. I won’t tire of repeating that long correspondence is a good guarantee against trash in the form of all sorts of psychos and others bright personalities. Not one hundred percent, but still. I don’t take into account the various kinds of freaks with whom I also managed to become acquainted - “inadequate” in our heads was common.

The system failed only once, but it was more of a funny incident than a terrible one. When we met, one young man confidentially told me that he kept a diary and that I was written in this diary under the name “ray of light.” Brrrrr, what vulgarity! If he had said that he was keeping records of the young ladies he had brutally killed and buried in the forest, I would not have been so shocked. While I was coming to my senses, he managed to discover a penchant for diminutive suffixes in words. The fact is that all this sunshine and cuteness makes me want to vomit rainbows, and sweetness in communication, in my opinion, kills all living things within a kilometer radius around. The bell in my head was ringing like an alarm - WTF! WTF! I still don’t know whether he was an ordinary, depressed “bright little man,” or a psychopath (I later read that they like to lisp), but the impression was more than repulsive. And, most importantly, I didn’t notice anything like that in online communication. Mystery. I hope that later he renamed me “a drop of darkness” or something like that.

Another thing that always discourages me and makes me consider meetings unsuccessful is when a person is silent. Doesn't try to keep the conversation going. Answers questions in monosyllables. He smiles, infectiously, and is silent. And we both quietly go out. Shyness? But it seems to me on the contrary - impudence. This is how I came, entertain me. Jump around. Serve emotionally. I myself am far from a communication genius, but my upbringing never allowed me to behave like that, even if the person was not particularly interesting to me. I admit that I was uninteresting, but why then write on the Internet how bad everything was and try to set up a new meeting? Mystery. Never do this, in a word, otherwise I will come and hit you on the crown with a frying pan.

The most successful acquaintance

This will be the shortest point. For a long time I doubted whether to write here about an acquaintance that ended in marriage (wedding, happiness and all that) if this marriage no longer exists. I was too young for Serious relationships, and he is too stupid for them. We played family for a bit, it was a good time. We met on ICQ based on common musical tastes.

There was also one of my loves, which is no longer there either. There is no love, the person is alive and well. But for a while I was actually happy just because he existed. And this is more luck than not.

I wasn’t very good at building any kind of relationships via the Internet, but making friends, yes. My smartest, most talented, most understanding friends who support me in difficult times are my greatest luck. And not on the scale of online dating, but on the scale of a lifetime.

In fact, there wasn’t very much online dating in my life. How many of them ended in an actual meeting? Wait a minute, let me think. One, two, maximum three. Yes, exactly, and the third was my friend, and not the young man. I don’t know why, but I never had the desire to drag virtual acquaintances into the real world. Of course, I wanted to meet someone, but different cities and countries got in the way; however, that’s a completely different story. In the meantime, I’ll tell you about my very first, not a particularly successful online acquaintance.

I met M. through contact, he was the first to write to me something quite funny, so I immediately wanted to respond, although I usually remain silent about messages from people I don’t know. Correspondence began quite quickly. M. was easy and fun to talk to, we seemed to be on the same wavelength. He started the phrase, I finished it. He joked, I joked back. In general, we were quite interested in each other. And when in another conversation M. suggested having coffee together after study, I didn’t doubt it for a minute. In addition, I had been studying his page for a long time, studying the photos and did not notice anything strange or terrible there.

Standing at the bus stop at the indicated time, I eagerly peered into the eyes of passers-by and looked out for him. M. was about ten minutes late and, as if nothing had happened, came up to me, smiled, and asked routine questions. But from the first minutes the communication went terribly wrong - there was no trace of ease. M. didn’t let me insert even a word into my monologue; he kept telling me about his hobbies. And they turned out to be great - hiking, kayaking, field conditions. He spoke with such enthusiasm about his love for camp cooking, about his like-minded friends tramping through swamps and sleeping in tents at night, that I felt uneasy - I somehow didn’t gravitate towards this kind of leisure time. By the way, he wrote absolutely nothing to me about this hobby of his online, but here he was unstoppable. This bothered me even more throughout the entire walk. Where are the jokes that won me over? Where are the common interests? Huh? But besides all this, there was also a terrible feeling of discomfort - M. turned out to be about a head shorter than me and also twice as thin. By the way, I prudently did not wear heels and at that time I wore size 42 clothes. But next to him I felt like a fat, fat, clumsy elephant. And this feeling was slowly and painfully killing me. I don’t know why I didn’t notice all this from the photographs? Mystery! Fortunately, the torture came to an end and, it seems, we were both happy about it. M. was also not delighted with me and, despite his excessive talkativeness, was a little embarrassed.

We separated. We breathed a sigh of relief. But... M. called again the next day and offered to meet. For what? - I wanted to scream into the phone, but I restrained myself and politely refused. It seems like the end of the story, but somehow it’s not! Living in the same city and having never seen each other before, we suddenly began to cross paths constantly. Wherever I went, M. was there too. And the worst thing is, he looked at me with such a look, as if, at the very least, I had ruined his life. "What did you do to him?" - friends constantly teased. “Yes, we walked down the street once and that’s it!” - I answered angrily and every time it caused a wild fit of laughter. But not for me.

From that time I realized that a real person and an online person are completely different people. They look different, speak differently and behave differently. I had no desire to experiment anymore.

When I was 16 years old, thanks to my friends, I learned about the existence of the Dating Galaxy chat room. The Internet at that time was not yet widespread, but was already slowly gaining momentum, especially on mobile devices, so young people appreciated such mobile applications such as ICQ and chats.

I didn’t have a goal to meet and start a relationship with someone, I just liked communicating with complete strangers. What I liked even more was that people who communicate well in chat also met in real life.

So, while communicating with virtual friends, I met a guy of the same age from my city. We had similar interests, and, of course, we immediately found a common language. At some point, I caught myself that this is the boy I communicate with the most, it is his appearance in the chat that I am waiting for. In general, I was almost in love, so I happily agreed to meet in real life.

But real meeting I was disappointed: from the very first second I realized that all his charm, intelligence and charisma that attracted me in the chat were feigned, and that this guy was an ordinary “show-off”. I just said a nice goodbye and left. We didn’t intersect again in the chat - apparently he didn’t like me either :)

After this meeting, I still hung out in the chat, because one failure doesn’t mean anything. I made new friends, “pulled up” my real ones... In general, “Galaxy” then occupied all of my free time(and not free, however, too). Once there was a large-scale meeting in our city, and I couldn’t miss it. At this meeting - we called them reals - I met many people I liked in person, and that alone was worth coming. There I noticed a guy who was introduced to me as Sergei and called his nickname. “Oh, this one...” I thought. Yes, I have already heard about him several times, exclusively from girls who really liked him. Such popular personalities were somehow not my thing, so I forgot to think about him.

But a week later it happened new meeting, for a very narrow circle of people. And it so happened that Sergei ended up there again. Then I took a closer look at him and found myself completely fascinated by him. Having already left the “real world”, I told my friend: “Oh, Dasha, I’m a fool! I think I’ve fallen in love.” But when do you fall in love, if not at 16? Maybe this story would have remained just another fleeting love, but that same evening Sergei wrote to me. Then communication, meetings, relationships began... But that's a completely different story :)

Now we are married and our daughter is growing up. Several times we met acquaintances from the “galactic” past, and you cannot imagine with what eyes they looked at us. Well, of course: they predicted only a couple of months for us, but several years have already passed. We stopped sitting in "Galaktika" almost immediately, because she had already given us the most important thing - each other.

About 12-13 years ago, the Internet was not yet so developed and the first online dating for me was SMS dating. True, the goal was somewhat different - entertainment. We have best friend there was a legend that we were twin sisters. This is how we introduced ourselves on behalf of the sisters, immediately indicating that there were two of us. The boy always had a friend on the other end of the line and after some time of communication we were offered to meet. We enthusiastically agreed. Here I must say that I am a blonde, 165 cm tall (my friend affectionately calls me “my beloved gnome”), she is a stately brunette, 180 cm tall. dad. We met the same people a couple of times, and, having completely turned our heads, disappeared without a trace.

And only then there were acquaintances in ICQ, in chat rooms and on websites. Just like 10 years ago, I still have some kind of internal denial or barrier towards dating sites. Gradually, communication moved from the website to the phone, but as soon as I was offered a meeting, I found 1000 and 1 reasons to refuse.

Let me pick you up at the university, am I nearby?

Sorry, the pairs are already over. I was scribbling from a lecture.

Hello, I'm at your metro station. Shall we have some coffee?

Sorry, I can’t do it, I need to check on the neighbor’s hamster.

The exception happened only once. No longer a schoolgirl, but not yet a student, I met a second-year student from my department at a school. A conversation began, and one day during my studies I complained about problems with descriptive geometry. We met, my drawings were taken from me and after a while they were returned to finished form. We formed a good friendship throughout our university years. And I think this happened because none of us initially claimed each other.

I’m not one of those people whose online dating stories ended happily with a wedding, but I also have something to remember and smile at these memories.

It seems that the first “experience” of dating in virtual reality happened when I was 14-15 years old: it’s scary to think how young I was. At that time, even ICQ was not yet popular, but various forums where you could “hang out” were very popular. Of course, all this was for fun, and not for real dating - we didn’t miss an extra reason to laugh with our girlfriend. I remember that I quickly came across a man with unambiguous interests, and for this reason the “fun” quickly ended - I was not ready for all the dangers that the huge world of the Internet concealed.)))

But in the heyday of “asical” dating, I had the time of my life - as an introvert and a great shy person, it was much easier for me to meet people online and then continue communicating in reality. I would like to say that I found real friends there, with whom I still communicate, but, unfortunately, this is not the case. Meet really good and interesting people there were a lot, but it so happened that life took us to different shores.

Not without love stories: after a long conversation with one young man, we finally decided to exchange photos and phone numbers. I sent the photo first, after which they immediately wanted to continue closer communication with me, but after I saw the “groom” I... instantly disappeared from all radars.))) But he didn’t give me the phone number that he still had I just “go off into the sunset”: he called me all day long, without giving the phone a break, and I, the fool, of course, didn’t answer. Everything would have been fine if his attempts had not continued for a whole six months - over time, less and less, but at least once a week, he would definitely call (maybe he already had such a ritual?) Now it’s funny to remember, but then it seemed like a real problem .

Now I would like to say that after all, it was a particularly wonderful time, when it was possible to simply, without unnecessary problems, meet an interesting person, but now I would not be able to do that.

From the editor (Fleur): In fact, there are much more such acquaintances. Despite the fact that many people don’t believe in virtual love and friendship, this is the only way to get acquainted. There are different stories - funny, stupid and sad, romantic and ridiculous. But they are all united by virtual space. It’s easier there than in life - you have time to think about the answer, embellish, lie, ignore the message when the mood is at zero. And it’s also easier to disappear without explanation. Many people say that virtual networks have taken over everything and therefore, where else can you look for your soul mate and even friends. Many agree with the first part, but draw a different conclusion - sincerity remains only in the real world. You can argue endlessly. I agree with one thing: if you set out to get to know each other, you will get to know each other. True, then it will be necessary to deal with all this, but this is a second matter. Secondary.

Today we shared with you the stories of our acquaintances, and you, in turn, tell us examples of your online acquaintances. What did you remember, what surprised you? And do you believe that online relationships can become very real and real?

Just let's be honest with each other. There is no need to lie - everyone is here today.

Do you think online love is a myth or reality? Is it possible to find your happiness by completely trusting to a stranger? And what do you need to do to find that fabulous one? love online"? Perhaps you should frantically register on dating sites? Sitting on various forums for days? Or maybe just let go of the situation and communicate with interesting people on social networks with ordinary ease?

Be that as it may, today we are all connected to communication on the Internet. It is there that we find important news of the passing day, weather forecast, current news famous brands and much more. The World Wide Web helps us in everything! Every day we turn to her for help: someone is looking for useful information, some reliable friends, and some their true love, which could take them into the world of romantic dreams and pleasant expectations. And let the avid skeptics say that finding a sublime feeling on the Internet is complete absurdity. The main thing is to believe, to be sincere, and not to split hairs. After all, many couples managed to find their happiness. They took a chance and got their “love prize”, are you ready?

Andrey and Anya . Love online: “Hello, I’m your Anya”

“Andrey and I met on one of the forums, where I was trying to figure out a brand new camera and its capabilities. I found communication with him easy and entertaining. Having exchanged Skype accounts, communication became closer and more intriguing. At first there was ordinary correspondence, one might even say studying each other, but the further it went, the more interesting it became... At some point it even seemed to me that Andrei was trying to “stick me together”. He kept telling me how good he was, how successful he was, and so on. But at the same time, he did not forget about me, he was interested in my hobbies, work, even what school subjects I liked most. Our online communication lasted for long hours. And one day Andryusha suggested calling me. The video call became a real stress for me, I was very worried - will he like me? And he behaved absolutely at ease, even a little strange... For some reason, he walked around the apartment with his laptop, talking in detail about his home and what kind of furniture he preferred. To be honest, I considered it a kind of boasting, but the interest in him still became more and more. Having shared the results of our video meeting with my friends, they almost unanimously said that he was, to put it mildly, strange and that I should stop this communication so as not to get into an unpleasant situation. After all love online may be dangerous. I don’t know why, but I couldn’t do this.

One day I found out that I was going on a business trip to the city where Andrei lived. I pulled myself together and asked for his address. I thought I’d show up to him unexpectedly and say: “Hello, I’m your Anya.” Although, to be honest, I don’t know what I was thinking about then. But one thing I can say for sure: I’m glad that everything happened this way. Our meeting did take place and since then we have been together for 3 years. Andryusha is a very close and dear person to me! It’s scary to think how everything would have turned out if I hadn’t bought that camera or if I had ended up on another forum... By the way, after a while I asked him why he was rushing around the apartment with a laptop during the first call? To which he laughed it off and said that he was simply preparing me for a future together. After all, today we live in his apartment.”

Lena and Maxim. Love online: “Hundreds of toads and one prince”

“Having been burned many times in real life romance novels, one day I thought that it was time to change something in life. After reading articles about dating on the Internet, which helped many women plunge into the world of a real fairy tale, I decided: love online- this is for me! Then there were actions - hundreds of profiles on various dating sites, intriguing letters and dozens of hours spent online. I was sure that my prince was waiting for me somewhere there. But to my great disappointment and regret, everything was wrong and everything was wrong. Some were boring, others were ugly, others were too arrogant. I even went on dates several times to make sure that this “husband candidate” was not for me at all. I spent almost six months like this, no less. I hoped, believed and continued to get acquainted...

However, time passed, and hope became less and less. One day I decided that I had had enough of these profiles and photographs - I was returning to the real world! And as soon as I made this significant decision, he appeared... Maxim was ordinary and at the same time very interesting. According to the profile, he was not arrogant, without any bad habits, and in the photo he looked very good. It’s just that I’ve already decided that love online long ago in the past. And then it dawned on me: I was there, I wasn’t – I’ll try again! What if it’s him, the one and only. And so it turned out. Max won me over with his charisma! He was attentive, courageous, reliable. I went on one date with him and stayed with him for the rest of my life! Now I call him my prince! Indeed, how many “toads” have I “kissed” to find my ideal happiness!”

Nastya and Sasha. Love online: “Lasagna, against cutlets”

Communication took place in a pleasant, one might even say friendly, atmosphere. Until He showed up. A certain user with the nickname Alex2310 noted with particular causticism that my knowledge of Italian cuisine does not at all make me a super cook and that it would be better for me to think about ordinary people and clearly state the recipe for preparing ordinary homemade cutlets. All forum visitors literally attacked Alex2310. I, despite the offense, tried to ignore such comments, allowing myself to write to him in a personal message, so that he would bother to buy himself a book called “Cooking for Dummies” and leave him alone normal people. Which, of course, didn't happen.

It was with this ridiculous situation that our “ love online" At first we argued a lot, then he apologized for a long time, after which we just started texting. As it turned out, the user Alex2310’s name was Sasha, and he had recently broken up with his girlfriend, after which he suddenly discovered that he was not at all good at cooking. I came to the culinary forum to find out at least a few simple recipes that will help brighten up his bachelor days. And here I am with my lasagna and bechamel sauce! So he lost it.

Over time love online smoothly flowed into first dates, walks, meetings. He turned out to be a very friendly and tactful young man, something I would never have thought of at the time we met. About a year ago we got married. Today Sasha is making great progress in the “school of young cooks”, practicing with me at the stove. Who knows, maybe someday climbing will be up to him.”

Roma and Alina. Love online: “Meeting in 5 years”

“Roma and I’s story can be called quite banal: we met in one of the chat rooms, started communicating, exchanged photos, fell in love, met, got married! But if it weren’t for one nuance - the correspondence lasted for 5 whole years!

So, I was an ordinary provincial girl, and he was a student in the capital. Almost immediately we replaced chat with email. Personal communication with Roma seemed like some kind of incredible miracle to me. Every day I waited for his letters. If there were no new ones, I re-read the old ones. Now I understand that I was obsessed with this guy! No one could replace him for me: “Hello! How was your day?" But I didn’t dare tell him about my feelings. I thought that for him I was just a friend and for love relationship he chooses girls from a different circle. But one day something happened that changed my whole life. In one of his letters, Roma wrote to me that he was in love and wanted to meet. At that moment, it seemed to me that this was real happiness in its purest manifestation! It just so happened that we were not able to meet for almost a year. However, the feelings did not go away. After all, we have begun the real love online! It was our romance and tenderness.

Having met after 5 years of communicating online, we 100% realized that we were made for each other. They didn’t hesitate to get married and got married 3 months after the meeting. Perhaps there will be those who will say that this was a rash and risky act. After all, the image of a person on the Internet does not always correspond to the picture in reality. But all this is complete nonsense! We have been married for almost 3 years, in total I have known Roma for more than 8 years, and believe me, I live with exactly the person who once wrote to me: “Hello” in one of the ordinary chats.”

Love online: summing up

As you can see, love online- this is not fiction, but the real story of our heroines. Many couples on their own personal experience proved that sometimes modern Internet capabilities help reunite two kindred souls, two loving hearts. Yes, it can be frustrating sometimes, but doesn't that happen in real life? There is only one thing to remember here: close relationships always require hard work. You may have to take risks in some places and forgive in others, but in the end you will get the happiness you so deserve.

And let it now love online– this is just platonic communication at a distance. Who knows, maybe the very near future will be able to give lovers the effect of the presence of a loved one, a long-awaited hug or a tender kiss thousands of kilometers away from each other.